Age differences?

[Sunstone]

What do you think of a much older person marrying a much younger person? Is love possible between the couple? Should they be lined up against a brick wall and shot for their romantic folly? What are their chances? Is a fifteen year difference between a couple too much? What about a 25 year difference?

 

[SoulTYPE]

Personaly I do not see anything wrong with this as long as the two are sharing TRUE feelings and nort some cheap Drew Barrymore wedding where they wed for $.

 

[No*s]

Can we really make such general assertions? After all, a lot of this will change with the individuals.

 

[Lightkeeper]

I agree with No*s it depends on the couple.

 

[Sunstone]

Can we really make such general assertions? After all, a lot of this will change with the individuals.

Perhaps there is some point at which age becomes so important that it out weights other factors? That's a genuine question. I myself don't have a clue how to answer it.

 

[The Voice of Reason]

My wife is 11 years younger than I am. I hope you don't just scale down the punishment and beat me across the shins with a baseball bat or something.

Thanks,
TVOR

 

[fromthe heart]

What do you think of a much older person marrying a much younger person? Is love possible between the couple? Should they be line up against a way and shot for romantic folly? What are their chances? Is a fifteen year difference between a couple too much? What about a 25 year difference?

I think it mostly comes down to the age of the two to begin with and their ability to recognize real relationship qualities. With age comes wisdom..as in not teens verses 30something...I think the older some people get the less are left in their age group and they connect sometimes with someone of a much younger age...and I don't mean gold-diggers...I mean in a true loving relationship.

It really is a personal decission...shot? no cautioned if they are too young getting into this.

 

[Mister Emu]

My wife is 11 years younger than I am. I hope you don't just scale down the punishment and beat me across the shins with a baseball bat or something.

Sorry Voice, 10 years would have been fine, we at the Agency for Punishment of Age Differentiated Marriages are now in counsel to decide just what the punishment will be, your bat to the shins suggestion will be considered. Thank you for the input.

If two mentally and emotionally mature and stable people love each other, go for it.

 

[Sunstone]

It seems no one here is opposed to age differences between couples just so long as genuine love is involved. Is everyone a hopeless romantic, then? Does no one oppose great differences in age?

I myself am uncertain about the topic. It came up last night when I and a friend were hanging out together. She's remarkably younger than me. At some point in the evening she said, "I should have married you when I had the chance." That rather startled me. In the first place, I didn't know what she was talking about (when, if ever, did we have a chance to get married?), and in the second place, I had always assumed that our differences in age prohibited our relationship from being anything other than platonic. But now her comment last night has me thinking about it.

So, this is a real question for me. Are you so sure that age makes no difference?

 

[Mister Emu]

Are you so sure that age makes no difference?

Yes. I am sure.

 

[No*s]

It seems no one here is opposed to age differences between couples just so long as genuine love is involved. Is everyone a hopeless romantic, then? Does no one oppose great differences in age?

No. I'm not much of a romantic. In fact, I've dated a grand total of one time, partially because I'm rather reserved when it comes to romance. Reserved is a drastic understatement, actually. I wouldn't even consider someone for myself who's more than five years older/younger than me.

When I talk about general rules, not rules for myself, I am much more reticent to make a dictation of "don't do this," because the other lives aren't my life. So you won't often hear me make a decleration like that. If the two people are adults, and they've talked to their priest(s) or leaders (assuming they have them), then it's their business not mine.

I myself am uncertain about the topic. It came up last night when I and a friend were hanging out together. She's remarkably younger than me. At some point in the evening she said, "I should have married you when I had the chance." That rather startled me. In the first place, I didn't know what she was talking about (when, if ever, did we have a chance to get married?), and in the second place, I had always assumed that our differences in age prohibited our relationship from being anything other than platonic. But now her comment last night has me thinking about it.

So, this is a real question for me. Are you so sure that age makes no difference?

I can understand how that is an important question for you, and I wish I had an answer for you, but I have no way to even begin providing one...

 

[Jaymes]

Once you get out of the mental-teen years (I say 'mental' because I know a few thirty year olds who still haven't moved out of it), age shouldn't matter.

 

[The Voice of Reason]

Sorry Voice, 10 years would have been fine, we at the Agency for Punishment of Age Differentiated Marriages are now in counsel to decide just what the punishment will be, your bat to the shins suggestion will be considered. Thank you for the input.
If two mentally and emotionally mature and stable people love each other, go for it.

Dang it!! I knew I should have suggested the "kiss him 'til he passes out" torture. Dang!

I agree with my Ratite friend - as long as the two individuals are emotionally mature, age is absolutely immaterial.

Thanks,
TVOR

 

[Quoth The Raven]

Well, my other half is 9 years older than me, and I can't see any problem with it.

 

[The Voice of Reason]

The French say that when a man is looking for a woman to date, the man should be twice her age, plus seven years. That means I am looking for a twenty year old woman - that likes a man with a broken down body and a receding hairline. Any takers?

Part of this is based on the fact that women tend to be much more mature than men at younger ages.

TVOR

 

[Quoth The Raven]

The French say that when a man is looking for a woman to date, the man should be twice her age, plus seven years. That means I am looking for a twenty year old woman - that likes a man with a broken down body and a receding hairline. Any takers?

Part of this is based on the fact that women tend to be much more mature than men at younger ages.

TVOR

It's not that women are more mature, it's that men stop maturing around 15 or so .

 

[Sunstone]

It's not that women are more mature, it's that men stop maturing around 15 or so .

I could feel the heat of that one all the way to Colorado, and despite that it's snowing outside.

 

[cardero]

I personally do not have any objections to older person/younger person coupling. I have been on both ends of the spectrum. I have been the younger man (about 15 years younger) to the elder woman and I have been the older man (about 15 years older) to the young woman. Keep in mind these are just observations based on my personal experience and do not reflect everyone.

OLDER WOMAN/ YOUNGER ME

Older women usually have more life experience and do not mind sharing it with a younger man. This has its pros and cons.

Your youthfulness is contagious. They believe you are the bee’s knees.

Older does not automatically equal wisdom and maturity.

Older women usually over 40 admit to having more of a sexual drive.

YOUNGER WOMAN/ OLDER ME

When you introduce your partner to all your older friends they do not mind telling you how envious they are of you.

Younger woman feel more secure with an older man (so I have been told).

Younger women do not necessarily equal irresponsibility or immaturity.

Deep, philosophical discussions about the subjective realism of Sid and Marty Krofft’s H.R. Puffenstuff and the impression it makes on the youthful subconscious is simply out of the question. This is a point of reminiscence with mrscarrdero and I. Every time I say “Do you remember…”, I have to stop and think if she was even existing in the physical plane at the moment that I am about to reference. If it turns out she was too young to remember it goes on the pile of things to watch for our evening TV time.

 

[jewscout]

Me and rachel have about a 4 year difference in age...now that may not seem like alot but let me put it this way...we both went to the same high school...but...the year i graduated from high school she was graduating from middle school:areyoucra

Everytime i think about that it makes me feel like a dirty old man

 

[mrscardero]

Carrdero and I have about 13 years difference and I am the younger one.
I have learned a lot and still learning from carrdero about the "back in the day".
I mean...who knew that Frank Zappa was one of the greatest guitarist

And Oingo Boingo?!?!?!

I have learned so much about the different types of music out there...
umongst other things. Not that some of them my age have no knowledge about the "back in the day".