Excellent thread! Thanks for this!
Two thoughts. First, I think we should be realistic -- rather than idealistic -- about anger. Everyone gets angry at times, and everyone at times lashes out. So, I think we need to cut people a little slack in the sense we should not demonize those who lash out any more than we should demonize each other. At the same time, I think our society and democracy would benefit greatly if we could ratchet down lashing out to the point it was the exception, rather than the new norm.
Second, I think most of us can do very little to change things unless we are willing to become activists. You or me being nicer to people is going to have almost zero effect on our country if the president, a significant portion of the news and opinion media, and virtually all of the social media are hotbeds for lashing out, demonizing others, etc. Think of it this way, in your best week, you might come into meaningful contact with two or three score people who you can do something to calm them down. But during the same period, a prominent news anchor with an axe to grind can incite tens of millions of people to anger. What is really needed here is not isolated individuals trying their best to control their tongues, but collective action. Want to have an effect on, say, Tucker Carlson? Use the internet to organize a campaign targeted at companies that advertise on his program. It takes a huge effort, but average people have done such things in the past, and succeeded in either getting noticed, or -- in some cases -- having shows cancelled. What I'm saying is, if you want to take back your country and your democracy from the people who would pit us against each other in a vicious quasi civil war, you must create or join a movement.
Two thoughts. First, I think we should be realistic -- rather than idealistic -- about anger. Everyone gets angry at times, and everyone at times lashes out. So, I think we need to cut people a little slack in the sense we should not demonize those who lash out any more than we should demonize each other. At the same time, I think our society and democracy would benefit greatly if we could ratchet down lashing out to the point it was the exception, rather than the new norm.
Second, I think most of us can do very little to change things unless we are willing to become activists. You or me being nicer to people is going to have almost zero effect on our country if the president, a significant portion of the news and opinion media, and virtually all of the social media are hotbeds for lashing out, demonizing others, etc. Think of it this way, in your best week, you might come into meaningful contact with two or three score people who you can do something to calm them down. But during the same period, a prominent news anchor with an axe to grind can incite tens of millions of people to anger. What is really needed here is not isolated individuals trying their best to control their tongues, but collective action. Want to have an effect on, say, Tucker Carlson? Use the internet to organize a campaign targeted at companies that advertise on his program. It takes a huge effort, but average people have done such things in the past, and succeeded in either getting noticed, or -- in some cases -- having shows cancelled. What I'm saying is, if you want to take back your country and your democracy from the people who would pit us against each other in a vicious quasi civil war, you must create or join a movement.