MochaRadha
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do you all support it
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any muslims against polygamy
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MochaRadha
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but doesnt it say marry only if u can treat equally but you never can so marry only one
Gharib
I want Khilafah back
The verse that you are speaking of is in chapter 4 #129, it is being misinterpreted by a non-Muslim member in another thread. It says:
And you will never be able to be equal [in feeling] between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. So do not incline completely [toward one] and leave another hanging. And if you amend [your affairs] and fear Allah - then indeed, Allah is ever Forgiving and Merciful.
It is true that a man cannot have equal feelings towards 2 or more wives, he will favour one above the other(s). We believe that and accept it, however, that does not say to not marry more than one wife.
And you will never be able to be equal [in feeling] between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. So do not incline completely [toward one] and leave another hanging. And if you amend [your affairs] and fear Allah - then indeed, Allah is ever Forgiving and Merciful.
It is true that a man cannot have equal feelings towards 2 or more wives, he will favour one above the other(s). We believe that and accept it, however, that does not say to not marry more than one wife.
MochaRadha
Member
so why do u think allah allows loveless marriage
MochaRadha
Member
if thats the case the women should have two husbands. i mean what if she loves both. and dont tell me that ******** about not knowing fathers theres dna tests,and yes many women are just as sexual as men,and no she wont get a disease from different men not if they are both her husband
Gharib
I want Khilafah back
OK I won't.
MochaRadha
Member
cuz u know its all false
MochaRadha
Member
anyone else
MochaRadha
Member
i know about it , but its still sexist that women may only have one man
tumbleweed41
Resident Liberal Hippie
MOD POST
Due to the argumentative nature of the OP and some posts, this thread has been moved to General Religious Debates.
The DIR's are not meant for debate.
Due to the argumentative nature of the OP and some posts, this thread has been moved to General Religious Debates.
The DIR's are not meant for debate.
MochaRadha:
IMO, this is an unanswerable question for Muslims. They are bound to follow the Quran and the Quran is very clear in this regard. So, it will satisfy Muslims but non-Muslims will find the explanation completely arbitrary.
But now that this thread is in the debate section, perhaps earlier posters who refused to answer will now answer as to why a Muslimah can only have one husband, without taking recourse to scriptures.
F0uad
Well-Known Member
O gosh we have to explain ourselves to Robo otherwise we are doomed!
I will explain it again when Islam was rising it brought Rights and Limits within ill address some limits about the subject.
Lets start with the first limit:
When the verse was revealed what you mentioned before the companions of Muhammad, peace be upon him, did not run out with the attitude that they were going to get four wives all of a sudden. Some of them already had much more than that and these men had to divorce their wives, if they had more than four. So this was not an order to go out and get four wives. It was an order to begin limitations. And the first limitation was; No more than four.
Second limit, the limitation of equal treatment for all of them. How could a man keep more than one wife unless he was exceedingly wealthy and/or exceedingly strong and virile?Next, the limitation very clearly states; ".. but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one ..."
The Majority of Muslims have only one wife heck i can easily say 99%.
One very important point that is often overlooked by modern society is the right that Islam gave to the women that it does not give to the man. A man is limited to marry only from the woman who is not already married. Obviously, this provides rights for the children and provides for them from inheritance from the father. But Islam also permits the women to marry a man who is already married to protect her in a society where the number of women outnumbers the population of men. Additionally, the woman has a large selection of men to choose from. In fact, she has the right to choose from any man in the community as long as he does not already have four wives. She also has the opportunity to see how the other wife was being treated and go into a marriage knowing exactly what to expect from her husband. After all, he must treat her in the same way as he is treating the other wife.
We might add that Islam also gave the women full status as citizens over 1,400 years ago by giving her to right to speak and vote the same as anyone else. American women had to take their cause to the streets with "Women's Suffrage" and were not granted the right to vote until just ninety years ago.
Additionally, Islam protected women's rights to keep their identity and they were not considered property of some man. As such, they were no longer forced to change their last names to be that of their husbands. This is still the practice of Muslim women today just as it was fourteen hundred years ago.
It is strange isn't it, a society like America, has no problem accepting sex without marriage; homosexuality; same sex marriages; sex without responsibility; children without fathers; and divorces are more common place than the measles or chicken pox. Yet, there is no tolerance for marriage between a man and a woman if it is not on their terms.
I will explain it again when Islam was rising it brought Rights and Limits within ill address some limits about the subject.
Lets start with the first limit:
When the verse was revealed what you mentioned before the companions of Muhammad, peace be upon him, did not run out with the attitude that they were going to get four wives all of a sudden. Some of them already had much more than that and these men had to divorce their wives, if they had more than four. So this was not an order to go out and get four wives. It was an order to begin limitations. And the first limitation was; No more than four.
Second limit, the limitation of equal treatment for all of them. How could a man keep more than one wife unless he was exceedingly wealthy and/or exceedingly strong and virile?Next, the limitation very clearly states; ".. but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one ..."
The Majority of Muslims have only one wife heck i can easily say 99%.
One very important point that is often overlooked by modern society is the right that Islam gave to the women that it does not give to the man. A man is limited to marry only from the woman who is not already married. Obviously, this provides rights for the children and provides for them from inheritance from the father. But Islam also permits the women to marry a man who is already married to protect her in a society where the number of women outnumbers the population of men. Additionally, the woman has a large selection of men to choose from. In fact, she has the right to choose from any man in the community as long as he does not already have four wives. She also has the opportunity to see how the other wife was being treated and go into a marriage knowing exactly what to expect from her husband. After all, he must treat her in the same way as he is treating the other wife.
We might add that Islam also gave the women full status as citizens over 1,400 years ago by giving her to right to speak and vote the same as anyone else. American women had to take their cause to the streets with "Women's Suffrage" and were not granted the right to vote until just ninety years ago.
Additionally, Islam protected women's rights to keep their identity and they were not considered property of some man. As such, they were no longer forced to change their last names to be that of their husbands. This is still the practice of Muslim women today just as it was fourteen hundred years ago.
It is strange isn't it, a society like America, has no problem accepting sex without marriage; homosexuality; same sex marriages; sex without responsibility; children without fathers; and divorces are more common place than the measles or chicken pox. Yet, there is no tolerance for marriage between a man and a woman if it is not on their terms.
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MochaRadha
Member
theres nothing wrong with gay marriage
Can a woman has more than one husband in Islam as well ?
Ya. We have been through this already. 4:129 says a man will never be able to be equal in feeling to more than one wife. Is that just for the spurned wife?
Can a Muslimah have more than one husband? If not, why not?
According to religious doctrine, a woman cannot marry more than one man.
If a woman really wants to do so, she can still do it, just as people break every other religious law. So what?
As for the "why"...
How can you ask a question based on religious scripture, yet we can't answer the "why" based on religious scripture? On what basis are we "allowed" to base our answers? Secular? That doesn't make sense, because Islamic scripture isn't secular.