Why does it become irrelevant? I am aware of the role of the military, but how does that differentiate members of the service from other, equally dangerous professions? I can see a difference for those that chose service over those that were conscripted. There is a difference in choice.
I have come to respect his opinion, just as I have come to respect yours. That does not mean that I will agree with it on the broader or, more often, the finite levels. But there are differences in how people are treated based on their status of military service. Whether this is an expectation by them or something that others thrust on them, may make a difference, but it exists. The group that has a long family history of service and personal and direct relationship with those that served and respect for them. That would be the group I align myself with. I thought it would have been obvious from the details I have mentioned.
Actually, these were all questions and not straw man arguments. I made no claims. The questions arise from observations that are related to the questions. I am not nor have I ever said that soldiers do not deserve benefits for having suffered injuries due to their service. I am an indirect and very appreciative recipient of some of those benefits.
Now you just said that I am not special and without any knowledge of what I have or have not done to put myself in harms way for myself or anyone else. Only that I have never served and thus not had the opportunity to do it in that context. At this point you have no idea if I have put myself in the way of some harm or any circumstance around that if I have. The implication seems to be that I would have a special place if I had served. By the way, I have put myself in harms way for others. I received thanks and no further recognition for it. You are correct. I am not special. I did what needed to be done and I did it without thinking about it at the time.
When I was two and too small to remember, I am told that before going back to the VA hospital, my father had an episode where he marched the entire family outside and ordered us stationed around the house in case an enemy patrol was in the area. He and my mother both told us younger kids about this episode when we were older, and how she got him to come to his senses and go back for treatment. My older siblings never mentioned it. No further incidence like that occurred during my childhood and my father was quite embarrassed about it, but thought it was something we should know.
Why would you say that? Running away is always an option and even in battle some have been known to take it. You are assuming special status again. That those that serve will respond only honorably and those that have not are lesser for it.
You seem to be providing my perspective for me. It is true. I chose not to serve after spending two years considering the idea and going through introductory training and education that would have prepared me for it. When I started college, I mentioned to my dad that they had an ROTC program and I was interested. He told me that if I were to join, he thought going in as an officer was the way to do it. In his opinion, officers had it better and he thought I could do it if I wanted. After two years, I decided for myself that it was not a career I wanted to pursue. My choice. I am not less of a person for having chose that, though, from what I am reading here, perhaps some might consider me so for it.
I think I have empathy enough and at a very high level.
You brought it up. These were your words. "Anyone who is willing to make the ultimate sacrifice to protect your infrastructure and commerce, is the real patriot". If you do not understand it, you can understand why I did not.
Here is a little history about me so that you can have some information to make claims about me. My family has served this country for over 200 years. I have ancestors and relatives that have served in every major conflict and war since and including the Revolution. I am a 7X great grandson of John Hart, signer of the Declaration of Independence from New Jersey. I am an 8X great grandson of Daniel Boone. Both noteworthy in their service to this country in different capacities. I have had three uncles that served in WWII in the Army and survived. One uncle that served in the Army during Korea, but saw only limited combat and was not injured. One brother served in the Navy. One nephew now serving in the Navy. One brother that served in the Coast Guard. One brother that retired after 20 years in the Air Force. One brother that served in the Army Honor Guard Company. I chose not to serve, because I did not find it compatible with my aspirations and not, because I am a coward that would run from a fight and need to be protected. Considering all this, should my family believe they are better than other families that do not have this history? Are we special?
I mention all of this, since you seem to have applied a status to me and I wanted you to have some actual information for your decision. I think these questions are asked to understand things that go beyond deserved and earned respect and they also cover status that is thrust at people also under no effort of their own. You might even say, though it would be untrue, that I am thrusting special status at myself for being a member of a family that respects, promotes and engages in service. I have seen people do that.
The draft ended in Dec. '72. So choice has not been relevant for almost 45 years, in an all-voluntary military. My comments were only to illustrate, that it did not matter what your reasons for joining were. After basic training and AIT, your indoctrination into the military way of thinking and behaving, will almost be complete. If, like me, you are shipped off to fight in a foreign country, then this indoctrination is accelerated. Individuality is not a conducive human quality in military service. However, individuality is certainly an admirable attribute in most civilian jobs. So, it is irrelevant, because the thoughts and beliefs you had before you joined, will not be the same thoughts and beliefs when you leave.
Since you are tacitly agreeing with the OP, by your lack of protest, disagreement, and defence, I can only assume like him , that you have never served one day in the military. Also, because, like him, you are ignoring the fact that these special benefits and privileges are only for severely handicapped, disabled, handicapped, blind, and comatose veterans. Also, because, like him, you are ignoring the fact that normal healthy veterans have all the same rights and privileges that anyone else has. Also, like him, you are ignoring that civilians have all the same types of benefits and privileges as veterans do. Finally, if you were a veteran, the direction of your argument would certainly be different. You either agree with the poster or you disagree. And, you certainly agree. Do you think that a veteran working as a lumberjack should be respected more as a lumberjack, or as a veteran? Don't you see the silly slippery slope that this can lead to? We should all respect our veterans, because they were willing to put themselves in harms way, to protect our way of life. This does not mean that civilians are NOT willing to put themselves in harms way. If your pride is somehow threatened by their service, then that is your own insecurity. But, don't conflate their level of service, loyalty and level of self-sacrifice, with that of a lumberjack, a farmer, or a groundskeeper. It is a non sequitur.
Dan. We are all special and unique as human beings. But because of compartmentalization, and the battle between our herding instincts and our individuality, we are far from perfect. We are complex bio-organisms, with an emergent consciousness. This means we are emotionally, socially, and mentally flawed from the git go. So, I am more interested in the intangible qualities of people. These emergent qualities CAN'T be changed. It is how people behave outside of their comfort zone, that can determine their true nature. Running away in battle was meant figuratively. Running away in battle would be far worse than dying in battle. Therefore, running away is not an option.
"Anyone who is willing to make the ultimate sacrifice to protect your infrastructure and commerce, is the real patriot". I agree and apologize. This statement was poorly written. What I was trying to say, was that soldiers were willing to make the ultimate sacrifice to protect and maintain the American way of life(Democracy, capitalism, and freedom). Sorry, another senior's moment.
Again thank you for sharing your memories. Unfortunately there are memories that I only want to forget. Finally let me try to clear something up here.
I do not assign status, labels, or stereotypes on anyone. My responses are based solely on what you say, what you defend, and what you ignore. You have made statements that support and defend the OP, and simply ignored all the factual and logical claims that I've presented. So from my perspective, my statements to you are valid, and based on the evidence. For example, you are now inferring that you are actually pro-veteran privileges, because your FAMILY has a history of military service. This is a fallacy. Your association with those with military experience, does not equate to you having military experience. In fact, this association might also imply that you might resent those in military service. There is no such thing as "proxy experience". To have actual service experience, you would need to have lived in a military society for years, and under military control. This would involve assimilating a military culture of service. But I get your point. Not only to our veterans(especially our disabled and severely handicapped) deserve our respect, but they have earned it.