This part perked my interest in that it has always amazed me the lengths that human animals will go to prove their worth. Psychologically, they are on pretty thing ice, as the idea is predicated on the notion that they are just not good enough.
Since this thread is about a Q&A about this type of Christian belief and practices referred to as Oneness Pentecostalism, and in that I am for all intents and purposes an expert in it, having not only experience with them as one of them, but having a degree in theology from one of their more prominent Bible colleges (at that time, anyway), I certainly can respond in my understanding of them from the inside, now speaking from a perspective in the larger context of religion in general.
In regard to this observation, I think what I would say is that it's about proving one's worth more in the context of being accepted into a group. It's more about group-acceptance, in this case of being one of "the saved". In the church setting, which is a social group, even if the man in question was accepted by others in the church he was still "not-saved", and hence psychologically and emotionally he was still an outsider. God hadn't approved of him yet for membership, in how he would have no other choice to think about it than that.
Now where the damage from this comes is that part of our own self-acceptance begins through the acceptance of others. Historically to be ostracized by the group is a deep, terrifying dread as it would mean your possible death as people needed the group to survive. Shunning is a horrific, deep primal experience of isolation from the group. In a religious context, God is the symbol of Love and Grace, which when one "believes" in God and accepts that Love as
unconditional, it leads to not only group acceptance, they feel part of the "people of God", but psychologically and spiritually as well in that it leads to the acceptance of one's own self, which ultimately leads to "liberty", or "salvation from sin" - or falling short of the mark. I have a saying which I came up with that says, "When we accept ourselves with the acceptance of God, we become able to accept ourselves to God". It is that self-acceptance in accepting Love which is given freely from God in this symbolic context, which allows us to truly love another as ourselves, as Jesus taught. To not truly accept yourself, which means to accept that Love in you, you are simply not capable of loving another truly. It begins within the person.
So the true sin of it, as I see it now, is that this belief that he was not accepted, not only by the group but by the Ultimate itself, by God, he would never be able to realize Peace and love. Yet, what I saw, was a man who had in fact a very profoundly deep love in himself that he was not allowed to simply realize and release. It's where the teaching hurt and harmed him. It personally broke my heart, and made me question their theologies and teachings, which once that began ended up in me seeing all the other issues in how they arrived at their understandings. Love could see what reason could not, at that time.
The psychological damage that this kind of thinking can produce is disturbing in an of itself and is hardly something I could ever recommend.
Oh yes, and it wasn't just in that case but in many areas to many people. He mentioned legalism, and I would say the entire theology itself is inherently legalistic. The letter of the law, a system of "do this and you'll be accepted, do that and you'll be lost", taken to the extreme where the Spirit of the Law is not heard. It's when religion moves from being helpful, a tool, a framework for faith, into something hindering and harmful to seekers of God, in all that represents.
I understand that people have a need for a framework. That much I get, but to slavishly follow a framework is never wise. The map is NEVER the territory, as it were.
To dig a little deep here (something I rarely do around here
), I respect that people do take the maps, the symbols, the metaphors literally. Understanding the difference between metaphors as pointers, versus descriptors of the thing itself, is something that comes with growth. It's like what the Apostle Paul said that, "
When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known." The "face to face" part of course is the mystical Realization, when you suddenly realize that the fingers which were pointing at the moon are not the moon itself.
But when it comes to legalistic interpretations, I would say it's not because of the literal-imagination, mistaking the finger pointing at the moon as the moon itself, but one of a lack of awareness of what the heart tells them. That awareness is something that develops along side, or rather as a line of development in and of itself. Legalist systems are those which are not just literal, but lacking interior awareness and development. You can in fact have mythic-literal frameworks, and be open to Love. Legalism says, "Do NOT trust the heart! Let the words of the book tell the heart what is true." It replaces the knowledge of the heart with purely external frameworks, rather than the heart utilizing the frameworks to grow and gain a deeper knowledge of God in them, which as I said earlier leads to the knowledge of Love in themselves, which leads to them loving others as themselves, which "fulfills all the law of God", as Jesus very directly taught was the Greatest Commandment. Legalism replaces Love with rules, and formulas and codes, and the like. It does not nurture and mature the heart.
It's such a pity that we (collectively) simply don't foster or nurture a sense, a relationship, with something that is buried deep within oneself and that aspect of being is perfectly happy with us as we are.
Honestly, that's not just a problem with legalist forms of religion. I think that is symptomatic of our culture at large. Legalistic forms of religion are not too different than "where's your evidence!" form of Scientisim. It's two-sides of the same coin which is a lack of interior awareness. It's all externalized "authorities" telling what the "truth" is. It says anything subjective is unreliable, untrustworthy, dangerous, and the like.
Those less savory aspects of our characters become obsolete as understanding grows and, put simply, good people become better people.
In an ideal system the literal imagination matures into more nuanced and subtle understandings. But if you cannot hear with your own heart, subtleties will be hard to see!
One can academically recognize things like this through cognitive means, but that is itself just another "model" of reality, like postmodernism. Knowing with the heart is an entirely different reality. Reading about God, is not knowing God. Reading about the world is not being part of the world. Reading about the ocean is not swimming in the ocean.
I'd quietly suggest that they are simply misinformed and there is no reason to beat themselves up over a fabricated vision of reality. Reality already exists within and without them.
But how that reality unfolds into their awareness is a matter of growth and development - in all lines, mental, spiritual, emotional, psychological, social, etc. There are legitimate, and necessary stages one must go through in order to build upon, further it to higher and deeper levels of awareness of "what is". It gets quite nuanced at this point...... Black and white seems so much simpler, until such a point as the heart sees what the mind does not.
Isn't it more reasonable to abandon something that is not working and to realize the salvation is in realization, not revelation, however "revealing" that realization may be?
The realization of this unfolds in stages. One cannot simply jump from rung 5 on the ladder to rung 20 without hitting rung 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, etc, first.
I could really go deep here, but my fingers are starting to hurt, thanks to you!
Now if you want an answer within the man's framework, ugh, this ain't gonna be pretty.
I respect the man's framework in regard to the question about what is Oneness Pentecostalism, and am adding my perspective of what I was part of actively in support of, from my understanding of it now. For good and not so good. There is some value to it, and what I am pointing out is in regard to the questions you asked about what I saw in that man's despondency as a result of their teaching.
The biggest problem I can see is that the very framework is flawed.... hence you will see situations like you have outlined.
I would say the interpretation of the mythic-literal framework can become flawed in how you see it manifesting as in my friend (a former boss of mine) was. If there are those who can take the literal framework and make it work where love is grown, then I'd say it has merit. There are lots of different systems that function that way for the good of its membership.
To me the true acid test of any system is quite simple. It what Jesus himself taught, a verse which kept coming to mind day after day while sitting in Bible classes hearing their theology being taught in the contexts they spoke it, "By their fruits you shall know them... By their fruits you shall know them". What does my heart tell me, is what I was hearing. Was I seeing and hearing Love?