Ahhhh. I was not catching the coded language. But in retrospect it is plain as day. I was assuming that there were simply several bad actors representing the religion. But what you say better fits the pattern. I should have recognized it from 7 or 8 times when I was in my twenties that I was invited to a party that turned out to be a
stealth proselytizing gathering where people would mingle and "casually" ask me questions about my view on a subject in order to obligate me to listen to their scripted pitch. It is such a sleazy practice
If one is going to try to sway someone to their point of view, be candid. One should be upfront and clear about ones goal Be sure that they have easy avenues of escape. Talk to them when they are well-fed, well-rested, in good health, under no serious psychological distress, and in no way dependent or obligated to you. If one's position has any value, then there is no need to use guile, or to wait until one's interlocutor is vulnerable.
I know that you know this,
@CG Didymus. I wish more did.