Ok.. so I just went outside and put a coin in a parking meter. I am not more happy than I was before I did the action. Furthermore, I know that the act was not altruistic.
Well use my terminology then and call it kindness; I don't really care.
You're telling me you got up from your computer and put money in someone else's parking meter and it did nothing to cheer you up? SRSLY>
Either concede that what I am telling you is true, or admit you are making a leap of faith about my own qualitative experience.
No, like everything, it's a bell curve, and you're an outlier, I guess.
Perhaps I am. Though, it would be a false assertion for to say to someone, "If you put a coin in a parking meter anonymously, it will make you happy guaranteed." When, in fact, after putting the coin in a parking meter, the consequences were not so.
No, it's not guaranteed. Why are you so hung up on absolutes? This is the real world we're talking about. Not smoking will not guarantee you'll never have lung disease, and committing small acts of kindness is not guaranteed to make you happier. However, the overwhelming indication of all the research is that acts of kindness make the person doing them happier, and serving others leads to greater happiness. Not a little research, a lot.
Sure, I do.. but the action is surely no altruistic phenomenon.
I really don't care what you call it. My point is that doing something nice for people you care about makes you happy. That's an objective statement about you and 99% of the people in the world. So if you want to be happy, find people to care about and be nice to them.
Yes, I have worked for Habitat for Humanity.
And did you have fun? I had a great time, and came home feeling much happier and more hopeful. Research shows that this works for people in general.
Incorrect. I just proved to myself other wise.
I don't think so--it would take much more rigorous trial to establish that.
Seriously, dust1n, they've done this research on many kinds of people with many different kinds of kind acts, and the research is very clear on it.
Furthermore, we know the evolutionary reasons why, and we know the actual neurological mechanism, so it's not surprising or mysterious that it would be so. It all points in the same direction.
Oh ok, then by your blanket logic, I could save someone from getting hit by a car and myself die because of it but I can still count on happiness to follow.
Uh, no, dust1n, cuz you'd be dead. Duh. However, if you were to save someone's life, I feel confident it would boost your joy in life for a long time.