Being a Heteroflexible and Pansexual...and a bit of an Evangelical Christian

[Sundance]

Hi, everyone! I've been having some trouble trying to reconcile my faith as somewhat of an Evangelical Christian with my sexual orientation as a heteroflexible and pansexual person. I need help. I don't know what to do.

 

[xkatz]

May I ask what heteroflexible is?

 

[gsa]

Why do you believe in evangelical Christianity?

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

May I ask what heteroflexible is?

You pretty much identify as straight but are open to having gay sex.

 

[Skwim]

Hi, everyone! I've been having some trouble trying to reconcile my faith as somewhat of an Evangelical Christian with my sexual orientation as a heteroflexible and pansexual person. I need help. I don't know what to do.

Like most everyone else, your sexual orientation is something that will be with you the rest of your life. At least it won't change through personal effort. But the religion you choose can be. Personally, I find evangelicalism a stifling and repugnant religion that embraces its inflexibility a little too eagerly. It's been said that in the USA alone there are more than a thousand different denominations. I would think you could find several that are more compatible with your needs.

 

[Laika]

I'm taking a guess, but is it that you feel really uncomfortable with the idea because it doesn't feel "normal"? I think there is a heavy emphasis on heterosexuality as the 'natural' form of sexual interaction because its based on procreation rather than enjoyment of sexual desire for itself (which may be considered 'sinful' as lust). This can be a source of conflict between a religion and sexual orientation.

 

[Sundance]

Why do you believe in evangelical Christianity?

I dig the gospel...

 

[Sundance]

Like most everyone else, your sexual orientation is something that will be with you the rest of your life. At least it won't change through personal effort. But the religion you choose can be. Personally, I find evangelicalism a stifling and repugnant religion that embraces its inflexibility a little too eagerly. It's been said that in the USA alone there are more than a thousand different denominations. I would think you could find several that are more compatible with your needs.

Oh, come on Skwim, it's not all that bad, but I guess you're right.

 

[Bunyip]

Forgive me for saying so - but wouldn't the main problem with being a evangelic Christian and engaging in homosexual activities be that you burn in hell for eternity?

Oh, come on Skwim, it's not all that bad, but I guess you're right.

How can you 'dig' a gospel that condemns you?

 

[columbus]

Hi, everyone! I've been having some trouble trying to reconcile my faith as somewhat of an Evangelical Christian with my sexual orientation as a heteroflexible and pansexual person. I need help. I don't know what to do.

Perhaps you should try the UU church, if there is one in your area. They are quite welcoming, generally.


Tom

 

[gsa]

I dig the gospel...

Presumably this is true of liberal Anglicans, Presbyterians, Congregationalists and the like. But the evangelical identity is thoroughly anti-gay. In fact, their commitment to homophobia appears to trump virtually any other value that they claim to adhere to.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

@DJ_sXe

There are pro-gay Evangelical Christians. Don't let the loudmouths and naysayers get you down. I'm a Catholic and I've reconciled my sexuality with my religion. There's so many of us who do. So you're not alone. You can also be LGBT and conservative, as I'm discovering more and more. You don't have to run off to some dying liberal Christian sect that functions more like a social club than an actual religious community in order to be an LGBT Christian. Stay in your denomination!

Evangelicals Concerned Inc. - Proclaiming the Good News of God's Love for Gay and Lesbian People
Meet the Young, Evangelical, Pro-Gay Movement - The Daily Beast
Pro-LGBT Evangelical David Gushee: “I’m With You and the Church Needs to Change.” | Religion Dispatches
Happy, clappy, and out of the closet: Evangelicals who say being gay is OK - Home News - UK - The Independent

 

[Sundance]

@DJ_sXe

There are pro-gay Evangelical Christians. Don't let the loudmouths and naysayers get you down. I'm a Catholic and I've reconciled my sexuality with my religion. There's so many of us who do. So you're not alone. You can also be LGBT and conservative, as I'm discovering more and more. You don't have to run off to some dying liberal Christian sect that functions more like a social club than an actual religious community in order to be an LGBT Christian. Stay in your denomination!

Evangelicals Concerned Inc. - Proclaiming the Good News of God's Love for Gay and Lesbian People
Meet the Young, Evangelical, Pro-Gay Movement - The Daily Beast
Pro-LGBT Evangelical David Gushee: “I’m With You and the Church Needs to Change.” | Religion Dispatches
Happy, clappy, and out of the closet: Evangelicals who say being gay is OK - Home News - UK - The Independent

Thanks, Saint Frankenstein! Your words are truly a breath of fresh air! Peeps like you are the reason why I think Roman Catholics are super groovy!

 

[psychedelicsoul]

i am ex-bi... you can change. I'm not sure how you would do it, but I know how I did it.

I changed through extreme physical torture and negative reinforcement. However, I believe meditation and psychedelics helped me and can help others. Dr. Timothy Leary onced experimented in changing sexuality through LSD.
I don't nessarilly think you need to drop a pocket knife in the center of your palm like me...
Or cut yourself or burn a lit black n mild in your foot. I believe ones mind can change through the power of the soul. We're stronger than brain chemistry.
http://anglicanmainstream.org/brain-plasticity-backs-up-orientation-change/

However... I didn't do it to satisfy some god... I did it for me.