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Unitarian Universalist
I find the discussion a bit interesting, though not straight-on. I don't see any point in a stranger walking up to anyone they don't know and saying anything, except for something like, "You just dripped coffee on your blouse, you might want to try to clean it off while it is still wet," or, "Your laptop computer is about to fall out of your backpack." In other words, providing a well-intentioned warning about some danger the stranger faces but is unaware of. Alternatively, I could also see a stranger initiating a discussion to secure assistance: "I'm lost; could you please direct me to Center Street." Beyond that, a non-committal smile and nod is the most I would expect strangers to afford each other.
Pardon the partial thread hijack, but what caught my attention in this discussion though was the idea that a certain set of people (I won't say "women", but if this doesn't ring true for any men you have ever met, then I won't be concerned if you think of it applying only to a certain set of women) -- a certain set of people work diligently to make themselves visually attractive, and then some folks within this set see fit to react negatively when their efforts are successful.
So while I agree it would be inappropriate for a stranger to walk up to you and tell you that you're pretty, I think there is something wrong with reacting any more negatively to that than you would react negatively to that stranger telling you that you're human, or that you're walking down Main Street, or that you're wearing a backpack. If you work hard to make yourself attractive, and the react any differently to someone telling you you're attractive rather than telling you what species you are, where you are, or what you're wearing (i.e., things you didn't actually work hard to achieve), then I have to wonder about your motivations.
Pardon the partial thread hijack, but what caught my attention in this discussion though was the idea that a certain set of people (I won't say "women", but if this doesn't ring true for any men you have ever met, then I won't be concerned if you think of it applying only to a certain set of women) -- a certain set of people work diligently to make themselves visually attractive, and then some folks within this set see fit to react negatively when their efforts are successful.
So while I agree it would be inappropriate for a stranger to walk up to you and tell you that you're pretty, I think there is something wrong with reacting any more negatively to that than you would react negatively to that stranger telling you that you're human, or that you're walking down Main Street, or that you're wearing a backpack. If you work hard to make yourself attractive, and the react any differently to someone telling you you're attractive rather than telling you what species you are, where you are, or what you're wearing (i.e., things you didn't actually work hard to achieve), then I have to wonder about your motivations.