Proselytizing is considered to be cruel and intolerant.
It is an insult to another person's intelligence is what it is. Plain and simple. The statement is "I know better than you do." And it is made about a realm and characters (i.e. God(s), Satan, angels, etc.) that you can't know a single thing about that wasn't told to you IN THE SAME WAY by someone else. No way to verify, no way to demonstrate. So, to say that "you know" something you can't possibly know, and that someone else had better toe the same line you are is a complete and utter insult to the other person's intelligence. Likely that person is (whether consciously or subconsciously) interpreting your encroachment in this manner as one of two things:
- You feel that they are wrong/misled/confused and this same likely applies to their parents, and their parents' parents, etc.
- You feel that they couldn't possibly choose the right path themselves, and must therefore be informed - much like one would a child.
The best bit is that you seem to be sitting there, thinking there MUST be some way to proselytize "with love" and yet you would very likely feel the same things I referred to above if someone came around and tried to talk you into being a Hindu, or joining the church of Scientology. "You know, you really should believe in Xenu."
Anything you feel at a particular undertaking of another human being, expect them to also feel if YOU are the actor doing the same to them. This is like "Philosophy 101" or something. Or if it isn't, it should be.
1. Isn't this avoiding the "truth" question? They cannot all logically be completely true if they contradict each other on core thing such as who "God" is?
Yes, let's talk about the "truth question," shall we? How, EXACTLY, can one
know the truth? And I mean EXACTLY.
2. Is it really arrogant and intolerant for someone to believe that he knows the truth and that it is loving to share that truth with others?
Arrogant, yes. Intolerant - I can't say I haven't seen it. Do you know where the conversation usually goes with the Christian proselytizers I have come in contact with throughout my life? Once they find out I am not, at all "God-fearing" in the slightest, and that they can't possibly "kill me with kindness," it very much turns into a discussion about where I am going to end up when I die. Rarely have I ever spoken with a Christian trying to convert me who doesn't turn to that in a last-ditch effort to "get me." I've been called "vile," been told I was going to end up in Hell, and more often just had hints dropped that I was going to suffer after death - all by people WHO DON'T EVEN KNOW ME. So yeah... sorry... it
is arrogant, and not loving in the slightest, even if you "play nice" the entire time.