It's interesting when you look at a religion simply to educate yourself, and then actually consider following it. When you're merely educating yourself on any particular religion, not just Islam, you will find dark histories. In virtually all of them. They all seem to have 'survived' due to much violence and blood shed. Much of what I've read about Muhammad from a historical perspective, shows him as a warrior defending 'his cause,' and that cause was to build a Muslim community. Depending on who you talk to, Muhammad wasn't seen as a wager of war. So, we can view all of these stories as just stories...UNTIL...we look at the religious aspect, whereby a deity comes into play. The Qur'an and the Bible to a lesser degree, is touted as the infallible literal word of God. The Bible is riddled with allegory, but for all intents and purposes, most Christians believe it to be the word of God. And for me, as I've been exploring religion again, and feel that draw back into theism...that's a tough thing to reconcile with my worldview. I'm not a violent person, and don't believe that anyone needs to resort to violence to get things done in life. The world has been at war so many times, because human beings can't control themselves enough to finding common ground without resorting to violence. But, we look at the U.S., and it has a violence issue too, on a different scale, but it does.
So, back to what I was saying about exploring a religion...when you are actually looking at different faiths in terms of following one...you see another side to them. You go beyond merely educating yourself on the histories of them, and start looking at their mystical sides, their worship style, their prayer life, the social and cultural aspects, the way the religion makes you feel, what type of charity work is it involved in, etc... That is also very much a part of religion. And that is the part that MOST are attracted to. And then the tough parts of the holy book of which the religion you follow is based on...sort of becomes background noise, and maybe it will go away if no one brings it up.
So, that becomes the elephant in the room, and the fact that what draws people to different religions isn't the dark parts or the dark histories -- it is that whole other side that simply put, makes you feel comforted by Something that you can't quite explain. Islamic Sufism is fascinating, for example, and other mystical components to other religions. If you have never prayed, or have never felt connected to a 'higher power,' through prayer or meditation...all I can say is you travel to another world. And that is what draws people, and Islam has it too. So, when we look at peaceful Muslims say my friends for example...they are busy about being better people, helping others, and they attribute their love and kindness to Islam. They view the dark parts as history, and not meant for us to live that way today. The rub comes in when you have a deity ''blessing'' the violence of men, in your holy book. Same thing holds true for the Bible as well. So, how to have that kind of conversation, I don't know.
This is when identifying as an atheist was a wee bit easier. LOL
Seems to me that by doing a few minor tweaks to a few words, you could be describing spirituality. Hooray! Let's let spirituality stand on its own with no unwanted supervision from religion.