I've learned a lot in my time on the forums(some lessons more valuable than others). One thing that stuck out for me was there's a term for people like me... demi-sexual!
I found it interesting, though overall not very important for me now. I'm married, and am not seeking more. But I wonder how this identification could have helped me when I was looking...
I honestly have spent little time single since my teenaged years(some think that's a shame, I don't). But, there was a period of time in which I was in my late 20s... and the dating world seemed terrifying. It seemed the norm(for this place and age group), meet up, hook up, decide if you liked them. And I could. not. do. that. The idea of casual sex turned my stomach. I was told I needed to relax my 'ideals', or I'd remain single.
I didn't. I found my husband long distance(over the phone), and formed a relationship with him before we even met. (And that's what had happened with the guy I'd been with before him; I'd met him online and formed a strong bond before we ever physically met.)
But I wonder, if I'd had that word to articulate what I felt(or didn't feel), if I'd have been able to navigate life better. And I wonder if that option makes it easier for people now.
What do you think? Do you think being able to label one's sexuality in such a manner has improved(or hindered) the romantic experience?
I found it interesting, though overall not very important for me now. I'm married, and am not seeking more. But I wonder how this identification could have helped me when I was looking...
I honestly have spent little time single since my teenaged years(some think that's a shame, I don't). But, there was a period of time in which I was in my late 20s... and the dating world seemed terrifying. It seemed the norm(for this place and age group), meet up, hook up, decide if you liked them. And I could. not. do. that. The idea of casual sex turned my stomach. I was told I needed to relax my 'ideals', or I'd remain single.
I didn't. I found my husband long distance(over the phone), and formed a relationship with him before we even met. (And that's what had happened with the guy I'd been with before him; I'd met him online and formed a strong bond before we ever physically met.)
But I wonder, if I'd had that word to articulate what I felt(or didn't feel), if I'd have been able to navigate life better. And I wonder if that option makes it easier for people now.
What do you think? Do you think being able to label one's sexuality in such a manner has improved(or hindered) the romantic experience?