exchemist
Veteran Member
We may be talking slightly at cross purposes. I'm with you entirely that nothing is missing. That has been the point I have been making. What I find a bit objectionable is the label, firstly because I don't think it's a great idea going around labelling the various shades on the spectrum of human sexuality, and and secondly because the label that someone has chosen, probably a man, is one that insinuates something is missing - half, in fact.Nothing is missing. Let me explain how I experience this
I have no sexual attraction towards anyone. Now, this doesn't mean that I don't date anyone or can't enjoy sex, because I can do those things, but the feeling of sexual attraction itself doesn't exist - not until I'm well into a relationship. Sometimes I've had it take me almost a year before those feelings started to manifest themselves. The first time this happened with me, it did take me by surprise
No one who is asexual talks about it in the open because, specifically, when we do we get awkward conversations like the ones that have been happening in this thread. Not fun to have with people face to face, especially when it effects their opinions of you
No one is pressuring anyone. These are the cards we hold to our chests that folks don't ever have to see
I mean, that's fair. Honestly not a lot of research has been done on the matter. People still have life experiences, though, and not all of them are the same. When folks compare their notes and realize something is up, this is what you get - at least until more research is done
But as @JustGeorge has apparently found it helpful, I have to concede it may have served a purpose in her case, so maybe there is a counterargument, in modern American sexual culture at least.