This is kind of embarrassing but I feel a need to share this. Hopefully, this will provide a little entertainment for my RF friends and viewers, and I don’t mind if you laugh, because it is pretty funny now that I know what has been going on.
About 2 ½ months ago I posted my profile on the Two Doves dating site, which is a Baha’i dating site, and this man who called himself William responded. We messaged on the site and then we started e-mailing back and forth, long e-mails about our childhoods, our adult lives, and our present living situations, where we lived and what we did for a living. He said he was a Baha’i had been one for about five years, and he was widowed about 10 years ago. Since I am a widow, I identified with his story about how he lost his wife. He also talked all about the Baha’i Faith and about God, and he knew the Baha’i Writings, so I had no doubt that he was a Baha’i. He claimed to be a farmer and live in a small town in southern Pennsylvania. He said he had three tractors but only one of them was presently operational because the other two had broken down.
The e-mails went on for quite a while and one day he said that the only tractor that was still working broke down so he could not do any work, and his hired help was not getting paid so he was really worried about them. Then he asked me for a loan to fix his tractor. Mind you, by then he knew that I was quite wealthy so asking me for $8500 would been like a drop in the bucket for me to loan him. I told him flat out “no” and I told him that I would never loan money to a man I met on a dating site, a man I had never even met. Then he said he was ashamed for asking me but he was desperate. Then I did not hear from him for a while, but it was not long after that that he asked me for the money again. By then I should have known something was really wrong. I think I did know on a subconscious level but I decided to keep communicating with him since it could do no harm since I never planned to give him any money.
Early on, in the e-mails and texts he kept sending me love songs and saying how much he loved me. I told him I did not care about love, that I just needed a man to be emotionally supportive and help me with my house and cats. I also did not need any money since I have more money than I will ever need.
I did not hear from him for a week after I turned him down and by then we had switched over from e-mail to texting. He said he just had to talk to me because he missed me and he loved me so much.
He told me he was in Paris, France doing some business transactions with a friend he had loaned money to, and he was trying to get his money back so he could go home to Pennsylvania and get his farm in order. He said that after that he planned to come and visit me, since I had been telling him I will not take him seriously until I actually meet him in person.
Then he said he was taking a train to London to complete his business. When he arrived in London (or so he said) he texted me that he needed money in order to complete his business transactions, and he asked me to send him 10 Razer Gold gift cards, totaling $1000. I misread his text and thought he was asking for one card for $100, so I thought what the heck and purchased one card on Amazon and sent it to his e-mail address. Then he texted me that he wanted $1000, not $100. After that, I called Amazon and told them to cancel my order and luckily it had not been processed so customer service cancelled it immediately. Then he texted me asking where the one card for $100 was. It told him that since he wanted $1000 and not $100, I canceled the order. By then I knew what he was up to so I was just playing around with him to see what he’d do.
I finally decided to try to find out if he was who he claimed to be or not, so I called the 1-800 number on the Baha’i website
Where are the Bahá’ís in the United States? | Bahá’í Faith : Local that has a map showing where all the Baha’is are in the United States. A Baha’i woman later called me back and said there are no Baha’is in the little town where he said he lived or anywhere near that town, and she could not even find a Baha’i by the name he had given me. I then sent an e-mail to the Baha’i dating site manager about him and the site manager e-mailed me back saying he knows of this man and he has asked other women for money and he has been banned from their site.
Now that I had all this information in hand, I told him that if he was who he claimed to be he would be able to prove it. He asked why he should have to prove it and then I laughed (to myself). I then proceeded to call this man out on his lies, and it has been the most fun I have had in years! There is no way he can wiggle out of his lies and watching him trying to wiggle out is so much fun. He is the greatest con artist of all time, but he did not slip past me because I am not stupid. I have a MA in Psychology and 13 years of experience renting houses to tenants, so I know all the games people try to play. I was just vulnerable since I thought I needed a man, but now I am beginning to wonder if I ever want a man!
About a week ago, I started texting another man called Alan who I met on another dating site. I told him what had happened with William, asking me for money and how I never gave him any. However, he did the same thing as William, acting as if he cared about my welfare, that I was eating and sleeping enough, but his MO was a little different because he portrayed himself to be a millionaire who invests in cryptocurrencies and he made all kinds of promises to me about how our life in retirement would be so great since he has so much money. I told him I have as much money as he does and I do not need his money. Perhaps that was my first mistake, since now he knew, like William knew, that I had a lot of money and other financial assets. Luckily, this so-called relationship only lasted a week. My last contact with him was yesterday when he asked me if I wanted to invest in crypto and I told him I am not sending anyone any money, as William had found out. I believe that is the end of any communication with him, and at least this only lasted a week.
Stay tuned to this TV station, because there is a third man who I met on yet another dating site about two months ago who I have been communicating with off and on. He has never asked me for any money and he has told me that he has a house in Budapest, Hungary, where he is living now since he has a grocery business there. He told me he also has two houses in Washington State where I live, one in Seattle and one in Gig Harbor. He told me that he is retired from the U. S. Marines after 30 years and he started the grocery business in Budapest since he has many relatives there, since he was brought up in Hungary. He told me that he started the grocery business in order to keep busy after his wife died 12 years ago, since he was so lonely. He told me that he is trying to start up another grocery business in Seattle, which is his home base where he has spent most of his life. I plan to continue communicating with him and see where it might lead.
I don’t think that most men on dating sites are con men, but I also don’t know the best way to find out if they are. I do not plan to go through this rigamarole again. It was fun for a while but I can think of much better ways to spend my time.
Now when I look back at what happened with William and Alan, or whoever they really are, I can laugh, and in fact I have not laughed so hard in years! These men are really stupid if they think they are getting any money from me, and they are the losers because they wasted so much time prepping me for nothing. I also wasted my time but at least I got some entertainment out of it. I feel kind of foolish for being taken in by them but the joke is on them, not me, since I am the one having the last laugh.
