Death and Hiatus

[Buddha Dharma]

Hello friends,

My stepfather passed away last night. I must now prepare to perform the Buddhist death customs, which will help bring me forward through this. We see ourselves as doing something merciful and meritorious at this time. Please keep me in your good thoughts and prayers. They won't hurt. I also prepare to supplicate Lord Yama and other traditional ceremonial things. The Medicine Buddha mercifully helped him pass in his sleep. They said he likely felt no pain. I dedicated yesterday's mantra practice to my stepfather and I'm glad his suffering has passed. He has been going downhill two months and suffering. I personally believe the Medicine Buddha was kind. I'll be back after everything is done and the mourning is passed.

Thanks friends for being part of my life

 

[Terese]

I hope you and your family become at peace with your stepfather's death. Remember that it is not the end of the world; life will go on.

 

[Ingledsva]

Sorry to hear this. Be well.

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[Rival]

I hope you and your family become at peace with your grandfather's death. Remember that it is not the end of the world; life will go on.

Read the first line again.

I am sorry for your loss and I hope everything goes as planned for the after death rituals.

 

[Sunstone]

I hope your memories of your stepfather can provide you with some measure of consolation.

 

[Aupmanyav]

Sorry to hear about your loss. Grandfather are great things. Mine, sort of established the family (and made a skeptic out of me, though he himself was an orthodox person. I too am an orthodox Hindu ).

 

[beenherebeforeagain]

Take care and be well...and we'll see you when you get back!

 

[Twilight Hue]

Hello friends,

My stepfather passed away last night. I must now prepare to perform the Buddhist death customs, which will help bring me forward through this. We see ourselves as doing something merciful and meritorious at this time. Please keep me in your good thoughts and prayers. They won't hurt. I also prepare to supplicate Lord Yama and other traditional ceremonial things. The Medicine Buddha mercifully helped him pass in his sleep. They said he likely felt no pain. I dedicated yesterday's mantra practice to my stepfather and I'm glad his suffering has passed. He has been going downhill two months and suffering. I personally believe the Medicine Buddha was kind. I'll be back after everything is done and the mourning is passed.

Thanks friends for being part of my life

My sympathy. Take good care of yourself.

 

[ADigitalArtist]

Be well, you are in my thoughts.

 

[Yerda]

Sorry for your loss. Keep well.

 

[LuisDantas]

My sentiments, @Buddha Dharma

 

[Buddha Dharma]

I thank you all for your good thoughts friends. This is a reflective time for me. Buddhists are encouraged to think about the temporal nature of this life, when one passes. To seek insight and growth in it. There is typically a small, private ceremony. Then burial or cremation. There are things one can do over a 90 day period believed to convey merit to what is reborn. Reading from certain Sutras and the like. The alms-taking at the end of 90 days is not something I really think prevents a person from becoming a ghost, but it's a meritorious act, and I'll give it to the poor.

I'll try not to be too distant or let this swallow me. I remember that from the Buddhist perspective the life never went anywhere. Thanks everyone.

 

[Quiddity]

My condolences with your loss.

 

[Buddha Dharma]

Update on everything happening:

My step-dad was cremated and I've been giving charity on his behalf. 90 days after his passing I'll give to the monks on his behalf. He wasn't Buddhist so I didn't do the Amida Powa, but have been doing other mantras and chants. The monks will do something when I give the funerary offering. I'll be going to live my mom because she doesn't want to be alone, and I don't want her to be. I'm not married or anything, so having my mom close will be nice for me also.

Thank you friends for being here, even if only on a forum. Take care

 

[Revoltingest]