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Does Premarital Sex Make You Feel Guilty?

Vasilisa Jade

Vasilisa Jade

Formerly Saint Tigeress
Sunstone said:
Does premarital sex make you feel guilty? Why or why not?
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It did at first. Because I really really wanted to pull through and wait. It was something I let happen though. No alchohol or drugs to blame. So I sucked up my feelings of regret and dealt with it. It made me a stronger person in a way, and more experienced both physically and emotionally.

It is a double-edged sword really. There are pros and cons either way you go. Like me personally, I have to feel confident. I HATE feeling like I don't know what I'm doing. And if I ended up with a husband like my sweetie now, oh wow I would be beside myself. I would be SO shy and disoriented! Shy and embarrassed because I wouldn't know what to do and I would feel like he was getting shafted, and disoriented because I would be like WHOA! lol. I mean, I am pretty confident in myself now and I still get disoriented! I also really really like it when guys show confidence as well. But on the other hand, when you wait it is so so special, and when you screw up, the possibility of experiencing that is lost forever. It is an experience you can NEVER have. And that sucks.

My sweetie and I discussed this not too long ago and we decided that we both agree it is nice to be experienced. We have been best buds since high school, and I remember when he was a virgin and he used to always complain about how no girls would date him and he secretly suspected that was the reason why. (He was totally cute, he just had long hair and it looked kinda crazy. Once he cut it girls were all over him so that was just all in his head:rolleyes:). I used to always get on to him and tell him never to do it. It was so funny. If I would have hooked up with him back then when we first met we would have both been virgins. But whats funny is we both agreed that it's nice that we waited until now to hook up, now that we are more experienced emotionally and physically, because if we would have hooked up way back then when we were more immature something might have went wrong because of it. We like each other so much and we're so happy with how it all turned out we wouldn't want to change a thing as far as all that goes. So there is no guilt right now once-so-ever! :D

And whereismynotecard, :slap:, I knew that would happen eventually. Keep it up. You're doing a good job. Your horomones must have just kicked in a little late or something. lol.
 
TurkeyOnRye

TurkeyOnRye

Well-Known Member
Heneni said:
If there is ANY one thing id like my daughter to abstain from its sex before marriage.

If she gets drunk, takes drugs or goes to clubs, i know that my god can save her from her teenage curiosity. I know my daughter has the seed of god that remains in her, and she will need to go through a time of hardship for the wrong choices she makes. I will , if ANYTHING, make a point of explaining to her, that sex before marriage will hurt her in ways she cannot necessarily fix physically. Alcohol works its way out of the system, drugs do the same thing, but she cant get her virginity back. That makes me realise that once youve lost it..you have lost something important! And for that reason, she ought to make sure she keeps it!

Curiosity about sex is inevitable for a teenager, but its one of those curiosities that will kill the cat, and the bible says that sexual perversions bring about the wrath of god. I dont want her to experience that wrath, since its not something she can escape. Gods word is true...and she will be worse off if she engages in these things. Her relatioship with god will suffer.

Abstaining from drugs and alchohol is also important, because it makes you feel great, but it makes your will power decrease exponentially. I know that many prayers for my childrens protection is my responsibility. I dont pray that god keeps her away from these things, but rather that when they come her way, she has the moral power to say NO. If she fails, i pray that god will use her conscience and trust that her conscience, which is her light, will get her back on track! I can only give advice, but her conscience is her light. And god is the one opperating in her conscience. This conscience which is suppose to be her light, can turn into her greatest deciever, if she continues to go against what her conscience is trying to tell her.

The bible says that if the light inside you is darkness HOW GREAT IS THAT DARKNESS!
She should feel guilty if she engages in pre-marital sex. If she doesnt her concience has become her enemy. Hopefully she will have the character to abstain. I cannot shield her from the wrath of god. The worst thing that can happen to her, is that she be given over to shamefull lusts it will only make her feel ashamed.

Heneni
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How do you feel about oral sex?
 
BucephalusBB

BucephalusBB

ABACABB
Without caring what or who made me, my body was made in such a way that after time my urge for sex arrived and never left again.

When I need to go to the bathroom, I can wait a few hours but after that, I have to or else I come in a nasty situation.
When I am thirsty, I can wait a day perhaps, but eventually I need to drink or else I come in a very nasty situation.
I figured, better have sex before I come in nasty situations there as well :p

I am 27 and still not married and my marriage will be for the girl, so if she doesn't want to marry..., I am very very very happy with my choice back then :D
 
MysticSang'ha

MysticSang'ha

Big Squishy Hugger
Premium Member
I felt guilty before I had premarital sex for the first time. I was raised to think that I shouldn't have those desires before marriage. Even though I talked at length to my mother about it all, I still felt the teachings I learned from the RCC hovering over my conscience, and THAT was more tortuous than any of the regrets I ever felt after a stupid one-night-stand or getting pregnant without a ring on my finger.

Once I did have sex, I felt liberated, and the persistent kind of guilt actually lifted.

And honestly, I have more sex now than I ever did in my wild single days. But of course, I guess that's what happens when you're a whore. ;)
 
Alceste

Alceste

Vagabond
Premarital sex is awesome. Best thing since sliced bread. I only feel guilty because I can't have it with everyone. Just not enough hours in the day. :(
 
Mathematician

Mathematician

Reason, and reason again
I've always enjoyed it, but my encounters are with 1.) dates after a minimum of a few months or 2.) close friends. :)
 
Troublemane

Troublemane

Well-Known Member
I thought the OP said "pre-martial sex", like before practicing karate, and was gonna say that sounded like a bad idea, considering you might get tired (if done right). :D
 
zenzero

zenzero

Its only a Label
friends,
interesting question.
But whatis guilt?
SEX - be it pre or post marital; if it is between 2 consenting individuals then why should there be GUILT in it?
Guilt comes when you do something against yours or anyone's wish Otherwise both are in cloud 9.
Love & rgds
 
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