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Don't settle for happiness?

Geoff-Allen

Geoff-Allen

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Accept your feelings.

Pain is part of life, and accepting what you feel right now is the first step towards your happiness. You may be angry and in so much pain, you might be regretting what you have done in the past. Allowing yourself to feel helps you identify the root cause of your disappointment and the moment you understand this feeling, you shift towards discovering what you want in life and how to get it.

More tips here -

17 Ways To Shed Negativity And Achieve Happiness

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Geoff-Allen

Geoff-Allen

Resident megalomaniac
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How-to Set up a Simple Mobile Meditation Altar
 
Geoff-Allen

Geoff-Allen

Resident megalomaniac
Geoff-Allen

Geoff-Allen

Resident megalomaniac
More from Tiny Buddha -

You can’t control the way people think, feel, or react. Ever. You may try to, you may want to, but ultimately, how they act is up to them.

And when you base your feelings of happiness, worth, or confidence on the actions or reactions of other people, you’re setting yourself up for many moments (or days or even years) of avoidable misery.

There are a few ways to keep hoping for positive interactions with other people, but not get sucked down into the mud and muck when they don’t go as you expect.

How Expectations Undermine Our Relationships & Happiness

Enjoy!
 
Geoff-Allen

Geoff-Allen

Resident megalomaniac
World's happiest man also makes an interesting search ... for example -

Happiness is not the pursuit of an endless succession of experiences. That's a recipe for exhaustion more than happiness. Happiness is a way of being. The challenge is to let that way of being overtake all other emotional states.

Unlike pleasure, which exhausts itself as you experience it, happiness is a skill and cultivated. We all have the potential for it. You have to examine what contributes to a flourishing in your life. In Buddhism we say the root cause of unhappiness is ignorance.

How To Be Happy (According To The World's Happiest Man)

You can even find him on YouTube -

Ricard happiness - YouTube

He also has a website -

Articles - Matthieu Ricard

All the best!

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Geoff-Allen

Geoff-Allen

Resident megalomaniac
Happiness Is a Hard and Joyous Path

by Parker J. Palmer

May 21, 2018

When Mary Oliver wrote this lovely poem, she was 60-plus. This year she is turning 83. But given what she’s been writing of late, I’m pretty sure she still has days when she feels she has wings.

At age 79, I’m always looking for people who model what it means to age with good humor, wisdom, and grace. I love this poem because it offers some guidance on that question.

Full piece here -

Happiness Is a Hard and Joyous Path

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Geoff-Allen

Geoff-Allen

Resident megalomaniac
From another recent email -

“Flow” is that beautiful state of total integration in your present activity. You are there with your whole body, mind and soul, and its as if you disappear, and there is nothing else in the world. Total concentration.

Maybe it is when you are running, or reading a great book, or giving a speech, or drawing. Perhaps when thinking deeply about some matter, or when meditating. Different people access the Flow according to their own passion. It is what moves artists, athletes, writers, and entrepreneurs to give their whole selves into their project. It is also one of the cornerstones of the Daoist philosophy.

How to be happy - 22 life-changing secrets

All the best!
 
Geoff-Allen

Geoff-Allen

Resident megalomaniac
“When [a man] has fair health, a fair fortune, a tidy conscience and a complete exemption from embarrassing relatives,” Henry James wrote in his diary, “I suppose he is bound, in delicacy, to write himself happy.” More than a mere philosophical contemplation, however, James’s observation presages the findings of modern psychology in the quest to reverse-engineer the art-science of happiness. No one has addressed the eternal question of what begets happiness with more rigor and empirical dedication than Dr. Martin Seligman, founding father of Positive Psychology — a movement premised on countering the traditional “disease model” of psychology, which focuses on how to relieve suffering rather than how to amplify well-being. Seligman, whom I first had the pleasure of encountering at my alma mater, the University of Pennsylvania, and who was once elected President of the American Psychological Association by the largest vote in the organization’s history, remains one of the most influential psychologists in the study of happiness.

Read the rest here -

A Simple Exercise to Increase Well-Being and Lower Depression from Martin Seligman, Founding Father of Positive Psychology

All the best!
 
Geoff-Allen

Geoff-Allen

Resident megalomaniac
Another email -

Jokes aside about treating yo’ self, surprisingly, the research has shown that you need to have small wins along the way in order to be truly happy — across many different domains, happiness is more strongly associated with the frequency than the intensity of people’s positive effective experiences.

This is confirmed by many studies dealing with SWLS (Satisfied With Life Scale), which shows that regular small pleasures had a bigger impact on happiness than fewer larger ones. Perhaps this is why it’s often so difficult to put off what we want now for what we want later, so beware of the trap here: tough accomplishments that have to be earned oftentimes result in a happier day-to-day (working hard to get a promotion, start a successful business, win an award, get in shape, etc.)

In what is one of the funniest excerpts I’ve ever stumbled on in a psychology book, Stumbling on Happiness shares this excerpt from a study that shows why the happiest people often only had 1 sexual partner in the past 12 months:

Why would people who have one partner be happier than people who have many? One reason is that multiple partners are occasionally thrilling, but regular partners are regularly enjoyable. A bi-weekly ride on a merry-go-round may be better than an annual ride on a roller coaster.

Clearly a little treat and consistency now and then can go a long way for your happiness while you make plans for your big goals.

The full list -

https://www.sparringmind.com/be-happy/

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