Dying slowly

[sandandfoam]

If you have had someone belonging to you die slowly were you able to draw anything positive from it?

 

[DavyCrocket2003]

Boy, you can hear something all your life, but to hear someone say it that's been through so much pain and only has a few months of life left, changes the meaning entirely. There's something about personal experience that just makes it so much more real... I still cry to recall the message my friend shared with us a few weeks before he died. The context of his words made them so strong.

 

[GURSIKH]

everyone dying slowly :ignore:

 

[Onkara]

Death is a reminder of the value of life. Everything that has a beginning has an end. Nature is in constant cycle and human life and form is no different. Our sleep is death of our day. When someone died who we knew well it can make us question our own life and its value. That questioning itself is something postive. Each moment we are reminder of the mircale of our existence is a gift.

ਪਬਣਿ ਕੇਰੇ ਪਤ ਜਿਉ ਢਲਿ ਢੁਲਿ ਜੁੰਮਣਹਾਰ ॥੧॥
पबणि केरे पत जिउ ढलि ढुलि जुमणहार ॥१॥
[SIZE=+1]Pabaṇ kere paṯ ji▫o dẖal dẖul jummaṇhār. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=+1]Like the leaves of the water-lily, they wither and fade and finally die. [/SIZE]
-Sri Guru Granth Sahib .

 

[YmirGF]

If you have had someone belonging to you die slowly were you able to draw anything positive from it?

My dad went downhill very slowly for two years. I can't say there was very much positive to the experience. He simply gave up his will to live and it took his body quite a while to get used to the idea. It's not much fun seeing a person wasting away.

 

[conradxiong]

Yea, the attitude a person has when they are dying is very contagious. It's probably not easy staying positive during a long drawn out death, but when you see someone staying positive even while they are suffering, it is inspirational and uplifting.

Someone fairly close to me was diagnosed and given only a few months to live. They had been healthy otherwise and were still fairly young. The way she dealt with it though was very inspiring. It made me realise how brave she was and gave me a more positive outlook on death as well as life.

 

[DavyCrocket2003]

One more thing. Knowing that someone you love is going to part ways with you emphasizes how valuable each moment together is. It really changes your perspective of life and what is important. Speaking of death a loved one in general, it makes you want to live a better life. You know what a great person they were and what a great life they lived. When you meet on the other side you don't want them to ask "Sometimes I wish I could have lived longer. I mean, think of all the things I could have done with the rest of my life. So, what did you do with the rest of your life?" "Well, I worked really hard so that I could buy this really big house. And I got payed a lot. I went out with a lot of hot girls too. Oh, and me and my buddies played Halo all the time. I still hold the record for the longest killing spree!" How vain. Ecclesiastes was written by someone who had everything, and when he looked upon all his riches, he realized "all is vanity." Death wakes us up from the mundane pointless pursuits in which we invest so much of our valuable and limited time. It reminds us that the only thing we will be able to take beyond the grave is the person we have become (and the relationships we have built).

 

[bp789]

Well for a religious person, one could say that a family member is with God and happy. For a non-religious perspective, one could think about all the ways that person has changed you. You would probably be grateful about the little small things that he/she did for you, you would appreciate the moments you would spend together, and the life he/she lived.

 

[whereismynotecard]

My wonder is which is worse?

Having someone die and knowing a month in advance or having someone die without any warning whatsoever?
I mean, knowing in advance, you'd have to be sad the whole time, but at least you could have a chance to say anything that needed to be said.
Not knowing in advance doesn't make you suffer for months or years knowing what is going to happen, but then you also might have lots of
unresolved conflicts, and that can be pretty rough too... I've not had anyone I know die slowly over a long period of time, so I cannot
compare the two...

 

[Thesavorofpan]

If you have had someone belonging to you die slowly were you able to draw anything positive from it?

Depending on who it was. It was someone from my church I'll know I'll see them again and I'll make jokes like You'll be seeing Jesus clearer then. And of course lots of prayer with them.
If it was someone who wasn't from my church I would witness to them every moment they got and despratily try to save them. (not through me of course)