tcprowling
Junior Member
I have always had a "battle" with the "Want tos" and the "need tos".
For a while in my past the "want tos" took priority over the "Need tos" and as a result my life became a pretty big mess. There were things like I want to go out tonight with the guys and have a good time, but I need to stay at home and get started on the report required for work in a couple of days time. Of course My choosing to go out and have a good time meant that there was less time to prepare the report and at the very least that report did not turn out as good as it could have been.
There was a time in my life where the line became blurred. I "needed" to have a drink to make me more confident, popular or just to help me make it through the day. the truth was that I was using the " Need to" To Justify my wanting to have a drink.That's when Life can become pretty messed up.
These days I like to think that I have more control over these matters. To achieve this I use five basic tools
Motivation
Planning
goal setting
commitment
and self disclipine.
I guess it comes down to what take priority in your life. On a daily basis now I try to make my "Want tos" a reward for achieving my "need tos". In Other words,I do a bit of self accessing and say " well to day I did all these things I needed to get done. Ok now a have a bit of time to spend On things I want to do for myself.