Erin does a third date

[Meow Mix]

Continuing my new tradition of weekend journaling, but there’s not much to say today.

M and I ended up heading to my old college town for an outdoor concert, but we ended up just slipping into my old dive. Turned out that several people I haven’t seen for a decade were there (and one I hadn’t seen for longer: my aphonia was new to them!)

There was a bit of revelry… we got a bit too toasty to head home. Buuuut I did notice that we were holding hands. That feels really childish to write, but understand, this is just dating, we haven’t declared anything official or anything (and I’m a big chicken about leaving single life behind, so this is kind of a big thing if it turns into something). So, I guess I mean to say that this might turn into a thing?

I still don’t know for sure that I want it to. She’s the one that brought up not seeing anybody else despite not being “an item.”

My typical MO is to date a few people at a time (when I’m looking not to be single) so I get a good grasp on people and who works best for me. So I feel like I should be doing that instinctively. But ostensibly it doesn’t matter as long as you like someone and you mesh well, right?

My love life is a mess. RIP me.

Also, probably more appropriate for the Eros room, but we crashed at one of my friends’ places and they have a 12 year old kid that was the next room over that I’m reasonably sure heard M because she can not be quiet when we’re doing certain things together. So that is very awkward. I was conscious about the noise the whole time and that made me unable to let go and enjoy myself. So, womp womp?

 

[SalixIncendium]

Also, probably more appropriate for the Eros room, but we crashed at one of my friends’ places and they have a 12 year old kid that was the next room over that I’m reasonably sure heard M because she can not be quiet when we’re doing certain things together. So that is very awkward. I was conscious about the noise the whole time and that made me unable to let go and enjoy myself. So, womp womp?

I can relate to this. I can get quite loud myself while playing Pictionary.

I do appreciate you sharing these experiences. I no longer wish to date or pursue any sort of romantic relationship, but I do enjoy experiencing such relationship adventures vicariously through you. Thank you.

 

[SigurdReginson]

So, I guess I mean to say that this might turn into a thing?

Ahhh! Yesss! Love is in the air! The hopeless romantic in me loves seeing where your relationship is heading! I'm excited for yah!

My typical MO is to date a few people at a time (when I’m looking not to be single) so I get a good grasp on people and who works best for me. So I feel like I should be doing that instinctively. But ostensibly it doesn’t matter as long as you like someone and you mesh well, right?

Yah... I guess that depends on what your ultimate goal is. When dating a few people at once, it seems to me that it would be difficult to invest too much of yourself into one person without leaving the others behind. That might make it difficult to really give someone a fair chance if we are talking long term, it seems to me, but then again I am speaking from ignorance.

I can see how it may feel comfortable to have options and to not feel trapped into one specific situation with no reference for comparison. Do you feel like this way is riskier than your usual method for dating?

I feel you're a very self aware person, though, so I think you'll see any non-negotiable red flags that present themselves before you invest too much of yourself in any case. You're doing good, and like I said, I'm excited for yah!

 

[Meow Mix]

Ahhh! Yesss! Love is in the air! The hopeless romantic in me loves seeing where your relationship is heading! I'm excited for yah!



Yah... I guess that depends on what your ultimate goal is. When dating a few people at once, it seems to me that it would be difficult to invest too much of yourself into one person without leaving the others behind. That might make it difficult to really give someone a fair chance if we are talking long term, it seems to me, but then again I am speaking from ignorance.

I can see how it may feel comfortable to have options and to not feel trapped into one specific situation with no reference for comparison. Do you feel like this way is riskier than your usual method for dating?

I feel you're a very self aware person, though, so I think you'll see any non-negotiable red flags that present themselves before you invest too much of yourself in any case. You're doing good, and like I said, I'm excited for yah!

I feel like it is risky in some respects not to “shop around,” but hey, sometimes you find the right thing anyway.