For Christian Parents : Would you allow your children?

[Bishka]

Let's say that you died and your children had to go live with someone else. Let's say this family was LDS and your children would now be raised LDS, would you have an objection? The same with Paganism, Islam, Buddhism, Hindu, etc.

Would you ever put anything in your wills concerning the matter?

What would it mean to your if your children converted to any of these paths?

 

[Gentoo]

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest. As long as my child(ren) were happy, that's all I'd care about, it doesn't matter where they find that happiness.

 

[porkchop]

Let's say that you died and your children had to go live with someone else. Let's say this family was LDS and your children would now be raised LDS, would you have an objection? The same with Paganism, Islam, Buddhism, Hindu, etc.

Would you ever put anything in your wills concerning the matter?

What would it mean to your if your children converted to any of these paths?

Yes, i would have an objection, but hopefully that wouldn't happen. I have thought about it actually, and id say if my mum were alive when i die that id want Jonah to be bought up by her, though he might end up with a weight problem, my mum overfeeds!! Or the pastor and his family of a church we attended where we used to live. No way would myself or Paul want Jonah raised by a non christian, i would want someone to follow on what we have taught him. I would put in my will who i would like to raise Jonah if both Paul and i died, and check with the people if thats ok, thats the kind of thing most people do, isnt it, its why some people have Godparents.

I would be devestated if Jonah converted to any of the above religions, Paul and i will teach him well and pray that he gives his life to the Lord,that is all we can do, it is,afterall, his decision.

 

[MaddLlama]

Regardless of the religion children are raised with, if they have the desire and conviction to follow another religion, they'll do it. It wouldn't have mattered what religion my parents were, I eventually would have found my way to Paganism.

However, I would make it clear to the people whom my children would go to (since, I already do have such stipulated in my will) that my children be given a large amount of freedom to explore different religions if they want to. Not that I think that would be an issue, but I'd want to make sure that whoever is their guardian, that they aren't forced to participate in a specific religion.

 

[Bishka]

I would be devestated if Jonah converted to any of the above religions, Paul and i will teach him well and pray that he gives his life to the Lord,that is all we can do, it is,afterall, his decision.

Would you disown him if he joined any of those faiths? What would be the consequences in your household if he did?

 

[porkchop]

Would you disown him if he joined any of those faiths? What would be the consequences in your household if he did?

Not that i mind discussing this, but isnt it "off topic" ? Why do people wanna know anyway? So they can run me down and rant at me?
I would never disown Jonah, never.

 

[slabbey06]

I don't have any kids yet, but hopefully someday! When I do, and if I and my husband were to die, I would have my children be raised by Christians I trust. I believe parents have the responsibility to teach their children what they believe to be right and true. I believe the Bible to be right and true and that Jesus Christ is the only way, truth, and life. So I'll have the responsibility teach that to my kids, and have others teach that to my kids if I die. Obviously as they get older, they will have to decide for themselves if they believe this or not. If they choose not to believe it, I will be heartbroken, but I won't love them any less or EVER disown them.

 

[UnTheist]

Nope. I would let them believe whatever they want.

 

[rocka21]

and your answers is Becky?

 

[Popeyesays]

My only stipulation is that I won't give up my right to educate them in my faith at the same time. I'm willing to let them decide when they reach maturity.

It's not my right to decline to educate my children religiously;but, I am willing to allow them to be educated in another faith or other faiths at the same time.

Regards,
Scott

 

[Nanda]

I had actually posted something when this thread first popped up, but I deleted it because I'd missed the "Christian Parents" part. But if we can all get in on this, I'll post again.

Ultimately, to me, it doesn't matter. If it makes them happy, then fine. If it doesn't make them happy, they'll question it and possibly look elsewhere for their answers. When it comes down to it, I trust in my child's abilities to find what's right for him.

 

[Bishka]

Not that i mind discussing this, but isnt it "off topic" ?

Not at all, it's along a very similar vein of the OP.

Why do people wanna know anyway?

Curiosity.

 

[Bishka]

and your answers is Becky?

My children are free to worship who and how they would like. As long as they are raised by a loving family that does not push to much on beliefs, I would have no problem. I would like them to be raised in my belief, but they have free will and need to decide for themselves what they believe.

 

[*Paul*]

I love my son and if I died I would love to see him in heaven one day and I would like him to have the best opportunity he can by being raised by Christians under the ministry of the gospel which is the power of God unto salvation.
It is perfectly natural and normal to want the very best for your child.

 

[Bishka]

It is perfectly natural and normal to want the very best for your child.

Never said it wasn't, but I'm curious, would you write something in you will preventing him from being raised non-Christian?

 

[Quiddity]

I probably would. I'd imagine I spent 18 years of there lives trying to pass on something that is dear to me and my wife. Who likes to have their kids say "no" to something you think is important?

 

[*Paul*]

Never said it wasn't, but I'm curious, would you write something in you will preventing him from being raised non-Christian?

I'd never really thought it was an option, but if it is then I would most certainly would, I would make every effort to see that he gets the best chance in life both carnally and spiritually when writing my will.

 

[Bishka]

I'd never really thought it was an option, but if it is then I would most certainly would, I would make every effort to see that he gets the best chance in life both carnally and spiritually when writing my will.

So you would forbid him from even being with a family that isn't your version of Christianity? You wouldn't let him chose for himself?

 

[*Paul*]

So you would forbid him from even being with a family that isn't your version of Christianity? You wouldn't let him chose for himself?

I would forbid someone from making that choice for me, he being a child doesn't get to choose legally the family he wants to live with in the event of his parents death.

 

[Bishka]

I would forbid someone from making that choice for me, he being a child doesn't get to choose legally the family he wants to live with in the event of his parents death.

That's still forbidding him to chose if he wants Christianity or not.