For Christian Parents : Would you allow your children?

[Jaymes]

For the Christian parents that wouldn't let their child be with a nonChristian family: Why do you think that being with a nonChristian family would somehow make your child nonChristian? And even if it did... well, was their faith that strong to begin with? And if it needs to be drilled into a child through living with a Christian family, again, is it really faith? Is living with people that aren't exactly the same as you really that damaging to faith? If so, what does that say about it?

 

[dawny0826]

Let's say that you died and your children had to go live with someone else. Let's say this family was LDS and your children would now be raised LDS, would you have an objection? The same with Paganism, Islam, Buddhism, Hindu, etc.

Would you ever put anything in your wills concerning the matter?

What would it mean to your if your children converted to any of these paths?

If I passed on and my children were raised by Latter Day Saints...I wouldn't object to anything except the fact that the Latter Day Saints do not accept the Trinity. I would hope that my children would at least be exposed to a belief that was so important to their parents.

Otherwise...Latter Day Saint kids are some of the most well behaved children I've encountered and I'm confident that my children would grow up, exposed to Christ, The Word and God's love.

I don't object to my children learning about different faiths, even now.

And when they're old enough to decide which church/religion suits them...I will certainly encourage them to explore the religion that gives them peace and encourages them to be good, loving people. My wishes wouldn't be any different for them if I weren't physically here with them.

We would emphasize to WHOM we wanted our children to live with if we passed on. Probably...one of my sisters. Both would raise them similar to the way we would. Both happen to be Trinitarian Christians but if they weren't...I'd still want the girls to go to them.

 

[nutshell]

I don't think this is something you can put in a will or, if you did, it wouldn't hold.

 

[Katzpur]

Let's say that you died and your children had to go live with someone else. Let's say this family was LDS and your children would now be raised LDS, would you have an objection? The same with Paganism, Islam, Buddhism, Hindu, etc.

Would you ever put anything in your wills concerning the matter?

What would it mean to your if your children converted to any of these paths?

If my children were young when I died, I would definitely want them to be raised LDS. As a matter of fact, years ago, when they actually were young and my husband and I had wills drawn up, we made provisions for my sister and her husband to raise our children if we were to die. My sister and her husband are agnostic and atheist respectively, but both were raised LDS. My sister promised me that if she and her husband ever were in a position to raise my kids, they would respect our wishes and raise them as Mormons. There is nothing in our wills that would have enforced this, though.

Neither one of my kids, now 27 and 25, are currently practicing Latter-day Saints and my son intends to marry a Catholic girl and raise their children as Catholics. I'm not thrilled about that (i.e my grandchildren being raised Catholic), but I can think of a lot worse things -- like him breaking up with her, for instance. I like her a whole lot better than I like my daughter's husband, who was raised LDS and has convinced her that she doesn't even want kids.

 

[porkchop]

Not at all, it's along a very similar vein of the OP.






Curiosity.

Whatever you say, Becky, whatever you say.

 

[Bishka]

Whatever you say, Becky, whatever you say.

Would you disown him if he joined any of those faiths? What would be the consequences in your household if he did?

Let's say that you died and your children had to go live with someone else. Let's say this family was LDS and your children would now be raised LDS, would you have an objection? The same with Paganism, Islam, Buddhism, Hindu, etc.

Would you ever put anything in your wills concerning the matter?

What would it mean to your if your children converted to any of these paths?

Does this help?

 

[joeboonda]

The Bible teaches us to raise our children in the fear and admonition of the Lord, to teach them what is right so when they are older even if they depart from it for a time, they will return. Although they are allowed to believe anything they want, as long as they are under my roof, they will hear what I believe. When they go out on their own, they can do what they will.

 

[MysticSang'ha]

Let's say that you died and your children had to go live with someone else. Let's say this family was LDS and your children would now be raised LDS, would you have an objection? The same with Paganism, Islam, Buddhism, Hindu, etc.

Would you ever put anything in your wills concerning the matter?

What would it mean to your if your children converted to any of these paths?

Well, since I'm the only practicing Buddhist in our household, I kind of go through that anyway. And now with our two youngest children being baptised into Christ, that's something that I support.

Kids are going to believe what kids are going to believe. That's not something anyone can have forced onto them if they truly don't believe it.

Besides, our kids aren't exactly sure about how to specifically define their beliefs...........my daughter called me up the other day at her dad's after her baptism asking me if we'll go shopping for a Dancing Shiva statue and to read more Hindu books. At this point, I'm still shopping for a gift for her and for my son as a congratulatory gift for their baptism - and now she's bringing up Shiva?

All I can say is our children rarely go where we as parents wish they would go for our own convenience. Sure, it would be much more convenient if all of our kids would like classic rock like Steve and I do, if they all would like the same parlor games Steve and I like (they all hate charades), and so on. Jeez, none of them can stand theatre performance except for the huge blockbuster Hollywood movies...........

...........there might be hope with our daughter who appreciates the graphic arts. But, you know, we shall see.

It is SOOOOOOO much easier to act as a parent and to guide them once they see they have your support and acceptance for their goals and beliefs - and hence their individuality. It sounds better having a whole bunch of little Heathers running around that believe everything that I do. But in reality, that's just stressing oneself out over things that one can't control.

It's just that I already have enough on my plate dealing with my own self and coming to terms with my own perspective. Why would I want to have 5 more Heathers to deal with? (a husband and four children) LOL




Peace,
Mystic

 

[MysticSang'ha]

Of course, I just replied as a Buddhist, and not as a Christian parent. *doh*

Sorry, y'all. I just realized that the poll is not meant for me.




Peace,
Mystic

 

[Mike182]

i would have it in my will that my children's guardians have my trust with regards to such decisions. however, i would never choose a guardian who i think would impose a religion upon my children. my children will be free to learn about and join what ever religions they want, the only thing i will teach them for sure is to respect other people's choices and not to impose on those choices.

i didn't answer the poll, because i would have no problems at all with my kids being brought up in a household that is religious, but i would have a problem with them being pushed and pressured into that religion. my answer falls in between the two available

 

[*Paul*]

That's still forbidding him to chose if he wants Christianity or not.

How exactly? All I am doing is stopping the people of other faiths raising my son, he is still free to choose. Being born again is a door you must enter alone by the help of the Holy Spirit, it is impossible to choose it for him. All I am doing is pointing out my wishes for his spiritual welfare whilst he is under guardianship - even during that time he would be free to reject Christianity, it is impossible to make someone be a Christian.