What Luke is referring to, If you love your father and mother and brother and sister more than Christ Jesus can not be his disciple.
Your first love is to God.
It doesn't say to love them at all, first or second to God. It's not the individuals you hate, it's the flesh that they represent. Hate mammon, love God. When one doesn't understand the sword, separating fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, they don't understand what the difference is in flesh and spirit.
Christ said his mother and brethren were his disciples and not Mary and his fleshly brothers.
Matthew:
47 Then one said unto him, Behold, thy mother and thy brethren stand without, desiring to speak with thee.
48 But he answered and said unto him that told him, Who is my mother? and who are my brethren?
49 And he stretched forth his hand toward his disciples, and said, Behold my mother and my brethren!
50 For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother.
The Holy Spirit is Christs mother. Not Mary. Mary is Jesus mother. Know your true mother and father, who is spirit, not flesh. This is what born again means. Of your true parents.
Gospel of Thomas:
(99) The disciples said to him, "Your brothers and your mother are standing outside."
He said to them, "Those here who do the will of my father are my brothers and my mother. It is they who will enter the kingdom of my father."
(101) <Jesus said,> "Whoever does not hate his father and his mother as I do cannot become a disciple to me. And whoever does not love his father and his mother as I do cannot become a disciple to me. For my mother [...], but
my true mother gave me life."
Jesus true mother was the Holy Spirit, not Mary. And to be a son of God, we must see the same.
John:
It is the spirit that quickeneth; the flesh profiteth nothing: the words that I speak unto you, they are spirit, and they are life.
It's not hard for me to see.