Getting "checked out" by a stranger

[Comicaze247]

Well, I'm at the school library on the computer right now, and I was checking out this girl and got caught. Now what crossed my mind is this question: is she flattered or offended? So I ask that question to you: when somebody checks you out, are you flattered or disgusted? Why or why not?

Naturally, I'd think guys are flattered and women are 50/50, but I'd like to see for myself.

 

[Storm]

My option isn't up there. It depends, not on who, but how. I can't tell you what the difference between flattering appreciation and offensive leering is, but believe me it's important.

Oh, except that any grunting automatically pushes you into the offensive zone.

 

[Comicaze247]

Ah, yeah, I didn't think about that one. That is true. What would make it not offensive? Because honestly, when I check out an extremely attractive woman, I do not mean it to be offensive at all. I usually have a look of shock and awe, lol.

 

[Storm]

It's a vibe thing. Creepy vibe = offensive leering.

 

[Comicaze247]

Well, I suppose how they're checking you out could be a reflection of who the person is, so compromise and choose the 3rd? lol

 

[Storm]

LOL, ok.

 

[Zephyr]

I've never been offended, but not really flattered either.

 

[Gentoo]

It depends on so many different things with me: who it is, how they do it, the setting, and most importantly, how I'm feeling. A lot of times I just want to blend into the background and not attract any attention, if someone's checking me out, I'm not doing a good enough job at blending.. there are times when it upsets me but that's my issue, obviously the guy doesn't know that..

 

[Buttercup]

As long as the gaze isn't a leer, it's usually flattering. I don't really care for it if it's repeated over and over though. And, women can feel the glances even if we aren't looking directly your way.

One aspect I could not stand when I was a lot younger however was being heavily checked out or leered at by much older men. That always gave me the creeps. My daughter feels the same way.

 

[whereismynotecard]

It depends. Some people are creepy, and it's just creepy when they look at me, but some of them I think "awww... they likes me..."

 

[Magic Man]

As expected, as a guy, I am flattered, even if it's a guy checking me out. Obviously, it's always better when it's a hot chick, but regardless, if someone thinks I'm attractive, it feels good.

 

[9-10ths_Penguin]

Under most circumstances, I wouldn't mind being "checked out", but it happens most often for me at my martial arts classes: the community centre where we have them is in Little Italy. The time we have in the gym overlaps with the time for drop-in cards in the area just outside, so while we're standing around wearing our hakama, we get stared down by dozens of half-smiling elderly men muttering to each other in Italian. It's kinda creepy.

 

[Magic Man]

OK, thanks to Penguin, I'm changind my answer. If I'm being checked out by a bunch of older men muttering to each other, then, I'm probably more creeped out than flattered.

 

[methylatedghosts]

*sigh* I get this ALLLL the time...

No, but when it does happen, it just tells me what I already know - that I'm one fine human specimen

So it's kinda flattering.

 

[Apex]

I think I would be flattered if I saw someone checking me out. However, I wouldn't know if a girl was flirting with me if she ran up and ripped her shirt off. So you can imagine how hard it is for me to recognize someone who is "checking me out".

 

[Azakel]

I think I would be flattered if I saw someone checking me out. However, I wouldn't know if a girl was flirting with me if she ran up and ripped her shirt off. So you can imagine how hard it is for me to recognize someone who is "checking me out".

LOL, yeah I'm the same why. Though if I did recognize it I might wounder what's going though her mind and why me? lol

 

[3.14]

yes

no

 

[Apex]

LOL, yeah I'm the same why. Though if I did recognize it I might wounder what's going though her mind and why me? lol

Same here.

 

[Apex]

yes

no

Aww, but the second guy has the cute "Im going to kill you in your sleep" look. Who can resist that?

 

[Guitar's Cry]

I'm an exhibitionist, egotistical, man-whore.

I love it.