Getting "checked out" by a stranger

[Stellify]

My option isn't up there. It depends, not on who, but how. I can't tell you what the difference between flattering appreciation and offensive leering is, but believe me it's important.

Oh, except that any grunting automatically pushes you into the offensive zone.

:yes:
Completely agree.

 

[Comicaze247]

I think I would be flattered if I saw someone checking me out. However, I wouldn't know if a girl was flirting with me if she ran up and ripped her shirt off. So you can imagine how hard it is for me to recognize someone who is "checking me out".

Haha, I was that way for a loooong time, so I know what you mean. It took a jealous girlfriend for me to notice those kinds of things.

 

[Buttercup]

A small note to keep in mind, men.......just because a girl looks your way once or maybe even twice, doesn't necessarily mean she wants you. Sometimes we simply like to look and smile....for no other reason than to be nice.

 

[Smoke]

I like being checked out by men or by women; I don't care. I even like being propositioned by either sex, even if I have no interest in accepting. What I mean is, even if you don't want to dance, it's nice to be asked.

However, when I was younger and cuter I definitely hated it when older people came on to me in a leering and presumptuous kind of way, and I especially hated it if some older guy in a bar presumed to put his hands on me. I don't have that problem so much any more, now that I'm in the older range of guys in the bar.

Now that I'm older, what I hate is transparent flattery from younger people. "Oh, you're so handsome, and you don't look a day over thirty." Please. I do have a mirror at home, you know. It's patronizing and it's an insult to my intelligence.

 

[Buttercup]

I like being checked out by men or by women; I don't care. I even like being propositioned by either sex, even if I have no interest in accepting. What I mean is, even if you don't want to dance, it's nice to be asked.

I think most women would agree. I love being checked out, it's all in the way it's done that makes a difference though. Maybe men aren't picky about that aspect.

I have to also add that if a man stares at me long and hard while he's with his wife, I want to punch him.

 

[Azakel]

I think most women would agree. I love being checked out, it's all in the way it's done that makes a difference though. Maybe men aren't picky about that aspect.

I have to also add that if a man stares at me long and hard while he's with his wife, I want to punch him.

Well it's a good thing I don't have a wife then :areyoucra ^_^

 

[Comicaze247]

I think most women would agree. I love being checked out, it's all in the way it's done that makes a difference though. Maybe men aren't picky about that aspect.

I have to also add that if a man stares at me long and hard while he's with his wife, I want to punch him.

My girlfriend is bi, and she likes to check out women too. Sometimes she'll even say to me, "Whoa! That girl is GORGEOUS! Look!" And of course, I make the sacrifice and look too :yes:

 

[Buttercup]

My girlfriend is bi, and she likes to check out women too. Sometimes she'll even say to me, "Whoa! That girl is GORGEOUS! Look!" And of course, I make the sacrifice and look too :yes:

Lol! You don't have to be bi to do that...on occasion I point hotties out to my husband as well. And, he actually does the same for me sometimes too.

 

[Stellify]

Lol! You don't have to be bi to do that...on occasion I point hotties out to my husband as well. And, he actually does the same for me sometimes too.

Haha same here. I point out hot chicks to my guy friends all the time We also get into heated discussion about whether or not particular girls (often actresses) are hot. It's fun

 

[BHSU_Student]

Well, I'm at the school library on the computer right now, and I was checking out this girl and got caught. Now what crossed my mind is this question: is she flattered or offended? So I ask that question to you: when somebody checks you out, are you flattered or disgusted? Why or why not?

Naturally, I'd think guys are flattered and women are 50/50, but I'd like to see for myself.

Well, typically when i catch a girl gazing at me, I do not assume that they are checking me out. A person can be looking at you for several reasons. They could be gazing at you because you look like someone they've met before, they could be looking at something that is behind you, or something or someone close in your vicinity. When I do catch someone, I feel neither flattered or disgusted, because the reason or direction of their gaze is uncertain at that point. Though, it really depends on the situation and the type of gazing behavior that is employed.

In psychology, body language is not black and white. For example, if a person avoids eye contact when asked to tell the truth, it does not mean that they are lying, (although that is popular belief). Looking at a face is associated with high cognitive load. In other words, looking away from a person's face can actually help a person free up more brain cells to say, recall a past event. There is actually no correlation between dishonesty and gaze behavior. Most people believe that they are exceptional at detecting deception behavior, but the truth is most people are horrible.

If a women smiles and looks at you, those aren't necassary signs that they are checking you out. In fact men can often misinterpret these as signals of interest. If I recalled it correctly, women typically smile more often in comparison to men, maybe because this is expected from society (though that may also be a gender stereotype.)

 

[Draka]

Now that I'm older, what I hate is transparent flattery from younger people. "Oh, you're so handsome, and you don't look a day over thirty." Please. I do have a mirror at home, you know. It's patronizing and it's an insult to my intelligence.

In their defense, looking at your profile pic, you don't look that old to me at all...and you ARE quite a handsome man. :yes: At least IMO...and if anyone disagrees with me they can kiss my boo-tay.



As for being checked out, it has something to do with who is checking me out. Having been a karaoke and pool shooting girl for a few years I can't tell you how many times I was checked out or hit on...and getting checked out by the creepy drunk guy who likes to hang on the ladies all the time is NOT cool. However, getting checked out by the cute newcomer to the bar is always a good thing. That is, until you find out he's a two-timing arse.

 

[Comicaze247]

Well, typically when i catch a girl gazing at me, I do not assume that they are checking me out. A person can be looking at you for several reasons. They could be gazing at you because you look like someone they've met before, they could be looking at something that is behind you, or something or someone close in your vicinity. When I do catch someone, I feel neither flattered or disgusted, because the reason or direction of their gaze is uncertain at that point. Though, it really depends on the situation and the type of gazing behavior that is employed.

In psychology, body language is not black and white. For example, if a person avoids eye contact when asked to tell the truth, it does not mean that they are lying, (although that is popular belief). Looking at a face is associated with high cognitive load. In other words, looking away from a person's face can actually help a person free up more brain cells to say, recall a past event. There is actually no correlation between dishonesty and gaze behavior. Most people believe that they are exceptional at detecting deception behavior, but the truth is most people are horrible.

If a women smiles and looks at you, those aren't necassary signs that they are checking you out. In fact men can often misinterpret these as signals of interest. If I recalled it correctly, women typically smile more often in comparison to men, maybe because this is expected from society (though that may also be a gender stereotype.)

There's a certain look in your eyes when you check someone out. And I'm sure it's pretty clear that someone's checking you out when their eyes travel up and down your body.

 

[Storm]

Now that I'm older, what I hate is transparent flattery from younger people. "Oh, you're so handsome, and you don't look a day over thirty." Please. I do have a mirror at home, you know. It's patronizing and it's an insult to my intelligence.

In their defense, looking at your profile pic, you don't look that old to me at all...and you ARE quite a handsome man. :yes: At least IMO...and if anyone disagrees with me they can kiss my boo-tay.

I have to agree with Draka, you look great in that pic. If pressed, I would guess you were about 30, but I'm really bad at guessing ages.

 

[Phasmid]

I'd be flattered. But most of the time I look at the ground as I was about so as not to trip over something. So when people look at me it actually makes me angry because my mind says, "They're looking down on you" especially since no one seems to get out of my damn way and I end up walking in the road... /rant

First 3 words still stand >_>

 

[BHSU_Student]

There's a certain look in your eyes when you check someone out. And I'm sure it's pretty clear that someone's checking you out when their eyes travel up and down your body.

Perhaps, but like I said, its not black and white. I looked a girl up a down once, and it wasn't because I was checking her out. About a month ago she wore these shoes which made her much taller, and upon meeting her again, my mind felt there was some sort of inconsistency. It was like a jot in my brain, which seemed to reflexively elicit a search for what was inconsistent.

She was needlessly insulted. Perhaps it was because she interpreted my body language as offensive leering.

 

[Mike182]

This will sound entirely shallow, but if I think the guy checking me out is hot, I will alter my pose/walk and milk it for all it's worth. If I don't think they're hot, or it's a girl, I'll just ignore it.

 

[BucephalusBB]

I'd be offended if they didn't check me out

 

[Nessa]

This will sound entirely shallow, but if I think the guy checking me out is hot, I will alter my pose/walk and milk it for all it's worth. If I don't think they're hot, or it's a girl, I'll just ignore it.

Not at all , checking people out or responding to it is as natural as flirting. Sometimes it works for both of you and sometimes it doesn't.

 

[LezEmoYin]

i generally cant go anywhere without being looked at so for me it all about how much attention i give others

biggoted people lack self control n admirers may deserve acknowledgement of some kind it depends how much i want to complain to a friend for the sake of it or how much good im able to do that moment by giving a smile :0)

 

[Shadow Wolf]

It just depends on who it is and how they go about it.