Every single human being in the world at some time thinks that "if only" this or that one of our conditions could be met then we'd all be set. "If only I had a girlfriend/boyfriend/million bucks, then I'd be happy." Or in the case of the more spiritually minded: "If only I were enlightened, then that would settle everything once and for all." Think again.
An old Chinese Zen master once said, "From birth to death, it's just like this!"
We always want to believe that somewhere there's a perfect solution, if only we weren't barred from it. But that's not the reality.
We alaways imagine that there's got to be somewhere else better than where we are right now; this is the Great Somewhere Else we all carry around in our heads. We believe Somewhere Else is out there for us if only we could find it. But there's no Somewhere Else. Everything is right here.