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Once you're in a relationship with someone, you'll probably develop increasing confidence as the relationship goes on. Remember everything we do has a learning curve. To skillfully cope with people you're in a relationship with involves at least as much learning as anything else you'll do in life. As you learn, you'll probably become more and more confident.
Kori
Dark Valkyrie...what's not to love?
Then I need to get major plastic surgery.
Well I may not think a shy woman may not work out. I am attracted to Strong Women.
I was going to go with old but fat may work.
Kori
Dark Valkyrie...what's not to love?
Cats are better.
Aquitaine
Well-Known Member
Out of curiosity, are you attracted to strong confident women because you feel "she" can be the more socially dominant one of the couple, rather than yourself, since you admit you're a shy person?
Kori
Dark Valkyrie...what's not to love?
It's a little more complicated than that.
Aquitaine
Well-Known Member
Fair enough. Feel free to elaborate if you want.
Kori
Dark Valkyrie...what's not to love?
Well I guess another thing about me liking a strong woman is I like to be dominated. Sexually. A strong woman would do a better job at that.
Aquitaine
Well-Known Member
Fair enough, that makes sense.
Buttercup
Veteran Member
@Kori
I can't give more advice other than what you've already been given by the men in the thread because they've basically said what I'd say.
I'll express a few points that I find attractive in a man and hopefully that helps a little.
1. A man who's comfortable in his own skin. His personality type doesn't necessarily matter.
He can be assertive, subdued, shy or somewhere in between. As long he exudes acceptance of himself - that's a major attractant.
2. Playfulness. I much prefer men who don't take themselves, their intellect, their job or the world at large too seriously.
I like someone who can balance deep thought and intellectualism with fun and combine those two aspects skillfully and creatively. Total turn on.
3. A sense of humor that matches closely with mine is an absolute must for any long term relationship. Because, after the infatuation and lust fades, you have to be able to make each other laugh and be best friends. That's almost more important than any other factor as far as attaining longevity in relationships, at least in my opinion.
4. Kindness. An absolute requirement. I like men who are readily kind to strangers, old people, kids, dogs, my family and anyone else they run across. I'm not attracted to men who don't regularly offer kind words to others or who are overly stoic. Yuk.
I hope that is a little help. I have a feeling you have a few of those points wrapped up already.
Work on your self confidence and you'll have a better outcome with women. Only you can increase your self confidence, it's a job you have to do yourself and the first step is to quit saying that you have no confidence. Banish that thought and replace it with "Hey, I'm a nice guy and have a lot to offer." Smile inwardly and dwell on the positive parts of yourself and quit listening to the negative. And, practice your charm. You have it. Show it more often.
I can't give more advice other than what you've already been given by the men in the thread because they've basically said what I'd say.
I'll express a few points that I find attractive in a man and hopefully that helps a little.
1. A man who's comfortable in his own skin. His personality type doesn't necessarily matter.
He can be assertive, subdued, shy or somewhere in between. As long he exudes acceptance of himself - that's a major attractant.
2. Playfulness. I much prefer men who don't take themselves, their intellect, their job or the world at large too seriously.
I like someone who can balance deep thought and intellectualism with fun and combine those two aspects skillfully and creatively. Total turn on.
3. A sense of humor that matches closely with mine is an absolute must for any long term relationship. Because, after the infatuation and lust fades, you have to be able to make each other laugh and be best friends. That's almost more important than any other factor as far as attaining longevity in relationships, at least in my opinion.
4. Kindness. An absolute requirement. I like men who are readily kind to strangers, old people, kids, dogs, my family and anyone else they run across. I'm not attracted to men who don't regularly offer kind words to others or who are overly stoic. Yuk.
I hope that is a little help. I have a feeling you have a few of those points wrapped up already.
Work on your self confidence and you'll have a better outcome with women. Only you can increase your self confidence, it's a job you have to do yourself and the first step is to quit saying that you have no confidence. Banish that thought and replace it with "Hey, I'm a nice guy and have a lot to offer." Smile inwardly and dwell on the positive parts of yourself and quit listening to the negative. And, practice your charm. You have it. Show it more often.