hey Mothers :) i have questions for you

[Rakhel]

LOL if I must explain....
my second child,as with most of my kids, had her cord wrapped around her neck. Because of this, she reached the end of her rope-so to speak.on her way out. At this point,the cord started to cut off blood flow to her brain and her heart started slowing down. He was in such a rush that they had not prepared for such an emergency(this hospital had a few malpractice suits following this). In any event,he did not have forceps, or the vacuum(sounds too scary for me), and she was too far down the canal to do a C-section.
When her heart stopped, without thinking,this doctor, with both hands,reached inside me,grabbed my daughter by the shoulders and yanked her out.


Now I know I have scared anyone from having kids.

 

[MysticSang'ha]

ST -

I was terrified before I had kids. Once I was in my third trimester with Tyler, I had nightmares of my body literally splitting in half. Remember how I had issues with what seemed to be my body being out of control?

After I gave birth, I felt like SuperWoman. I couldn't stop marvelling at what I was able to do. It was such an affirmation. :yes:

 

[Kathryn]

hi i am curious about how you felt during pregnancy, how your emotions changed, how it felt like to hold your baby in your arms first time ...etc. basically, how did it feel like to become a mother? are you a better woman or a better person now thanks to your experience as a mother?

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AWWWWwww, what a great thread. Your questions bring back a lot of memories for me.

I have four children, and I also had a miscarriage, and a stillborn twin in my last pregnancy, and three high risk pregnancies and one very healthy and drama-free pregnancy. Three of my pregnancies were planned and one was a huge surprise. So I think I've run the gamut of emotions!

I won't bore you with all the details. Let's just say as the pregnancies progressed, I became more and more attached to that little person growing inside of me. By the time each of them were here, I was madly in love with them. The first time I held them in my arms was without exception amazing.

Pregnancy is a volatile time emotionally. I remember one particular event, before I knew I was pregnant with my first son. My cat had kittens, and the minute I laid eyes on them, I burst into tears - because, well, because they were just so...wee...and sweet...

I remember that anything even remotely related to babies and a mother's love would make me cry happy tears, if that makes sense.

After my first child was born, and they had taken me to my room, it was about an hour before they brought her to me from the nursery. What was really odd about this (come to find out it's very common) was that after about 20 hours of labor, I was FILLED with energy and excitement (aka adrenaline!). So I jumped up out of the bed and went into the bathroom to take a shower. I remember looking at my young, 20 year old face in the mirror and saying to myself, "I'm a MOTHER." It was unbelievable to me. Then I got into the shower and my body felt so alien. Everything felt odd. (I think the Demerol they gave me had a lot to do with this!) But I knew that my life was irrevokeably changed from that moment forward. And I had mixed emotions about this. I was nearly giddy with love for my new baby - but I was also scared, intimidated, and unsure of myself.

These negative feelings dissipated the moment they wheeled that bassinet into my room and I held that beautiful child in my arms.

The unsure feelings resurfaced of course - in fact, they still do from time to time and my youngest is 17.

Motherhood is the gift that keeps on giving! And sometimes those gifts are really random...

Motherhood definitely redefined my personal character and I believe it made me a much better person. I was a wild party animal until the moment I tested positive with my first pregnancy. It was like an instant, cataclysmic shift in my whole set of priorities - and definitely for the better.

This is me with my first child - when she was five days old. As you can tell, I was absolutely smitten.

 

[Vasilisa Jade]

That's an adorable picture! I can't believe you were 20! I'm 24! Aaahhh...

Sometimes I am afraid I am going to wait too long and never do it. But... I am picky about where I am at in life and my relationship. I refuse to get married until I have had a happy relationship for at least 3 years (which I am currently going on 3 ), 2 of that live in. I refuse to consider kids until I have been married happily for at least 2 years or so, and the qualifiers are that both of us are financially stable. Everything is moving along perfect so far, except the boyfriend being financially stable. He is easily able to fix this. It just takes a little work on his part, and I am trying to be patient .

 

[*Anne*]

hi i am curious about how you felt during pregnancy, how your emotions changed, how it felt like to hold your baby in your arms first time ...etc. basically, how did it feel like to become a mother? are you a better woman or a better person now thanks to your experience as a mother?

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I haven't read past Page 3 yet ~ it's never a surprise to find women happy to discuss pregnancy and beyond. I suspect it's because it's such a game-changer.

Aside from the initial morning sickness, I felt wonderful being pregnant, both emotionally and physically. I exercised at full speed right up until the day of delivery. Knockout

Holding my little ones for the first time was so sweet. I already loved them deeply, but now I could see their faces, kiss those teeny noses. :hearts: I never let the nurses take them, and when each girl had to spend a short period of time in the nursery, I dragged in a chair and sat next to them. (I'm a classic Mama Bear.)

After the initial post-delivery adrenaline surge, I had moments where I was very overwhelmed by my responsibility. That went away with time though. Sleep helped. (Chronic lack of sleep can make you nutty.)

For me personally...yes, becoming a mother made me a better person. I was very self-involved prior to having children.

 

[*Anne*]

Okay, I have this beautiful picture of my daughter and me on the day of her Christening. I appear awake (ha) and have my hair and make up done.

Naturally, I can't find it.

I did find one taken within a few days of her birth, and it's without question more accurate. Taken in the middle of the night by Daddy, I'm barely awake, hair is up in a ponytail, and not a stitch of make up on my face. I don't seem to care though. You're exhausted, you're mentally fuzzy, you're bleeding , but who cares...you're in love. :hearts:

That little baby just turned 15 last week.

 

[GalS]

i am not sure if should ask what happened.

were you more scared or calmer when you were going to give birth to your second child? how do you think experience of first pregnancy effect the next one psychologically?



it was a personal question i mean, i don't want you to compare two persons. of course, it could not be fair to compare two different people. i would like to hear comparison between you now and then. and i don't think having a child makes people better or worse or people without child could not be better. any experience could be used to become better people in case people wanted. but seems like having a kid forces people to act selfless. so i think it is not an ordinary experience. you could not come up and say "oh i change my mind, i don't want to be parent anymore" or "this baby cries too much, i want to change it with another one."

I was calm at the beginning, but then my contractions were more painful than with my first. But my precious son had another ideas, his arm came out first. I remember I was just laying there, in pain, crying and the doctors were talking to me and telling me that my baby was not in the correct position. One of them told me that they had to do a C Section and the other said that it was too late, I did not wanted a C section so the doctor inserted his hand to accomodate the baby in the right position.But he was born a HUGE and super chubby baby, I remember the first time I looked at him, I didn't know if I was about to laugh or cry so I did both.

So that birth experience definately affected me, if I have another child I will have a C Section becuase there's no way I'm going through that again. I thought my second birth was going to be easy becuase my first was but I was so wrong.

Little Jr always getting on my nerves he was special since the beginning

I am the same but with two beautiful babies of my own, becuase I was a mama before my babies. I'm an elementary school teacher, usually with the lower grades. So I'm surrounded by little ones daily, but having my own made me even more responsible and I found out how big my heart it.

 

[Kathryn]

That's an adorable picture! I can't believe you were 20! I'm 24! Aaahhh...

Sometimes I am afraid I am going to wait too long and never do it. But... I am picky about where I am at in life and my relationship. I refuse to get married until I have had a happy relationship for at least 3 years (which I am currently going on 3 ), 2 of that live in. I refuse to consider kids until I have been married happily for at least 2 years or so, and the qualifiers are that both of us are financially stable. Everything is moving along perfect so far, except the boyfriend being financially stable. He is easily able to fix this. It just takes a little work on his part, and I am trying to be patient .

Well, good luck. It sounds like you're using a lot of common sense about this, and you'll probably be able to provide a great home and really good start for your baby.

 

[*Anne*]

But... I am picky about where I am at in life and my relationship. I refuse to get married until I have had a happy relationship for at least 3 years (which I am currently going on 3 ), 2 of that live in. I refuse to consider kids until I have been married happily for at least 2 years or so, and the qualifiers are that both of us are financially stable.

That's almost exactly what I did (we were married one year). It's a good plan!

 

[beenie]

so i have six daughters, all born withinin ten years.
i breastfed them all for two years and will finish breastfeeding the 6th one soon; she'll be two next month. i tandem nursed the first two because they were born pretty close together.

my husband and i planned on waiting two years before starting a family, but things don't always go as planned, and i'm glad. i got pregnant a few months after we got married (despite BC--NOT pills)...anyway, that's a recurring theme with me.

none of our children were "planned" and we didn't "try" either. they just showed up.

anyway, i did have some nausea with all of them--some worse, some not so bad. the feeling i loved the most was the movement; that feeling is like no other, and as soon as they're born i felt so empty. it's hard to describe, because as ready as i was to have them (i went TO my due date and BEYOND all six times) i regretted wanting to rush through the pregnancies.

i'm quite petite in stature (about 5'5" and weigh around 90 lbs) but during pregnancy i gained anywhere from 45-65 pounds luckily i lost the weight quickly each time, but it was quite a dramatic change.

i had very very fast labors, so i lucked out there. i never had time to get any pain meds, and i never had an IV or anything else. doctors were all amazed that someone of my stature would labor and deliver so fast...and my babies were NOT small and had some big noggins.

my longest labor was under TWO hours from start to delivery, and they got progressively faster. my sixth daughter was the biggest sniper and was born in my van on the way to the hospital. yep, hubby was driving and i delivered her myself as we pulled into the hospital parking lot. that labor was lees than 1/2 hour total. my first contraction was at about 8:10 p.m. and she was born at 8:40ish p.m. i didn't think to look at the clock, lol. that's the time the nurse put down because she got to our van at 8:42 p.m.

anyway, all funny stories aside, i miss being pregnant and i miss the innocence an beauty of a newborn. it goes way too fast and there is no way to slow it down. i love seeing and holding them for the first time; their eyes are so explorative. their little faces so sweet and new. i refused to let them take my babies away until they had cuddled and bonded with my husband and me. they could be cleaned later, lol. i miss all of the newness and getting to know each other phase

but each stage has its beauty. aaaaand i have lots of helpers.

 

[*Anne*]

so i have six daughters, all born withinin ten years.

:cover::faint: