Hobbies

[VoidCat]

To those saying just don't listen to what others think havent been through what I have and it feels dismissive. I'm not currently listening to what others think. But how you are raised does have an impact and it can go deep. The amount of things I've had to relearn in order to be healthy is numerous. It used to be I wouldn't even talk about things that interested me because "no one cares." Also I was lead to believe that my interests were pathological because I'm autistic.

So yes I have a lot of internalized issues I'm dealing with. It's not as simple as ignore what others think

 

[VoidCat]

Interesting post. I think we have all been criticised for our interests as children and even as adults. Perhaps some of us can cope with criticism better than others? My main hobby is bird watching, it's not considered very manly and I've copped my fair share of criticism but I don't really care what other people think. I'm not sure if it's possible to change how we react to other peoples criticisms, it's probably the way we were born.

It's not criticism that's the issue. It went a lot more beyond that as a child. It's one thing to have criticism another to be flat out abused and neglected for just being you.

I can cope ok with criticism. It's the internalized issues I'm dealing with.

 

[Revoltingest]

So yes I have a lot of internalized issues I'm dealing with. It's not as simple as ignore what others think

That's why I advise coping.
To ignore is impossible.

 

[VoidCat]

Every time i learn something new about the mistreatment you received as a child the more it upsets me. I just glad you turned out ok despite what you went through.

And that's some of the problem you are now facing. You don't need to learn, it just happens when you find something that interests you. I know you like to learn, i guess that's one of your hobbies but because of your childhood you don't see it as a hobby. And writing poetry, your furry activities, even your text friends are hobbies.
There are probably quite a few things that you do that other people would consider to be hobbies.

It's not a point of you finding hobbies etc, i think it's more re-evaluating what you already do.

You are correct I have hobbies. Tho I'll say sometimes I feel guilt over them.

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