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It's my ex-wife who is the mother of my daughter. My current wife is technically LDS, never got kicked out as far as I know, but isn't active and hasn't expressed any interest in religion.I didn't know your wife was LDS, Kungfuzed.
That's true. Some people are more inclined to believe what they are told and some people are more likely to question things. Whether that is nature or nurture is debatable.Sounds like a good idea. That's how I was raised. Actually, it was more by example than my actually being taught. I think whether your daughter turns out to be a "questioner" or not may end up being part of her internal make-up more than anything else. I think you can teach your kids that it's okay to doubt and that it's NOT okay to just accept everything they're told. But as with everything else, some people are just more inclined to be skeptics and others are more inclined to be believers.
Texan1, did you have time to check out the references I provided on response #12?I am grappling with how to handle the subject of religion with my children. (They are small right now - not in school yet). Of course you don't need religion to teach a child to be compassionate and thoughtful, but Christianity has certainly had a large impact on our literature, culture, holidays and even curse words . Many family and friends attend church. They need to be exposed to it - I don't want them to be ignorant of it - it just shouldn't be taught as absolute fact. I don't want to inhibit the natural love and curiosity they have of the world around them. I want them to think for themselves.
Just curious as to how any agnostic or non-theist parents out there have handled this and what types of challenges you have run into as your children got older?
What you say about raising children is good and there is value in what you say. Children need to learn to have an open mind to new concepts and be able to interpret Roman and Egyptian mythology as well as Hemingway, Shakespeare, and Plato among others. One thing that is worse than not being able to reflective read these works is to not have a moral base from which to judge these new ideas. It is not necessarily bad or even important if a child grows up with incorrect ideas about the universe. If you teach a child how to think as you go, the child will systematically disregard what the child considers myth and fairy tales. What is untrue will naturally fall aside. I can not remember when I stopped believing is Santa but one day it happened and I was not even aware of Santa's departure. (Actually I still believe in Santa)I was talking to a professor of French from France the other day at the university where I work and he pointed out to me that the Thai students can not grasp the some of the greatest literary works because they have no concept of Judeo-Christian sources or references which are referred to quite often in Western writing, I think for this case alone it is good to expose them the the concepts not necessarily the religion. I teach my children Judeo-Christian concepts the same way I teach them Greek, Roman and Egyptian mythology they love it but don't take it seriously thus this will give them the ideas and concepts necessary when they are older to understand things like Shakespeare, Jane Austen, Daniel Defoe, Hemingway, etc. As far as religion itself I think it is a personal choice although it would be great if you can teach your children all that you know ultimately leave the decision up to them as far what they believe if they believe.
In the meantime, children need something to believe in even if it is wrong... Allow children to learn values that you may disagree with in you life simply to provide a stability in the child's life. Parents who are atheist, for example, would be better off to allow a child to be exposed to Christianity than to have the child to be ridiculed or treated differently because of it was from an atheistic background.
The best thing you can do for children is to teach them the art of thinking. It's like the art of walking. How does a child learn to walk? By walking. How dose a child learn to talk? By talking. How does a child learn to think? By thinking. A parent is the most influencing force on a child. A child learns to walk but the parent often holds his hand. Talking and thinking are the same.
No matter what you teach a child, even if it is not truth, if you teach him how to think and reason, he will figure things out for himself. If you teach a child how to reason, you have in effect immunized him against many of the factors that put children at-risk as they grow older.GadFly