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How do you feel after posting on RF?

newhope101

Active Member
I feel good most days after posting. I usually come onto RF very early in the morning and too early to start a vacuum cleaner. The days I feel bad are when I have spent too much time online but that rarely happens. A few times I opted to stay online instead of going to gym or doing other activities, but that was at the start. That got me down until I reprioritised.

I never go on RF while I'm at work. However if I had a boring job and not much to do I probably would. A boring job would depress me no end.

I used to get a little frustrated with replies, but not anymore. It does not matter if others do not see what I see nor that I do not see what others see on any topic. I do not have to feel like I have to win a debate to feel good and I do not define myself by my standing here. That's important.

I have learned alot here and that has provided a balance for me in my beliefs. It's all good.
 
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Kathryn

It was on fire when I laid down on it.
I feel violated after I post here.

Off topic rant:



Are you in middle management or something? Why are some people incapable of realizing there is downtime in any job and spending a few minutes goofing off on company time makes for more productive employees?


Nope, I'm not in middle management. I am a personal banker. I work with two other bankers in a busy branch, in new accts, annuity sales, loans, etc. The other two spend much of their time online and playing with personal electronic devices. I do not. I am the top producer of the bunch - by FAR.

Notice that my post said "considerable time" - not a "few minutes goofing off on company time." Hell, I do that on a regular basis - one of my job REQUIREMENTS is a relaxed, fun, energetic work environment. What I do NOT do is abuse the priviledge of a work environment that's not micro managed, to spend CONSIDERABLE TIME goofing off, online, on my phone, texting, IPading, etc - time that could be used to increase, not only company profits, but my own profits as well.

By the way, I am also the highest paid banker in our group. No accident. Oh, and I have the least experience in banking - only two years.

I'm just sayin'. And I've never been in production. I HAVE been very successful in sales all my entire life - because of a combination of factors and strengths, including a strong work ethic and a commitment to work hard, and play hard - just not usually at the same time.

You get what you focus on.
 
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concreteguy

sitting in
In the words of Calliou the Great, "I feel good, I feel good". I've only posted a few times but the answers or threads to my posts have been great. I've been looking for a place like this for a while so it feels good after I post because I know I will at least get one answer that will be worth reading, usualy more than one.
 

concreteguy

sitting in
Nope, I'm not in middle management. I am a personal banker. I work with two other bankers in a busy branch, in new accts, annuity sales, loans, etc. The other two spend much of their time online and playing with personal electronic devices. I do not. I am the top producer of the bunch - by FAR.

Notice that my post said "considerable time" - not a "few minutes goofing off on company time." Hell, I do that on a regular basis - one of my job REQUIREMENTS is a relaxed, fun, energetic work environment. What I do NOT do is abuse the priviledge of a work environment that's not micro managed, to spend CONSIDERABLE TIME goofing off, online, on my phone, texting, IPading, etc - time that could be used to increase, not only company profits, but my own profits as well.

By the way, I am also the highest paid banker in our group. No accident. Oh, and I have the least experience in banking - only two years.

I'm just sayin'. And I've never been in production. I HAVE been very successful in sales all my entire life - because of a combination of factors and strengths, including a strong work ethic and a commitment to work hard, and play hard - usually in different time periods.


Very well said! Nice to hear that good workers like you are still out there!
 

Kathryn

It was on fire when I laid down on it.
Very well said! Nice to hear that good workers like you are still out there!

Well, I'm no perfect worker, but I am a hard worker who enjoys producing at levels that exceed "average" or what's "expected." And the cool thing about that is this - the more you produce, the less you are micro managed.

In fact, I do get online a bit at work for non work related stuff - but no more so than if I took a 15 minute break or so in the morning and in the afternoon. I think that's reasonable - after all, everyone needs a break once in awhile. HOWEVER, if people (those who consistently surf the net and text and play with their IPads, etc) are honest with themselves, they'd probably realize that if they add up their time online, and texting, etc - it's probably a lot more than 15 minutes every four hours. Come on. I see it at work all the time. I know all the little tricks - acting like they're on the phone, but in reality holding the phone to their ear but either texting (from their lap) or re arranging their queue on Netflix, or checking Facebook from their IPad that's in their right desk drawer.

Sheeze, it's like an addiction! Meanwhile I'm across the lobby, working, and making commissions left and right. And then they come wandering into my office and say, "Honestly, I don't see how you do it! You are so lucky! I NEVER get any customers in my office who want to buy an annuity!" Then while I'm telling them about how I work leads, or push for more information, they suddenly look down at their phone, start laughing, and then start texting someone else back - and then they look back up at me and say, "Yeah? Well...hey, have you seen that video about the praying dog?"

(Yes, I have - but I saw it at either 5:30 am or 10 pm at night, when I'm at home kicked back playing online.)

The other person asked if I was in "middle management" and no, I'm not currently (and that's my choice - I've turned down several management positions over the past two years, because I don't want or need the stress in my life). But in the past I've managed a group of 80 realtors, I've owned my own real estate company (with 20 realtors and several full time employees), and I've been a sales manager (over 14 people) for a record-breaking franchise (we went from the rank of #160 out of 400 offices, to #2 out of 600 offices in the five years that I managed the sales department).

That particular franchise was a professional placement staffing company, so I interacted on a DAILY basis with business owners and managers. Their chief complaint - their NUMBER ONE COMPLAINT - was about employees (or, usually the case, ex employees which they had just fired) who were doing everything BUT working at work. The number one culprit - cell phones. Number two - surfing the internet rather than working.

Also, my husband owns his own consulting company, and he is the TOP DOG in charge (not "middle management") at every oilfield location he works on. Nothing will get someone fired faster than hanging out in a little corner somewhere punching away on their cell phone or laptop when they should be working. And his expertise and management of 120 or so workers at any given location is so stellar that he is in constant demand - because his management produces excellent results, with greater profit margins, happier employees who are thrilled when they see him show up as the consultant, and fewer workplace accidents.

So I do know a little about what I'm saying.

But don't worry, guys - pretty soon all of us demanding, successful business owners and managers in our 40s, 50s and 60s will retire and leave the rest of you to your own, errr, DEVICES.
 
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concreteguy

sitting in
Have to instill good work ethics when they are young. That's the way my children will be brought up. I want them to use their minds and brains though, unlike daddy that uses his back, but it puts food on the table and pays the bills.

Kids these days, holy crap, never thought I'd be saying that phrase..lol.. I do believe that the "good worker" image is dieing away.
 

Kathryn

It was on fire when I laid down on it.
Have to instill good work ethics when they are young. That's the way my children will be brought up. I want them to use their minds and brains though, unlike daddy that uses his back, but it puts food on the table and pays the bills.

Kids these days, holy crap, never thought I'd be saying that phrase..lol.. I do believe that the "good worker" image is dieing away.

Sounds good.

There's nothing wrong with using your back, though. My husband started off in the oilfield as an entry level laborer, and now he makes more money than lots of doctors and dentists do - and he works two weeks on and two weeks off.
 

Penumbra

Veteran Member
Premium Member
In a word, detached.

The more I discuss religion, the more I realize that my interest in religion is decreasing.

It isn't strictly RF. I posted several thousand posts at another religious forum, and a few posts at a third and fourth forum, and did offline things like take religious study courses and read various religious texts like the Qur'an, Bible, Bhagavad Gita, and Tao Te Ching. RF is my favorite out of the four religion forums I've posted at.

That tends to happen to me over time. When I attain a decent understanding of something, I eventually get bored of it. It's not that I understand everything about religion, but at this point I'm very familiar with a lot of world religions and the learning curve kind of flattened out years ago. I no longer have any big questions. Some of the questions have been answered while other ones I realize are perpetually unanswerable. And the more I am familiar with religion, the number of truly new ideas I come across continually decrease. Everything is a repetition of an idea I've already learned about. Mostly at this point I'm just about live and let live.

Sometimes I go a long time without posting, and then I wind up posting a lot for a while. Mostly I just do it to kill time and because I feel a bit of familiarity with several posters here as well as previous forums I've been to. (In fact the hardest part about leaving that last forum was realizing that I'd never talk to those people again- people I've been talking to for years at that point, even though never at an extremely personal level.)

-Lyn
 

Penumbra

Veteran Member
Premium Member
I do feel that my writing has improved a bit from so much posting, though. It's still not great, but it's better than it was years ago. I once did the math about all of my posts on forums, and although it's hard to estimate the average number of words, I could have written a few full-length books. So that's a lot of practice.
 

tomato1236

Ninja Master
In a word, detached.

The more I discuss religion, the more I realize that my interest in religion is decreasing.

It isn't strictly RF. I posted several thousand posts at another religious forum, and a few posts at a third and fourth forum, and did offline things like take religious study courses and read various religious texts like the Qur'an, Bible, Bhagavad Gita, and Tao Te Ching. RF is my favorite out of the four religion forums I've posted at.

That tends to happen to me over time. When I attain a decent understanding of something, I eventually get bored of it. It's not that I understand everything about religion, but at this point I'm very familiar with a lot of world religions and the learning curve kind of flattened out years ago. I no longer have any big questions. Some of the questions have been answered while other ones I realize are perpetually unanswerable. And the more I am familiar with religion, the number of truly new ideas I come across continually decrease. Everything is a repetition of an idea I've already learned about. Mostly at this point I'm just about live and let live.

Sometimes I go a long time without posting, and then I wind up posting a lot for a while. Mostly I just do it to kill time and because I feel a bit of familiarity with several posters here as well as previous forums I've been to. (In fact the hardest part about leaving that last forum was realizing that I'd never talk to those people again- people I've been talking to for years at that point, even though never at an extremely personal level.)

-Lyn

Why did you decide to leave your previous forum? The one that was difficult to leave, I mean.
 

Penumbra

Veteran Member
Premium Member
Why did you decide to leave your previous forum? The one that was difficult to leave, I mean.
It was affiliated with a specific religion.

It was systematically changed so that people who were not of that religion had fewer and fewer privileges on that forum. Certain subforums were closed. Speech was unnecessarily restricted.
 

tomato1236

Ninja Master
It was affiliated with a specific religion.

It was systematically changed so that people who were not of that religion had fewer and fewer privileges on that forum. Certain subforums were closed. Speech was unnecessarily restricted.

Huh. That's lame. Sounds like a conspiracy.
 

Penumbra

Veteran Member
Premium Member
Huh. That's lame. Sounds like a conspiracy.
They were pretty open about what they were doing actually.

I'm not going to say what forum it was or anything like that. Basically it didn't make sense for me to be there to begin with. My partner joined that forum when he was a member of that religion and when I saw him posting there, I realized there were a lot of people there from other religions and non-religions, so I joined too. But he eventually deconverted and didn't post there anymore, but I still did. But then when the site became more and more slanted, I left. It was a good decision, because I always felt a bit out of place on that forum since it had a specific affiliation that I was not a part of. I just stayed for a while because I was familiar with the people.
 

tomato1236

Ninja Master
They were pretty open about what they were doing actually.

I'm not going to say what forum it was or anything like that. Basically it didn't make sense for me to be there to begin with. My partner joined that forum when he was a member of that religion and when I saw him posting there, I realized there were a lot of people there from other religions and non-religions, so I joined too. But he eventually deconverted and didn't post there anymore, but I still did. But then when the site became more and more slanted, I left. It was a good decision, because I always felt a bit out of place on that forum since it had a specific affiliation that I was not a part of. I just stayed for a while because I was familiar with the people.

I see. That makes sense.
 
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