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How Do you Find A Man?
- Thread starter Psalm23
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Friends of friends, dating websites, luck...
My husband was the friend of a friend. The majority of the people in my family seemed to find people on dating sites. My mom met her last husband(who passed a few years ago) and the guy she's with now at the bar she frequents.
I'd say its easy to find a man. A good one(or, at least one that's good for you) is always harder.
I find things come when it would be really inconvenient if they did... perhaps you should enter a convent, and the right one will show up.
My husband was the friend of a friend. The majority of the people in my family seemed to find people on dating sites. My mom met her last husband(who passed a few years ago) and the guy she's with now at the bar she frequents.
I'd say its easy to find a man. A good one(or, at least one that's good for you) is always harder.
I find things come when it would be really inconvenient if they did... perhaps you should enter a convent, and the right one will show up.
Trailblazer
Veteran Member
I suggest joining some dating websites and looking at the men that are out there in your age bracket since running into someone that is a good match in ordinary social situations is highly unlikely.
I'm glad I'm not trying to date these days. I knew my wife's brother (friend of a friend) and her sister (who dated said friend) and eventually ended up with my now wife after getting to know each other casually over a period (attending the same parties, etc).
Uni was a great place to meet women too (I did primary teaching, and there was more than 5 females for every male).
Uni was a great place to meet women too (I did primary teaching, and there was more than 5 females for every male).
I'm a man nearly 50.
You have to turn the shy into pursuers by somehow making them feel free to become pursuers. This will go a little bit against your instincts, and it might feel uncomfortable. Obviously there are risks. Men are thick in some ways. Instinct is forbidden in modern man to a high degree, and relationships do not fascinate us. When you are interested in a man then you have to hope that someone has explained a little bit of courtship to them, or they are going to be at a huge disadvantage. Perhaps you want him to win, but how is he going to win if he never plays? Why would he play if he feels like it binds him into a permanent relationship with a stranger? That is why you have to get them playing but with limitations. But understandably you also don't want to be permanently bound to a stranger. None of this is automatically understood be men. We have to be taught. That's all I know, that is about as much analysis as I have ever put into it; and by the time I did I was already beyond the courting age. So just like you there are men out there just getting older, not really sure why they are single.
You have to turn the shy into pursuers by somehow making them feel free to become pursuers. This will go a little bit against your instincts, and it might feel uncomfortable. Obviously there are risks. Men are thick in some ways. Instinct is forbidden in modern man to a high degree, and relationships do not fascinate us. When you are interested in a man then you have to hope that someone has explained a little bit of courtship to them, or they are going to be at a huge disadvantage. Perhaps you want him to win, but how is he going to win if he never plays? Why would he play if he feels like it binds him into a permanent relationship with a stranger? That is why you have to get them playing but with limitations. But understandably you also don't want to be permanently bound to a stranger. None of this is automatically understood be men. We have to be taught. That's all I know, that is about as much analysis as I have ever put into it; and by the time I did I was already beyond the courting age. So just like you there are men out there just getting older, not really sure why they are single.
I wasn't looking but I met mine at university. The devious devil just wouldn't give up
My brother in law is using dating websites without much luck. I don't know of anyone who has met a suitable partner through one. They may work but i just cannot say.
Art galleries and museums are worth thinking about or any such place, hobby clubs, social events etc for which you have an interest. The people there will usually have a similar interest.
Jogging in the park. I know a couple of people who have met their future partners there.
A gym, has health benefits too
The "in" coffee shop in your area... Visit regularly. Buy a prospect (so cold) his favourite drink.
I know someone who found their life partner while looking in the supermarket freezers. No. she didn't find him in the freezer. He was also checking out the contents. Hmm, nice she thought and so offered advice on the best ready meals.
If you are waiting for an appointment and a nice guy is also why not strike up a conversation.
Finding a man is the easy part. Finding a keeper is more difficult. Good luck with your search.
My brother in law is using dating websites without much luck. I don't know of anyone who has met a suitable partner through one. They may work but i just cannot say.
Art galleries and museums are worth thinking about or any such place, hobby clubs, social events etc for which you have an interest. The people there will usually have a similar interest.
Jogging in the park. I know a couple of people who have met their future partners there.
A gym, has health benefits too
The "in" coffee shop in your area... Visit regularly. Buy a prospect (so cold) his favourite drink.
I know someone who found their life partner while looking in the supermarket freezers. No. she didn't find him in the freezer
. He was also checking out the contents. Hmm, nice she thought and so offered advice on the best ready meals.If you are waiting for an appointment and a nice guy is also why not strike up a conversation.
Finding a man is the easy part. Finding a keeper is more difficult. Good luck with your search.
JIMMY12345
Active Member
Beware what you wish for .You might just get it. Anyway you do not really need one. You got all of us on Religious forums. Much better.
Twilight Hue
Twilight, not bright nor dark, good nor bad.
Walk like a man, talk like a man!
Mrs Revolt recommends engineeers.
(This despite her personal experience with this one.)
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I wasn't looking but I met mine at university. The devious devil just wouldn't give up
My brother in law is using dating websites without much luck. I don't know of anyone who has met a suitable partner through one. They may work but i just cannot say.
Art galleries and museums are worth thinking about or any such place, hobby clubs, social events etc for which you have an interest. The people there will usually have a similar interest.
Jogging in the park. I know a couple of people who have met their future partners there.
A gym, has health benefits too
The "in" coffee shop in your area... Visit regularly. Buy a prospect (so cold) his favourite drink.
I know someone who found their life partner while looking in the supermarket freezers. No. she didn't find him in the freezer
If you are waiting for an appointment and a nice guy is also why not strike up a conversation.
Finding a man is the easy part. Finding a keeper is more difficult. Good luck with your search.
Some good suggestions here.
FWIW I met my wife through a dating website so they can work.
I am happy it worked for you
Thank you!
Truth in love
Well-Known Member
I look in the mirror.
You need to know what matters most to you. Try to be in the places where the men are who share those values. Eharmony had a great concept. Good looks are not enough.
If you want a good family man don’t look in the strip clubs. The ambitious ones are not in the welfare line etc.
Sand Dancer
Currently catless
Are you in a singles' group in church? That's one way. Meeting one through friends is good. I met my husband in the Air Force. Women have their pick of guys in the military. It's pretty sweet!
So the military does have its use...
Trailblazer
Veteran Member
or because of it!
Sand Dancer
Currently catless
I got the G.I. Bill and a husband out of it. I'd say worth it.
Koldo
Outstanding Member
What would that man enjoy doing?
That's the place you ought to go, because he will be there.
Sharing an interest in common is always a great start.