How important is sex?

[Mike182]

to me, the sex is an important aspect of a relationship, but for me, the holding and loving is of a higher value.

 

[Hacker]

Now why wasn't there an option for women,:149:lol...unless there are men dolls!

And yes I believe sex is important and that goes with love hand in hand. In other words 50/50.

 

[Gentoo]

To me, sex is the icing on the cake. I can do easily without it, but I enjoy it when it happens. I go more for the love than the lust...

 

[Radio Frequency X]

To me, sex is the icing on the cake. I can do easily without it, but I enjoy it when it happens. I go more for the love than the lust...

There is only a moderate amount of lust in a good sex life in marriage. The sex is mostly about loving and cherishing your mate. I have to admit, there is a certain amount of lust in my heart when I look at my wife, but I see that as a good thing.

 

[Gentoo]

There is only a moderate amount of lust in a good sex life in marriage. The sex is mostly about loving and cherishing your mate. I have to admit, there is a certain amount of lust in my heart when I look at my wife, but I see that as a good thing.

Maybe it's just because I objectively associate sex with lust, rather than a combonation of both. But in the heat of the moment (*ahem) the combonation is very much there. Kinda odd, but then I'm kinda odd too...

 

[Scarlett Wampus]

There is only a moderate amount of lust in a good sex life in marriage. The sex is mostly about loving and cherishing your mate. I have to admit, there is a certain amount of lust in my heart when I look at my wife, but I see that as a good thing.

The two aren't necessarily connected but imo they sure are greater than the sum of their parts when they're together.

I can and have been in a loving romantic relationship that hasn't involved sex. It was difficult since being in love made me want to be with my partner sexually. I got somewhat used to it though and I never had thoughts about infidelity. So, I guess I'm saying sex is important to me but not that important.

 

[Djamila]

I like lust is important for a healthy sex life, at least one with good sex. You have to keep your men in a constant state of ready-to-rip-my-hair-out sexual frustration or sex is just boring.

 

[Radio Frequency X]

I like lust is important for a healthy sex life, at least one with good sex. You have to keep your men in a constant state of ready-to-rip-my-hair-out sexual frustration or sex is just boring.

That is my default position. I always feel lustful toward my wife, but then, she is extremely attractive, so there is nothing I can do about it. I had a terrible sex life with my first wife - so I really, really appreciate the exciting and passionate sex life in my current marriage.

 

[Random]

Me and my imaginary girlfriend have a vigourous virtual sex-life. However, dammit, I keep waking up celibate for some reason...

 

[Circle_One]

Ok, first and foremost, to ME, sex is very important. Very, very important, haha. I have an extremely high sex drive.


However, I disagree with this:

Sex isn't that important. What really matters is love.

Sex is what is responsible for making people "Fall in love"; that first impetus fades away to be replaced by true Love. Whether sex is part of that true love or not is immaterial.

I fell head over heels in love with Dean a long time ago and we've never had sex.

 

[ayani]

for me, it is not important at all. the dearest people in my life are my friends- i cherish them most, and can not imagine dumping on my buddies for a significant other. nor would i consider a casual fling with any of them. i'm single, and not sexually active.

 

[†Lilithâ€]

Well, I've met men who gave reasons for leaving an otherwise passable relationship like, "Well...she doesn't give head anymore..."
[:areyoucra]
Anyhoo...I imagine my ideal of a healthy relationship is somewhat tainted. I haven't seen a lot of "love" realtionships, mostly sexual ones. (Just to clarify, by "seen" I do NOT mean I watch people having sex. Ew.) So, my idea of a good relationship would involve good sex; but I have this fantasy of having a good balance of love AND sex in a relationship. Since I am a sexual person (yet, ironically...haven't actually had sex yet...:sarcastic either I'm extremely unattractive or I just don't have the same priorities as other gals... OR, my refusal to be a bimbo is a turnoff...I really have no idea... ) I see no problem with having sex as a part of a healthy relationship. BUT, it really shouldn't be the foundation, imho.

 

[eudaimonia]

How important is a good sex life to you? Would you marry someone that wasn't good in bed?

It is important and desirable, but I wouldn't judge a potential spouse simply by the excellence of her sexual skills, nor would I leave a spouse simply because sex had gotten stale or sparse. Good sex is simply what I would regard as a sign that a relationship will have a reasonably good chance of achieving the sort of emotional intimacy needed to help it have a strong foundation.


eudaimonia,

Mark

 

[yippityyak]

I totally agree with some of what is being said here, like it takes more than touching and feeling and sexy words to get a woman in the mood! There is nothing worse than watching your partner mess the house up, forget to wash the dishes, not take the rubbish out, and then slink over to you and start talking sexy and asking for sex!

I find that if everything is 50/50 in the relationship, with a bit of spoiling now and then, the sex life is great. It doesnt even matter what type of person he is, as long as there is mutual respect and a willingness to show his love. For instance, sitting me down on the couch for my favourite tv show while he washes the dishes after i have cooked, and then making us a cup of coffee. I will tend to initiate sex, try some experimentation, and thoroughly enjoy it if that happened!

And then yes, in the moment, i will feel very loved. Not because he had to work to get sex out of me, but because i know that he cares about me and loves me enough to know that mutual respect and showing a bit of that love will show ME how much he really cares, and that the sex with me is WORTH the effort! Does that make sense at all?

And yes, whoever said it was DAMN right! We will look at sex from the time the guy woke up until he comes home at night! A quick unexpected phone call will go a long way, because that is what i will be thinking about throughout the day, and when he gets home that night.

Its all about mental stimulation for woman. Give her a teeney weeney bit of that, and she will give you all the physical stimulation you could ever dream of!

Anyway, that is my opinion!
x

 

[Radio Frequency X]

It is important and desirable, but I wouldn't judge a potential spouse simply by the excellence of her sexual skills, nor would I leave a spouse simply because sex had gotten stale or sparse. Good sex is simply what I would regard as a sign that a relationship will have a reasonably good chance of achieving the sort of emotional intimacy needed to help it have a strong foundation.


eudaimonia,

Mark

I honestly believe that sexual performance is a sign of respect. If a woman respects her man, she'll work hard to please him. Likewise, I think that if a man cares for his woman, then he will desire to please her.

 

[Doodlebug02]

Sex isn't that important. What matters is love. Besides, I'm not married and I intend to wait until marriage even though I did not do so in the past.

 

[Radio Frequency X]

Sex isn't that important. What matters is love. Besides, I'm not married and I intend to wait until marriage even though I did not do so in the past.

I have come to the strange position that I wish I had waited till marriage. Pleasure seeking behavior tends to move people away from love and honor. If love or honor get in the way of pleasure seeking, pleasure seekers tend to sacrifice (or be more willing to sacrifice) love and honor.

 

[Hema]

Sex is very important but what if something happened to your significant other and he/she couldn't have sex again? I'm getting married in April and if God forbid, anything would to happen to my boyfriend and he couldn't have sex, I would not even give it a second thought. I would still marry him in a heartbeat. He's my best friend and my soul mate. No other guy has even treated me with such dignity and respect. He has always been there for me, especially during the hardest times of my life. It would be a sin if I turned my back on that boy. I don't ever want to and I won't ever do it! Sex is NOT something that leads to love. Sex should be a result of love.

 

[Terrywoodenpic]

Sex is very important but what if something happened to your significant other and he/she couldn't have sex again? I'm getting married in April and if God forbid, anything would to happen to my boyfriend and he couldn't have sex, I would not even give it a second thought. I would still marry him in a heartbeat. He's my best friend and my soul mate. No other guy has even treated me with such dignity and respect. He has always been there for me, especially during the hardest times of my life. It would be a sin if I turned my back on that boy. I don't ever want to and I won't ever do it! Sex is NOT something that leads to love. Sex should be a result of love.

Sound like you have got it right.

 

[Radio Frequency X]

Sex is NOT something that leads to love. Sex should be a result of love.

Well said.

However, I think that if someone was to become unable to have sex that it would be a tragedy.