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I am a failure and because of this all is lost or so it feels like

Debater Slayer

Vipassana
Staff member
Premium Member
Today was a terrible day I couldn't fully get up and go to do temp work I woke up and waited for my dad to leave but I feel asleep and missed my temp work opportunity. And then I kept having ocd thoughts about what would happen if I pushed the red Alarm button on the subway train I had two chances to do so but failed the fear was to strong and the thought of all those eyes on me ruined the first time and the security guard looking at my eyes ruined the second time. I am not dead physically but I feel emotionally dead.

Going by the timestamp on the above post, it seems that it is over 12 hours old. Today, you are here and talking to other RFers about this. Your desire to get better has already outlasted the difficult situation on the train and the missed work opportunity.

I don't know much about Canada's healthcare system, but @Wirey is from there. I agree with his recommendation:

Don't sweat the small stuff. Follow this link, and give them a call.


Please don't hesitate to post on RF and talk to us (RFers) anytime you want to.
 

TransmutingSoul

One Planet, One People, Please!
Premium Member
I will talk with him about it but he so far only wants me to take sleeping pills for my insomnia.
Insomnia is an issue, I have had it for quite a few years now, makes work difficult at times, that is for sure.

I found herbal teas sometimes work, I make one lot out of boiling Moringa Tree leaves and kaffir lime leaf.

But mostly Insomnia for me has always been a mind that I cannot shut off, if I wake at night it starts thinking of all the things yet to be done.

I personally will not take sleeping pills.

Regards Tony
 

TransmutingSoul

One Planet, One People, Please!
Premium Member
I can keep going but I don't really have anybody meaningful in my life because my parents don't care about me.
Family dynamics are a tricky problem. Each individual situation will be different, so a professional can help you through those thoughts about family.

Building meaningful relationships is a tricky business, as it is all about building trustworthiness based in honesty with each other. We live in an age where trust and honesty has been thrown out the window, so I understand why it is now hard to build meaningful relationships.

Sounds like you live in a wonderful country, I have always wanted to visit and explore Canada. (People quoted in this OP are from Canada, so my bad if I got that wrong)

Regards Tony
 

ChristineM

"Be strong", I whispered to my coffee.
Premium Member
@Massimo2002

Ok, then we on RF are your chosen buddies. We care, talk to us. Issue is our time zones. Just know we will assist in difficult times.

Maybe PM a person if you want more of a private chat with any individual. But we can assist you through life and difficult times. In life we are more than debate and discussion topics.

Regards Tony

^^^THIS^^^
 

Massimo2002

Active Member
Family dynamics are a tricky problem. Each individual situation will be different, so a professional can help you through those thoughts about family.

Building meaningful relationships is a tricky business, as it is all about building trustworthiness based in honesty with each other. We live in an age where trust and honesty has been thrown out the window, so I understand why it is now hard to build meaningful relationships.

Sounds like you live in a wonderful country, I have always wanted to visit and explore Canada. (People quoted in this OP are from Canada, so my bad if I got that wrong)

Regards Tony
I do live in Edmonton which is in Canada but personally I am tired of Edmonton and my parents I have a almost nonexistent relationship with them I barely talk to my mom anymore because she cares more about her relationship with her boyfriend and my dad never lived with me or my mom so he is still a shadow to me.
 

JustGeorge

Imperfect
Staff member
Premium Member
My ocd causes those feelings and thoughts.
OCD thoughts can be extremely disruptive; I'm sorry you're having them.

I used to struggle with them back when I was your age, but I didn't know that's what they were. They terrified me, but I thought everyone had them. I found out later they didn't... Whoops. As it is now, two out of three of my kids struggle with OCD.

If your doctor/therapist/psychiatrist isn't willing to help you find ways to manage them, it might be worth looking for help from another one.
 

Massimo2002

Active Member
OCD thoughts can be extremely disruptive; I'm sorry you're having them.

I used to struggle with them back when I was your age, but I didn't know that's what they were. They terrified me, but I thought everyone had them. I found out later they didn't... Whoops. As it is now, two out of three of my kids struggle with OCD.

If your doctor/therapist/psychiatrist isn't willing to help you find ways to manage them, it might be worth looking for help from another one.
I can do that but it's just hard because treatment and drugs to calm the ocd are expensive and it's hard for me to talk with people even doctors and mental health professionals about my OCD.
 

Sand Dancer

Currently catless
Today was a terrible day I couldn't fully get up and go to do temp work I woke up and waited for my dad to leave but I feel asleep and missed my temp work opportunity. And then I kept having ocd thoughts about what would happen if I pushed the red Alarm button on the subway train I had two chances to do so but failed the fear was to strong and the thought of all those eyes on me ruined the first time and the security guard looking at my eyes ruined the second time. I am not dead physically but I feel emotionally dead.
You made a mistake, but it's okay. Other jobs will come. People make mistakes all the time, every day. Don't be hard on yourself. You're being a human.
 

Sand Dancer

Currently catless
I will talk with him about it but he so far only wants me to take sleeping pills for my insomnia.
There is a supplement called Gaba that works to help relaxation and sleep for those who ruminate in the evenings. It helps calm a racing mind. It's a neurotransmitter in the brain, so it's not introducing anything foreign. It's not expensive either.
 

JustGeorge

Imperfect
Staff member
Premium Member
I can do that but it's just hard because treatment and drugs to calm the ocd are expensive and it's hard for me to talk with people even doctors and mental health professionals about my OCD.
I'm not sure how the health system works in Canada. Maybe if you contact the folks at the links listed, they can help you find the means to find something you can afford(or help paying for it).
 

TransmutingSoul

One Planet, One People, Please!
Premium Member
I do live in Edmonton which is in Canada but personally I am tired of Edmonton and my parents I have a almost nonexistent relationship with them I barely talk to my mom anymore because she cares more about her relationship with her boyfriend and my dad never lived with me or my mom so he is still a shadow to me.
Yes, that can be a difficult situation. Family units are not what they used to be. I hope you an find a way to reinstate your connection with your mother. Family is important and you can only try, hopefully your mother will as well. It would be hard to not have had a father there for you, as we age, we can mend a fee broken connections of the past. Keep trying and all the best from far north Eastern Australia.

Regards Tony
 
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