Yes. I am the one under the car, jacking it up.
I hear you, but I think you have missed the point of my reply. The individual, in the analogy, with 4 flat tires is driving, currently. I can very safely assume that they want to be driving smoothly. When I roll down my window, and let them know, perhaps lacking sensitivity, that they're driving on four flat tires, I am only talking about their very obvious intentions which are compromised by their negligence. That's all.
It's obvious, to me, that they want to drive smoothly, and it's obvious, to me, that they don;t want to shred their tires. So, I say something about their tires, and that's all.
Context matters. Where is this conversation happening. Being a good person, for me, requires that I intervene IF, big if, I adopt that person's aspirations. Helping, I hope you agree, is about taking on the other individuals hopes, dreams, and desires. Perhaps it's a short term goal, like driving to the store. Perhaps it's a big ticket item like having a healthy, happy, and full life. Either way, if I'm helping someone, it is all about them. When I am helping, I am on their team 100%. That means their problems are my problems. Their goals are my goals. And, tbh, this is what people love about me. I invest myself in their success. Theirs. Not mine. I want them to succeed in what ever it is they choose.
Of course there are limits. I hope you understand.
Yes. I am under the car. Feet sticking out. Traffic is whizzing past. But. There's a catch. People can tell I'm a religious person. It's oozing from my pores. I can't help it. The hindu say, "namaste", yeah, weill, I can't turn that off. I can't. People can feel it, they know I'm a believer because I am so joyful about helping them. I am inspired to help. I care about them as if they are a god them-self. That doesn't happen without a religious belief.
So when I am helping? That person? If they are the least bit suspicious of religious people? Perhaps they've been burned in the past? They come from wrath-of-god Christianity? They're going to have visceral reaction to my presence while I am offering to help. But it has nothing to do with preaching. It has everything to do with my personality and how that shines everywhere I go. If I try to turn that off and repress it? It's not good. I do not react well to that. That's me. And I'm not alone.
So what you are describing, I think, is not the true intentions of the person. They are being a good person. But the individual who is judging harshly is judging based on other factors that have nothing to do with whether or not they are a good person. And this ignores the fact that "being a good person" is not the goal of the preacher to begin with. They are trying to save themself and others. And sometimes, in a rescue situation? When the water is choppy, and the victim is struggling? It's SOP ( standard operating procedure ). Punch them in the nose, then get them out of there.
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