I Have A Problem I Need Advice

[Mike182]

....that being said i'm not sure if i'm the kinda person who should be giving out relationship advice at this juncture in my life

we can learn many things from every situation.... :kissbette

 

[Cerrax]

Get rid of them both. Aaron's a liar and you can't trust him further than you can throw him. Bastion (my cat's name is Bastion ) sounds like he doesn't trust you, which is understandable, but if Aaron is such a well known liar, maybe Bastion just wants to believe Aaron is is Red Flag for you.

All in all, when a relationship gets this tangled, its best to take a break and just be by yourself. If you need a shoulder to cry on, there a lot of people who trust you and won't lie to you and aren't so emotionally attached that you can't resist being with/without them. RF is always here for you.

Do what you need to do. If your love is true, then you never need to worry about losing your love, because true love never dies. A trust unbroken is stronger than steel.

 

[Super Universe]

he is my survival though. If i lose him i lose the sholder that i cry on and the only one i trust

He is not your survival. You are stronger than you give yourself credit for. Although you cannot see this now, some day you will. I guarantee it.

Do you think a pilot in charge of hundreds of lives is so fragile?

Or the President? How could he run the country if he had no confidence?

You are so young. Your life should be full of joy. Be like a sponge and soak it all in until you are overflowing. But don't only take in one type of experience.

 

[Runt]

Wow, this sounds so much like my little sister's situation. I'll give you the advice I gave her; break up with this guy, and move on. You can find love again. Aaron is a problem here, but the guy you're dating is even more of a problem. When trust issues like this are so much a part of your relationship, they are not just going to go away even if you convince him this time that you're telling the truth. It will come up again, and again, and again, often over issues that you never thought would give him a reason to distrust you. Spare yourself months---possibly even years---of heartbreak and find someone else.

 

[Bastion]

Wow, this sounds so much like my little sister's situation. I'll give you the advice I gave her; break up with this guy, and move on. You can find love again. Aaron is a problem here, but the guy you're dating is even more of a problem. When trust issues like this are so much a part of your relationship, they are not just going to go away even if you convince him this time that you're telling the truth. It will come up again, and again, and again, often over issues that you never thought would give him a reason to distrust you. Spare yourself months---possibly even years---of heartbreak and find someone else.

Thank you for your comment. But I can't sit here and let this go. I found out the truth and she even admitted to it recently. I don't want to seem like the bad guy here. I knew something was wrong. I have a sixth sense when someone is telling a lie and something just felt out of place. Aaron started it yes, but she went along with it and did something that really hurt me. She kissed him back and touched. It's not her fault though that she lied.. She was afraid I would break up with her if she told the truth. And now she realizes that I love her far too much for that. She told the truth and I am still with her. I am a little dissapointed and depressed about it, but I wont hold the lieing part against her. She was scared sick that she would lose me and i'm not going to be that kind of person. I would appreciate it if you would take back your statement on her breaking up with me. As well as not be so trusting of people who swear up and down that they are telling the truth. Hear both sides of the story. That goes for everyone else too who decided to make some silly comment.

I love Krie..

 

[Bastion]

I really don't know anything about the situation or the people involved - other than what you have said in this thread - but from what I've heard, Bastion doesn't sound like the type of guy I'd want my sister dating. I like the idea of taking a break. You've got a lot going on right now, put the focus somewhere other than dating for the moment.

If your sister is the type of person who will make out with my best friend and then say he tried to molest her without her consent or approval.. THEN YES! I am not the type of F***ING PERSON YOU WANT YOUR SISTER TO GO WITH!
My apologies. I had to let that out..
I am a very loving and caring person. I am the type of person who would go out of his way to save a grasshopper from certain death he could. I can be VERY trusting and extremely trustworthy. But i'm also sensitive to lies. I pick them up without even trying. I don't just realize it. I feel it. I felt that she was lying to me but I also knew that Aaron was known for being an an excellent liar.. It was a battle between my heart and mind. I was confused and just wanted to believe Krie but that feeling I had was holding me back. I knew something was wrong. I found out what truely happened in the end. There were lies. But i'm over it.
And friend.. To be honest. You would be damned lucky if your sister had someone like me. Ask Krie..

 

[SoyLeche]

If your sister is the type of person who will make out with my best friend and then say he tried to molest her without her consent or approval.. THEN YES! I am not the type of F***ING PERSON YOU WANT YOUR SISTER TO GO WITH!
My apologies. I had to let that out..
I am a very loving and caring person. I am the type of person who would go out of his way to save a grasshopper from certain death he could. I can be VERY trusting and extremely trustworthy. But i'm also sensitive to lies. I pick them up without even trying. I don't just realize it. I feel it. I felt that she was lying to me but I also knew that Aaron was known for being an an excellent liar.. It was a battle between my heart and mind. I was confused and just wanted to believe Krie but that feeling I had was holding me back. I knew something was wrong. I found out what truely happened in the end. There were lies. But i'm over it.
And friend.. To be honest. You would be damned lucky if your sister had someone like me. Ask Krie..

Listen, I heard one side of the story and was giving advice. I'm sorry if it hurts your ego, but I'm much more concerned about Krie getting into what appeared (from her description) to be a very bad situation - again. I'd give her the same advice again. From what she has said, and what you have now said, this relationship has trainwreck written all over it - but that's probably just me.

 

[Bastion]

Listen, I heard one side of the story and was giving advice. I'm sorry if it hurts your ego, but I'm much more concerned about Krie getting into what appeared (from her description) to be a very bad situation - again. I'd give her the same advice again. From what she has said, and what you have now said, this relationship has trainwreck written all over it - but that's probably just me.

I am going to try my best to make her and I work. I believe I can do it. I love her with everything I am. If I didn't I think I would have given up on her after she hurt me. The situation was Aaron's doing but she is just as much at fault as he because she didn't back off. She went with it instead. I am just a little angered that she would do this and then go off into forums and tell everyone this. I hope I did not offend you. I am just stressed and upset. Forgive me SoyLeche. Take care.

 

[jewscout]

I am going to try my best to make her and I work. I believe I can do it. I love her with everything I am. If I didn't I think I would have given up on her after she hurt me. The situation was Aaron's doing but she is just as much at fault as he because she didn't back off. She went with it instead. I am just a little angered that she would do this and then go off into forums and tell everyone this. I hope I did not offend you. I am just stressed and upset. Forgive me SoyLeche. Take care.

Bastion you can not fix this all alone it WILL take both of you to rebuild trust and create a healthy relationship.
take it from someone who knows, if both of you aren't willing to do the hard work you will not be able to have a truely happy and healthy relationship.

 

[Cerrax]

If your sister is the type of person who will make out with my best friend and then say he tried to molest her without her consent or approval.. THEN YES! I am not the type of F***ING PERSON YOU WANT YOUR SISTER TO GO WITH!
My apologies. I had to let that out..
I am a very loving and caring person. I am the type of person who would go out of his way to save a grasshopper from certain death he could. I can be VERY trusting and extremely trustworthy. But i'm also sensitive to lies. I pick them up without even trying. I don't just realize it. I feel it. I felt that she was lying to me but I also knew that Aaron was known for being an an excellent liar.. It was a battle between my heart and mind. I was confused and just wanted to believe Krie but that feeling I had was holding me back. I knew something was wrong. I found out what truely happened in the end. There were lies. But i'm over it.
And friend.. To be honest. You would be damned lucky if your sister had someone like me. Ask Krie..

You know what I find about people who say "I'm such a good person"? They're not. Especially that last statement. Your ego preceeds you "Mr. Nice Guy". I'm glad you're over it. God forbid you have a moment of self doubt. You've got a lot to learn about relationships pal. I fear the worst for Krie.
1) If you don't trust her enough that she has to lie just so you can "get over it" then you're not ready for this relationship.
2) If you need a psychic to help you, you've got bigger issues than this relationship. Love always comes from the heart, not third party.
3) If your ego could take the back seat for two seconds, maybe you could try to get down off your pedastal and take a real look at the situation
4) I can tell just by the way you talk that you are not ready for someone like Krie. I don't know if you ever will. So stop leading her on.

Krie: Get rid of this guy. I can already see what's going to happen (and I am in no way psychic, but I have been around the block before and I know people like him) Find someone who's willing to understand you, not make you grovel everytime you make a mistake.

 

[Mike182]

You know what I find about people who say "I'm such a good person"? They're not. Especially that last statement. Your ego preceeds you "Mr. Nice Guy". I'm glad you're over it. God forbid you have a moment of self doubt. You've got a lot to learn about relationships pal. I fear the worst for Krie.

out of line!

1) If you don't trust her enough that she has to lie just so you can "get over it" then you're not ready for this relationship.

erm, did you miss their description of what was going through their minds? maybe you should read the whole thread again....

2) If you need a psychic to help you, you've got bigger issues than this relationship. Love always comes from the heart, not third party.

and when you are so confused all you can think to do is ask a psychic..... yes, sorry, i see what you mean, it's the worst thing someone could possible do :banghead3

3) If your ego could take the back seat for two seconds, maybe you could try to get down off your pedastal and take a real look at the situation

out of line.... again

4) I can tell just by the way you talk that you are not ready for someone like Krie. I don't know if you ever will. So stop leading her on.

your third personal and out of line comment.....

Krie: Get rid of this guy. I can already see what's going to happen (and I am in no way psychic, but I have been around the block before and I know people like him)

people like what? care to elaborate????

Find someone who's willing to understand you, not make you grovel everytime you make a mistake.

i don't think anyone said anything about making someone grovel..... go back and read the whole thread again

it sounds to me like their was fear, and bad decisions were made because of it - please, concider this a learning experience and move on together

 

[Cerrax]

out of line!

Its just an opinion. I don't think he is ready to know what love is yet.

erm, did you miss their description of what was going through their minds? maybe you should read the whole thread again....

I read it. Krie said that she made the confession up just so he could have some consolation. She never wanted to say that she wanted to cheat, because she didn't!

and when you are so confused all you can think to do is ask a psychic..... yes, sorry, i see what you mean, it's the worst thing someone could possible do :banghead3

Thank you.

out of line.... again

Maybe I am a little out of hand, but people who place themselves above others irk me to no end. And that's what he is doing. "Krie screwed up, so I have to fix her" That's sick.

your third personal and out of line comment.....

See above.

people like what? care to elaborate????

See above.

i don't think anyone said anything about making someone grovel..... go back and read the whole thread again

He's making her apologize for something she didn't do. Sounds awfully unfair to me.