SoliDeoGloria
Active Member
I don't expect to get answers right now. I come to you a desparate man. I am experiencing more pain than I know how to deal with right now. This is coming from someone who vainly assumed that the worst he would have to deal with is four years of prison.
This has been an unbelievably hard year for me. Late last year my wife decided to go to school, which I didn't have a problem with. After getting laid off at one factory, I took a graveyard shift job at another factory for the money to support us. For part of the year, I was doing sidework ( masonary ) to help out. Last spring my wife decided to get a part time job against my wishes at a restaurant. She also started to make friends at school of questionable character. One of which had a porn website and was a married "swinger". About a month and a half ago she started telling me that she was tired of being married, while swearing that it had nothing to do with me, and spending the night at "friend's" houses and drinking. She also had gone out of state a couple of times this year to spend time with friends.
One night, about four weeks ago, I had gotten up to use the bathroom, and I heard our home phone ringing at 2 in the morning. I decided to answer it and was hung up on. I decided to check out my wife's cell phone out of suspicion and saw that there was 5 missed calls and voice mails betweeen the hours of 1 am and 2 am. I called the number and was answered by a female. I asked her if she had been calling and she told me no. I asked her who else was in the house and she wouldn't answer me. I apologised for calling so late and listened to the voice messages to my despair. The owner of the restaurant's brother was having an affair with my wife. Anger that I have never known boiled in me and I called the number again and demanded that the lady put the man on the phone. Her husband answered thew phone and told me that he would come over and I told him to be sure to bring his brother and asked him if he wanted to listen to the voice messages on my wife's cell phone. He hung up on me and never showed up. I then woke my wife up and told her that her boyfriend was coming over. I asked her if she wanted me to leave or if she was going to leave and she told me that she would leave. The kids stayed with me. After about 2 weeks and another trip out of state for her. She decided to tell me that she wanted to try to work it out. I forgave her and we started seeing a pastor once a week. She had revealed to me that her spending the night at "friend's" houses was actually her spending the night at the man's house and she stayed working there until she eventually gave them her two week's notice and eventually stopped working there. I have done more crying in the last two months than I ever have and still cry. I took out a loan so that she wouldn't have to worry about money despite that fact that I work lots of 12 hour days and weekends. We even got matching tattoo's last weekend.
Tonight, she told me that the only reason she has tried to work it out is because feels bad for hurting me so bad and that she can't do it any more and decided to leave once again. So, here I sit, about as lonely as it gets and reaching out to anywhere desparately. I hope that I can make it through but doubt my endurance to. She wants me to have the house and the kids and not fuss with child support. While I would love nothing more than to get answers and for everything to be alright, I have given up on the idea that I will get any and just barely hope for the strength to make it through, if nothing else than for the kids.
Sincerely,
SoliDeoGloria
James
This has been an unbelievably hard year for me. Late last year my wife decided to go to school, which I didn't have a problem with. After getting laid off at one factory, I took a graveyard shift job at another factory for the money to support us. For part of the year, I was doing sidework ( masonary ) to help out. Last spring my wife decided to get a part time job against my wishes at a restaurant. She also started to make friends at school of questionable character. One of which had a porn website and was a married "swinger". About a month and a half ago she started telling me that she was tired of being married, while swearing that it had nothing to do with me, and spending the night at "friend's" houses and drinking. She also had gone out of state a couple of times this year to spend time with friends.
One night, about four weeks ago, I had gotten up to use the bathroom, and I heard our home phone ringing at 2 in the morning. I decided to answer it and was hung up on. I decided to check out my wife's cell phone out of suspicion and saw that there was 5 missed calls and voice mails betweeen the hours of 1 am and 2 am. I called the number and was answered by a female. I asked her if she had been calling and she told me no. I asked her who else was in the house and she wouldn't answer me. I apologised for calling so late and listened to the voice messages to my despair. The owner of the restaurant's brother was having an affair with my wife. Anger that I have never known boiled in me and I called the number again and demanded that the lady put the man on the phone. Her husband answered thew phone and told me that he would come over and I told him to be sure to bring his brother and asked him if he wanted to listen to the voice messages on my wife's cell phone. He hung up on me and never showed up. I then woke my wife up and told her that her boyfriend was coming over. I asked her if she wanted me to leave or if she was going to leave and she told me that she would leave. The kids stayed with me. After about 2 weeks and another trip out of state for her. She decided to tell me that she wanted to try to work it out. I forgave her and we started seeing a pastor once a week. She had revealed to me that her spending the night at "friend's" houses was actually her spending the night at the man's house and she stayed working there until she eventually gave them her two week's notice and eventually stopped working there. I have done more crying in the last two months than I ever have and still cry. I took out a loan so that she wouldn't have to worry about money despite that fact that I work lots of 12 hour days and weekends. We even got matching tattoo's last weekend.
Tonight, she told me that the only reason she has tried to work it out is because feels bad for hurting me so bad and that she can't do it any more and decided to leave once again. So, here I sit, about as lonely as it gets and reaching out to anywhere desparately. I hope that I can make it through but doubt my endurance to. She wants me to have the house and the kids and not fuss with child support. While I would love nothing more than to get answers and for everything to be alright, I have given up on the idea that I will get any and just barely hope for the strength to make it through, if nothing else than for the kids.
Sincerely,
SoliDeoGloria
James
