Mr Spinkles
Mr
Buttons, I'm so sorry for you and your family. You'll be in my thoughts....
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Mr Spinkles
Mr
I don't expect this to make it easier for you, but someday, when someone cuts you off in traffic or gives you a nasty look at the grocery, you might consider that, like most everyone, they too have had to say goodbye to one parent or both, or they will have to eventually.
zenzero
Its only a Label
Friend Buttons,
It is understood what your mind is going through.
This is the most difficult part in each one's life even the thought a losing a close ones.
Your family and you have all the love, prayers, thoughts and support to overcome the situation.
Best Wishes.
Love & rgds
It is understood what your mind is going through.
This is the most difficult part in each one's life even the thought a losing a close ones.
Your family and you have all the love, prayers, thoughts and support to overcome the situation.
Best Wishes.
Love & rgds
no_spoon
Member
Buttons, you and your family are in my prayers.
My mother passed away suddenly in 2007, but her mind had been going for a few years before that. The combination of her relatively good physical health (for early 80s) and the difficulty in dealing with someone whose mind and emotions were out of control (combined with how much I loved her and wanted to help) made for a very painful period. Something made me make an extra trip to the nursing home the night before she had a stroke in her sleep. We had a chat, I watched her eat her dinner, I kissed her good-bye, she smiled and I never saw her conscious again. She had passed away the next evening.
So yes, I do think I might understand what you are feeling. My only advice would be to do what your heart tells you to do, ask for help from others (which you have done), and realize that some things cannot be changed no matter how hard you try.
May God bless you and your loved one!
My mother passed away suddenly in 2007, but her mind had been going for a few years before that. The combination of her relatively good physical health (for early 80s) and the difficulty in dealing with someone whose mind and emotions were out of control (combined with how much I loved her and wanted to help) made for a very painful period. Something made me make an extra trip to the nursing home the night before she had a stroke in her sleep. We had a chat, I watched her eat her dinner, I kissed her good-bye, she smiled and I never saw her conscious again. She had passed away the next evening.
So yes, I do think I might understand what you are feeling. My only advice would be to do what your heart tells you to do, ask for help from others (which you have done), and realize that some things cannot be changed no matter how hard you try.
May God bless you and your loved one!
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Zephyr
Moved on
For what it's worth, your parents will never really die so long as you're there. Not sure how much that helps, but even when you're old and sitting on the couch petting your robocat, your parents will still live on in your blood.
That said, I hope everything turns out alright, because "losing" loved ones is never easy.
That said, I hope everything turns out alright, because "losing" loved ones is never easy.
Buttons*
Glass half Panda'd
The thing is, I didn't find out from my parent who's sick, I found out from my brother. My brother doesn't know anything except that my parent has liver psoriosis - yet my parent keeps drinking heavily.
So, the situation depends on my parent, and how much this person will continue in this habit.
Everything is uncertain. The parent refuses to tell anyone anything about it because my parent doesn't want us to be concerned. My parent doesn't know I know anything.
zenzero
Its only a Label
Friend Buttons,
Have a cousin who has similar conditions of the liver due to heavy drinking.
He knows it too.
Since he knows it himself we cannot force anything on him except to bring out the responsibilities he has towards his wife and children.
Death is inevitable only the circumstances appears different for everyone besides living life to its fullest is important.
As life is only HERE-NOW.
Best Wishes.
Love & rgds
Have a cousin who has similar conditions of the liver due to heavy drinking.
He knows it too.
Since he knows it himself we cannot force anything on him except to bring out the responsibilities he has towards his wife and children.
Death is inevitable only the circumstances appears different for everyone besides living life to its fullest is important.
As life is only HERE-NOW.
Best Wishes.
Love & rgds
kadzbiz
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The minds of people are so complex. We hold things back from others for so many various reasons, rightly or wrongly. It's like watching a stupid soap opera and yelling at the characters on the screen, "Gees, would you just tell them that...." so that everything can be sorted between everyone.
I don't know the answer Buttons. Do as your heart tells you I think. Maybe you should just approach your parents about it, maybe you shouldn't. Let sleeping dogs like maybe, I don't know. Weigh up the options of doing either.
I don't know the answer Buttons. Do as your heart tells you I think. Maybe you should just approach your parents about it, maybe you shouldn't. Let sleeping dogs like maybe, I don't know. Weigh up the options of doing either.
idea
Question Everything
The thing is, I didn't find out from my parent who's sick, I found out from my brother. My brother doesn't know anything except that my parent has liver psoriosis - yet my parent keeps drinking heavily.
So, the situation depends on my parent, and how much this person will continue in this habit.
My parent doesn't know I know anything.
Most of us feel that others will not tolerate emotional honesty and communication. We would rather defend our dishonesty on the grounds that it might hurt others; and, having rationalized our phoniness into nobility, we settle for superficial relationships. John Powell
Luke 8:17 For nothing is secret, that shall not be made manifest; neither any thing hid, that shall not be known
1 Corinthians 13:12 For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.
Around the corner I have a friend,
In this great city that has no end;
Yet days go by, and weeks rush on,
And before I know it, a year is gone,
And I never see my old friends face,
For Life is a swift and terrible race.
He knows I like him just as well
As in the days when I rang his bell
And he rang mine.
We were younger then,
And now we are busy, tired men:
Tired with playing a foolish game,
Tired with trying to make a name.
To-morrow, I say, I will call on Jim,
Just to show that Im thinking of him.
But to-morrow comesand to-morrow goes,
And the distance between us grows and grows.
Around the corner!yet miles away
Heres a telegram, sir,
Jim died to-day.And thats what we get, and deserve in the end:
Around the corner, a vanished friend - Charles Hanson Towne
The saddest words of tongue or pen
are these four words
It might have been!
but...
At the precipice we change
Now may be the best time erase regrets, have honest communication...
Buttons*
Glass half Panda'd
Yeah, I know it's STUPIDLY complicated. I wish I could talk to my parent about it, but there would just be denial. It's ok, I've calmed down a little bit.
Thank you for all your kindness. My parent isn't in the hospital or anything, but there's not that much time left, I feel. Our family isn't the most honest one ever, most of us aren't Christian, and those that are, are not very good Christians. Anyway, I think my parent doesn't want me to worry or know. It's best that way. I wouldn't be able to finish school and I have more respect for this parent, even if they drink.
My parents are divorced, and one of them is militantly hateful of the other, so it's not like I can confide in the healthy one. I hope this brings my brothers closer together, and I'm going to cherish the time that I have to talk with the one who is sick.
Your kind words have helped me see more perspective. Thank you.
rageoftyrael
Veritas
we care buttons, we really do. Cause you are a great person, even if we don't always agree.
Wandered Off
Sporadic Driveby Member
Wishing you strength.
idea
Question Everything
I think most people are not really open and honest... (there is a lot more to honesty than just not steadling from the local grocery). None of us in this life really see one another face to face, it is a frustrating thing. Part of heaven will be gaining knowledge of who we all really are.
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prayers!
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DallasApple
Depends Upon My Mood..
Im sorry and Im praying for you and your parents Buttons.
Sometimes its a matter of realizing and letting go of attempt to control.Sometimes its beyond our control.Actually mostly it is..
Try not to harbor any resentment and just love the time you have ..Engage with your parents and be there "with" them..
Make memories..Make good memories .
Love
Dallas
Sometimes its a matter of realizing and letting go of attempt to control.Sometimes its beyond our control.Actually mostly it is..
Try not to harbor any resentment and just love the time you have ..Engage with your parents and be there "with" them..
Make memories..Make good memories .
Love
Dallas
My prayers are with your parents and you Buttons...