I think I might be straight

[Antibush5]

Why is that so depressing?

 

[Engyo]

I have no clue why that might depress you...............

Of course, you can always call yourself bi and have the best of both worlds.

 

[sandandfoam]

Why is that so depressing?

Because it'll no longer be assumed that you are a man of taste and culture?

 

[Dezzie]

I don't understand why it would depress you either. If that is what you are... well... why be upset about it? Is there something you don't like about the opposite sex that would make you be depressed? Like Engyo said, you could be BI... But... why do you feel depressed about it though? I'm curious.

 

[Antibush5]

I don't understand why it would depress you either. If that is what you are... well... why be upset about it? Is there something you don't like about the opposite sex that would make you be depressed? Like Engyo said, you could be BI... But... why do you feel depressed about it though? I'm curious.

It depresses me, because I just can't imagine another kind of life, its strange, I can see a woman as anything more then a friend, but they are the only thing that really arouse me, I can only really love men, but they don't arouse me (well maybe incidentally).

 

[angellous_evangellous]

Why is that so depressing?

Because you're a chick.

 

[Daniel09]

I encountered something similar. I was totally thinking I was gay, and then got in bed with a guy. Nothing happened, I couldn't enjoy it.

 

[Twig pentagram]

Why is that so depressing?

If you THINK you might be straight than you're not straight. I KNOW I'm straight, and I'm proud of it.

 

[Dezzie]

It depresses me, because I just can't imagine another kind of life, its strange, I can see a woman as anything more then a friend, but they are the only thing that really arouse me, I can only really love men, but they don't arouse me (well maybe incidentally).

Hmmm... Well this makes a lot more sense. This is a hard thing for me to try and make better for you because I have never personally dealt with it but... I can try? First off, what does love mean to you? If you feel that you could only love a man in that way, but not get aroused by them, it doesn't have to mean you are straight in the way of love. If you think that love is only intercourse, you're wrong.

Huh... what if you found a woman that was tomboy-ish? Is that still a problem to you? What do you like more about a man than you do a woman? Do you not like a girly girl, the attitude of a woman, or what?

 

[Dezzie]

Also... have you ever actually tried anything with a man? Or have you looked at a man in a picture and not gotten aroused?

 

[Antibush5]

Hmmm... Well this makes a lot more sense. This is a hard thing for me to try and make better for you because I have never personally dealt with it but... I can try? First off, what does love mean to you? If you feel that you could only love a man in that way, but not get aroused by them, it doesn't have to mean you are straight in the way of love. If you think that love is only intercourse, you're wrong.

Huh... what if you found a woman that was tomboy-ish? Is that still a problem to you? What do you like more about a man than you do a woman? Do you not like a girly girl, the attitude of a woman, or what?

Love? Now that is complicated, love is wanting to be with a person, its like a crush but so much more. I can't really think of a way to discribe it. Some of my best friends have been tom-boyish girls, they have only ever been friends, no love. I like men more, because I don't know, they can be strong I guess, sometimes they can be feminine, I mean I can get that with women, but it doesn't feel the same. I've not been aroused by pics of guys a load of times, I've also tried things with men, gotten aroused a load of times (finishing is another matter).

 

[LuisDantas]

Why is that so depressing?

Just a hunch (of course), but maybe you are scared because you realized that your self-image was inacurate. Let it pass.

 

[Dezzie]

Love? Now that is complicated, love is wanting to be with a person, its like a crush but so much more. I can't really think of a way to discribe it. Some of my best friends have been tom-boyish girls, they have only ever been friends, no love. I like men more, because I don't know, they can be strong I guess, sometimes they can be feminine, I mean I can get that with women, but it doesn't feel the same. I've not been aroused by pics of guys a load of times, I've also tried things with men, gotten aroused a load of times (finishing is another matter).

Okay... so why do you "think" you are straight? Because sometimes you have a problem getting aroused or "finishing"? I know some guys that have a hard time finishing as well but that doesn't mean they are gay or straight. Seriously... If you are happiest with men, so be it. Be with a man. Make sure you are with one that understands you too cause that makes things better.

 

[Smoke]

Assuming that this is not a joke thread, if you're sexually attracted to women and only to women, you're straight. So you need to work out your issues with women if you want to have a healthy relationship.

Lots of straight people have trouble relating to the opposite sex. It doesn't mean they're not straight. It's just something that tends to go along with the curse of heterosexuality.

 

[DallasApple]

Assuming that this is not a joke thread, if you're sexually attracted to women and only to women, you're straight. So you need to work out your issues with women if you want to have a healthy relationship.

Lots of straight people have trouble relating to the opposite sex. It doesn't mean they're not straight. It's just something that tends to go along with the curse of heterosexuality.

I agree with this..I can totally see how much more easily I could "love a woman" than a man..(my husband LOL)..Ya know just like "snap" that easy ..But I need sausage

as I've said a "side salad" is one thing..But sexually I want a man..So I just try to fgure out how to love the man..

Love

Dallas

 

[Rainbow Mage]

Why is that so depressing?

Because it's not true. I am also gay, so let me give you some advice. There have been times I have thought I might be bi because of curiosity about attempting a relationship with women, or because I can enjoy a fantasy with a woman if a man is also involved. I know though like you said, that you can only ever see women as friends. That's how it is for me. I'm never looking at a woman in a sexual way, but when I see guys, something immediately clicks inside me. Sometimes society can pressure gay people to the point they feel confused about their sexuality, but a person's sexuality can't change, and if you are straight, you were never gay to begin with. It sounds like to me you might be bi, honestly.

 

[Antibush5]

Because it's not true. I am also gay, so let me give you some advice. There have been times I have thought I might be bi because of curiosity about attempting a relationship with women, or because I can enjoy a fantasy with a woman if a man is also involved. I know though like you said, that you can only ever see women as friends. That's how it is for me. I'm never looking at a woman in a sexual way, but when I see guys, something immediately clicks inside me. Sometimes society can pressure gay people to the point they feel confused about their sexuality, but a person's sexuality can't change, and if you are straight, you were never gay to begin with. It sounds like to me you might be bi, honestly.

Thanks for the good advice (all of you) but bi does make sense, just not biloveable.

 

[Panda]

It's ok AB we love you no matter what your sexuality

 

[Reverend Rick]

It's ok AB we love you no matter what your sexuality

True Dat. Cut yourself some slack and don't worry about labels.

 

[Midnight Pete]

Why is that so depressing?

Maybe because you like the idea of being gay. I dunno.