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I want a Christian wedding but my parents...

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Truth_Faith13

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Vintagegold said:
Is cutting off communication a mature or adult thing to do? or will it just cause my mom to see me more as a child?
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No its a mature thing to do - because you are keeping control of the situation. Keep getting into arguments with her is the childish thing to do.. in reality. Having said that - the way your mum is sounding, whatever you do she wont be happy, but if you cut the communication you dont stress yourself out by listening to her ranting on all the time and spoiling your big day! Seriously put your foot down. If she trully loves you and wants the best for you, she will come to her senses - if she doesnt then I wouldnt want her in my life at all!
 
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Vintagegold

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It's been a while since I last posted and things have not gone so well.

Today I tried to sit down reasonably with my family and explain to them why I want a Christian wedding and why it's important to acknowledge our beliefs. But then THEY proclaimed that I was being arrogant, selfish, bigoted, and who knows what else, I can't remember. All because I don't really want to have an additional Jain ceremony. I was told that I was being disrespectful to the great majority of my nonChristian family, who won't be able to understand or relate to the Christian wedding I want, but at the same time I feel like having an additional Jain ceremony is "giving in" to my parents wishes.

I have spent the last hour or so just crying because I feel like no matter what I do, the people I love and care about will hate me regardless. If it's not my family, then it will be my fiance. If it's not him, it will be my family. Either way, I really lose don't I? Maybe I should give my fiance back his ring because apparently (being told by the leader of the women's ministry at my church after I couldn't get a hold of the pastor personally) my "fiance deserves someone so much better than you who actually cares about him, instead of trying to be respectful towards everyone else." All along with the look down the nose and the rolling of eyes.

And before anyone gives me advice to ignore my parents or to tell them to shut up, or to tell me "it's life, you're an adult, blah blah"--- knowing that a good majority of my family will not show up really hurts. I cannot even describe how I even feel right now and NO I am NOT going to dismiss it.

I feel like either way, this wedding is not really "mine" because I'm not being a "good Christian" and thinking of others, or I'm being a "traitor Christian" by trying to incorporate some of my parents beliefs while still having the Christian wedding my fiance and I want. I feel like everything that I want to do is just WRONG. I feel like if I have things completely MY way, when it comes time for the reception and only 10 people from my side show up, I should know it was my fault anyway.

I know right now I must sound extremely immature but you know...it's hard to realize noone else out there can relate. I really do feel alone right now.

I don't even know what I'm saying anymore.
 
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