If you listen to the internet, monogamy is dead.

[osgart]

Sure i fell in love a couple of times but i always wanted it to work out. I wanted that once in a lifetime one girl forever deal.

Have people lost the capacity to fall in love in a deep and profound way?

True love is to be admired, and is inspiring. And it seems the whole world has toasted off on it as an unrealistic practice.

Am i wrong?

I still know many people that are in love. But are they becoming the minority?

And does anybody like the movie Princess Bride.

What world is this?

 

[Father Heathen]

"The internet" is a rather broad brush, wouldn't you say? Could you be more specific?

 

[osgart]

"The internet" is a rather broad brush, wouldn't you say? Could you be more specific?

Google and youtube have not one good thing to say about it. Big Think and some TED talks all seem to be saying that monogamy is a relic.

 

[Jumi]

Google and youtube have not one good thing to say about it. Big Think and some TED talks all seem to be saying that monogamy is a relic.

Well who cares what they think? Some people are monogamous and others wouldn't be monogamous even if you forced them to. It's always been this way.

 

[lewisnotmiller]

I'm monogamous. I'm also a relic. I'm fine with that.

 

[dawny0826]

Google and youtube have not one good thing to say about it. Big Think and some TED talks all seem to be saying that monogamy is a relic.

I think that monogamy is partly attributed to how we're wired and partly to the choices we make. Our choices can be influenced by a vast variety of factors at any given time. Our natural inclinations can change and evolve.

I'm naturally monogamous, but, haven't always chosen to remain in monogamous relationships. There are a lot of people who aren't into monogamy, but, do have deeply meaningful relationships.

I've been monogamous to partners in the past without being deeply in love.

I'm fortunate to have found a monogamous partner that I love deeply.

This is totally subjective.

 

[Shushersbedamned]

Nothing has changed.

 

[Deeje]

Have people lost the capacity to fall in love in a deep and profound way?

Its about that word "LOVE" again. The love of love songs isn't about "agape"...its about "eros" (romantic or sexual love).
Compared to the deeper and more profound meanings of love in the Bible, "eros" doesn't even rate a mention in the NT, yet that is the only kind of love people seem to think there is in today's world...its all about the sex, not the about the more important aspects of the relationship.

So it stands to reason that if we chose our life partner based solely on sexual compatibility, then once the rosy glow has worn off...what is left?

The Bible's recommendation is the best....base your choices on everything but the sex. That way you can recognize true compatibility. If you base your choice on shared interests, similar outlook and goals in life, there is much greater scope for choosing the right partner....for life. The sex will take care of itself after the commitment of marriage.....contrary to popular belief.....it's not the most important thing.

True love is to be admired, and is inspiring. And it seems the whole world has toasted off on it as an unrealistic practice.

We live in a 'throw away' society....if something is broken or damaged, you toss it and get a new one....

Children today are very fortunate if they are raised in a household where they are related to both parents. How sad! What a terrible role model for today's and coming generations. This is now "normal". But blended families don't always blend....

Am i wrong?

Sadly, no.

I still know many people that are in love. But are they becoming the minority?

Sadly yes!

My marriage lasted nearly 45 years and I loved my man more the day he died than I did when I married him.

And does anybody like the movie Princess Bride.

Who doesn't love The Princess Bride...?

Its my all time favorite movie.

What world is this?

One created by the one who forgot what love is.....(1 John 5:19)

He stopped loving God and tried to get everyone else to do that too.

 

[Sunstone]

@osgart,

First, the notion monogamy is dead is one that the first time I know of it's being popular was right after the Bolshevik Revolution in 1920s Russia. By some accounts, everyone believed for at least a year or two that it was hopelessly dead. Second, I used to notice Time Magazine would run cover story proclaiming or suggesting it was dead about every seven to ten years, so I think it's nothing new to be hearing the idea on the internet.

Second, it will never really die unless we do as a species. It's in our blood, in our genes. Almost everyone sooner or later instinctively "pair bonds" which is a behavior that usually, but not always, takes the specific from of monogamy.

Last, I think you are completely mistaken to think that love, true love, profound love, or whatever you want to call it, necessarily has anything at all to do with monogamy or with the duration of any relationship. The greatest, most renewing, life affirming, and influential loves -- the loves you will think as clearly well above all others by the end of your life -- those can be as fleeting as only a few weeks or months until something happens to end them, such as someone must leave town.

In the same way, the most shallow, superficial, but enduring emotional dependencies are not only what so many people think and swear are "true love", but what so many people fight most fiercely to sustain, because they are, in effect, merely addicted to their partners.

By the way, I'm pretty sure you won't believe me. No one ever does - until they themselves have been around the block a couple times, because as Will Rogers once observed, direct, personal experience is the only way most of can learn anything. Just so we both know that.

 

[Estro Felino]

There are movies promoting romance between two people...
and there are movies about people who sleep with cats and dogs.

In equal proportion...I guess

 

[joe1776]

I don't think monogamy is dead. I think the idea that monogamy is the only moral choice is dying and that's a good thing..

I chose monogamy but if a different relationship works for those involved, and harms no one, it's fine with me.

 

[Stanyon]

If you listen to some people on the Internet (insert anything here)