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What? Me worry?
In certain part of the world, right now, some men could get engaged without having seen the girl personally.
Sure, I'm aware of that, but Kloth lists his location as USA.
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In certain part of the world, right now, some men could get engaged without having seen the girl personally.
Thats not surprising either.Sure, I'm aware of that, but Kloth lists his location as USA.
and if their reason was because you guys don't have the same religious beliefs, and that's the only reason why they don't give you their blessing.
would you still ask her to marry you, despite them refusing the blessing? even if she is still willing to marry you?
In Manila, even to these days, seeking the blessing (approvals) by parents and relatives is seen as virtueous. Seeking the advises of celibate priests and bishops on marriage and family concerns are encouraged.and if their reason was because you guys don't have the same religious beliefs, and that's the only reason why they don't give you their blessing.
would you still ask her to marry you, despite them refusing the blessing? even if she is still willing to marry you?
In Manila, even to these days, seeking the blessing (approvals) by parents and relatives is seen as virtueous. Seeking the advises of celibate priests and bishops on marriage and family concerns are encouraged.
How is seeking the advice of someone that is celibate on marriage even useful?
hey, thanks for answering that...:clap, its not an anti-catholic question, its a reality. I should know, i live in manila.I know this is a trope, often an anti-Catholic one, but having a counselor of some sort whether they be religious or otherwise, celibate or not, is actually a good thing. Pre-marital counseling whether secular or religious (the Catholic Pre-Cana is pretty in depth actually and isn't just Catholic teaching 101) is advisable for a lot of people.
And it's not like a relationship counselor is going to tell you (or should) whether they're happily married before they work with you. It's more about having an unbiased outside party to talk to. For a lot of our history, those most likely to fill that role in the Western world were priests and other clergy. Also, they're usually free.
Anyway tl;dr: Can be totally useful.
I know this is a trope, often an anti-Catholic one, but having a counselor of some sort whether they be religious or otherwise, celibate or not, is actually a good thing. Pre-marital counseling whether secular or religious (the Catholic Pre-Cana is pretty in depth actually and isn't just Catholic teaching 101) is advisable for a lot of people.
I never said it wasn't a good thing, but taking advice from someone who has pledged to never have sex or get married give me advice on marriage and relationships sounds incredibly counter-productive. P.S. I wasn't being anti-Catholic, just wondering how someone who has never been married has any qualifications on giving marital advice.
I didn't say that you were being anti-Catholic, just noted that the comment is often made in an anti-Catholic context.
But a drug and alcohol counselor may never have been addicted to anything, a sexual abuse counselor need not have been abused, a relationship counselor could be completely celibate and asexual. My mom is monogamous, but that doesn't mean she can't provide polyamorous me with good advice sometimes. They're trained as counselors. For a long time clergy was the only ones trained as counselors, now a days, we have completely secular options but there are still good and bad counselors among the licensed population as there are priests, pastors, nuns, etc. who will provide good and bad counsel. It is in fact taught to those in the profession of counseling that you shouldn't bring your personal experience into the discussion because it isn't therapeutic for your client to hear your junk, you're really just doing it for you.
So if you're asking a friend for advice, maybe you're asking the person who has "been there." But most of the time you really just need someone outside the situation to help you sort things out without the emotional attachment you have to things.
Again tl;dr, not inherently counter-productive by professional or personal standards.
Nymphs said:Since when was clergy trained in relationships? From my experience, many of them have not had any training in those areas, so my statement still stands. I just feel like people who are actually trained in these things should be help, but that's just my opinion.
Well a Catholic priest is unlikely to tell an agnostically atheistic person what she would like to hear, but that doesn't make their advice untrained.
That still doesn't answer my question. How is the clergy trained to answer these types of questions?
Id say that a person can be very insightful into the workings of relationships without being in one or having had many. There are plenty of people who have had many relationships and are still awful at them.
Time spent in relationships =/= understanding of and insight into relationships, and time not spent in relationships =/= lack of understanding of and insight into relationships.
So you'd be happy taking your car to a mechanic who has never even had a driver's license?
Most mechanic can drive a vehicleI think the analogy would be more like not taking driving lessons from said mechanic. He may know how and why a car works but maybe not how to move it safely from point A to point B.