I'm gay!

[Stormygale]

I am NOT gay.
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However, I have many acquaintances who are. We use to hang out in the clubs(gay and straight) as a way of me accepting their lifestyle. I understood them to a certain extent, until they began to think that because I 'hung around them', that I accepted and wanted to partake...sorry.
I had to tell them I was not batting on the other team, nor ever would be. Friendships disolved from that. It's complicated to say the least how homosexual and heterosexual live and mingle.
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If my daughter came and told me she was homosexual, I would put a few lumps on her head and ask her what she was thinking.

 

[Jaymes]

Probably the same thing I do... "Wow, she looks hot!"

 

[SarahBeara]

I'm only 17, so I'd be shocked that a non-existent child could be gay, but I'd accept them all the same.

 

[Ormiston]

I'd be sad because I know life is hard enough. At least I wouldn't have to worry about all them boys though! Ahhhhh...a bright side. :jiggy:

 

[standing_on_one_foot]

I would just have to learn to accept it...I think it wouldn't be to hard...I don't have anything against homosexuality...it's people who get a sex change that bother me...So, ok! You have a different sexuality ...that doesn't mean that you should go and destroy what mother nature gave you.

And...transpeople who are gay (that is, who are attracted to people of the biologically opposite sex) don't bother you, then? It's not all internalized homophobia, don'tchaknow. Your sexuality is what sex you're attracted to, gender identity is what you feel you are. Different, though the two are interlinked.

 

[Prima]

Okay, for those who haven't heard it, here's my story. And NetDoc, that was hilarious. Glad you got to the bottom of it, though!



For over a year, I'd been terrified of my parents finding out that I'm bisexual. Deleting computer history, hiding things, etc...but I was trying to, uh, train them for when I did come out, so I was dropping what I thought were teeny tiny hints (obviously, my stance on gay marriage; founding a tolerance club for race/gender/culture/sexual orientation; things like that...) I thought they might as well get used to having a gay-sympathizer daughter first, and then it wouldn't be so terribly out of the blue. Well, one day when I went to the shrink's, my mom said that she wanted to go up, too. I was like "Oh, crap, she's upset about my medicine, blah blah blah..." But we got up there, and sat down. She says that she wants to tell me something, and I'm a little nervous, but hey, I can deal. So she goes "Well, it's been rather obvious to your father and I that you're experimenting with different sexual orientations, and, well, I thought I should tell you, because you were getting a little silly about it"

That was the only time in my life my jaw dropped and I was totally speechless. I just stared at her, completely dumbfounded. She knew, she was cool with it, she told me she knew...I truly looked like a beached fish. I squeakily said "You knew?" And she gives me that look and goes, "Of course."

And, by the way, I found my jaw three floors down in a fishtank. So all was well.


:biglaugh:

 

[Scuba Pete]

My daughter was truly surprised that I would frequent her website. Bwahahaha!

 

[Jaymes]

Hehe... at first I told my mom I was bi, and she didn't like it but didn't bug me about it. I felt kind of guilty for lying to her about it, and after a few months I just printed out a pamplet from PFLAG (Parents and Friends of Lesbians And Gays) talking about acceptance and all but threw it at her as I got out of the car for school that morning.

I was nervous all day during school, and hesitant to get online after school because we both have AIM. Eventually I got on, and the convo went something along the lines of this:

Her: Why did you give me this?
Me: Because I wanted you to read it.
Her: Why?
Me: Because I'm lesbian.
Her: How's that different from being bi?

Something about that just killed me and I burst out laughing my butt off, and somehow managed to type that it meant I didn't like guys. She just kind of shrugged and went back to what she was doing.

It always amuses me to think of it.

 

[ayani]

Jensa- :biglaugh:

i'd be fine with it. my own coming out was kind of awkward and resulted in many irritating "but are you sure? are you sure? i don't think you are, i'm sorry" speeches from my mother. sorry, but projecting your own wishes on your kid doesn't work!

 

[Pussyfoot Mouse]

Well I must admit, I would be very surprised. Long story short....

My six year old's teacher called me into the classroom to discuss her concern with my son's recess activity. The little girls line up at recess and take turns kissing him. She has told him that this isn't acceptable behaviour at school, but somehow they continue to play "The Kissing Game". She never catches them, but she has been told it continues. Could I please have a talk with him.

{{{sigh}}}, what's a Mom to do? :tsk:

BTW, Dad is very proud! :woohoo:

 

[Original Freak]

Story, kind of on topic.

When me and my now wife, then girlfriend, found out she was pregnant we called both our parents and told them we were coming home that weekend (we lived 2 hours away going to college) and we wanted to talk to them. So basically my parents stewed for 3 days wondering what was going on. We sat them down and told them she was pregnant and the baby was due a couple months after I graduated. My mom was extatic and jumpy, my Dad sat there and smiled. After things calmed down and it sunk in my I ask my Dad (an old school military fellow) how he felt. He said "Alright, I thought you were going to tell me you were gay." Uhmmm, thanks Dad.

 

[rainbowchristianqld]

If he were to remain celibate, though, and confide in an attraction for boys to me, then it would make no difference to our relationship at all.

Celibacy Is a GIFT, Not a Choice!

And to add to that:

Homosexuality is a GIFT, Not a Choice!

Christianity is a GIFT, AND a Choice!

The struggles that come with being gay (among other challenges) create strong people and often very Godly people..

It has been proven that forcing someone to be celibate or forcing a gay person to be straight is extremely mentally damaging. You should accept them for who/what they are without question "THEY'RE YOU'RE CHILDEREN".

Obviously from my comments above, If I had Kids, their sexuality wouldn't faze me - I would be happy as a parent that they feel close/comfortable enough to be that open with me. Three of the hardest words in the world to say (out loud) is "I am gay".

My daughter is bisexual. She would never tell me, but I have seen the pictures on the internet. I love her the same. If she ever feels that she can tell me: cool. If not, then I still love her just the same.

My Dad asked me, and even saying the word "Yes" was hard that day... But did it in the end, sortof... and it was Fine. (have read the rest of your posts, and you did Very well, GBU).

Some people forget that Coming Out is nearly as hard for the Parents as it is for the one coming out... I don't know what my Mum went through when she went to talk to her friends about me, but I can't imagine it was easy (though she did find out that one of her workmates Dad's was gay... Guess that helps with the "Oh No, No Grandchilderen" thought).

To be honest, I'd rather they're bisexual. I just think it's an advantage in life

I originally told my parents that I was Bisexual, though the Day long talk that I had with my Mum on the subject made me realize that I was actually gay...
Bisexual (I think) would be more difficult, because more people see it as "Sexually confused" than a "Sexuality"..
I Personally beleive that it is possible to be bisexual, though I've found that the opinion towards Bisexual Men is more close minded than it is towards Gay Gay ones - (not the reason that I realized I was gay by the way).

Many will probably disagree with me, but that's what I've experienced.

God Bless You All

 

[FyreBrigidIce]

My children would know that I accept them for who they are. I would be extremely relieved that they do know they can come to me and tell me. If I had suspicions I would do as NetDoc did and calmly sit them down to let them know that they did not need to hide it from me.

I am also bisexual, so if I had not told them before the talk, then I would tell them when I do talk to them about their sexuality. Right now the only child that knows about me is my 17 year old stepdaughter. My other children are not old enough to understand what it means. When they are old enough to understand it, I will tell them. I just do not feel that 11, 7, and 5 are the ages for them to know.

My hubby knows that I am bisexual and is fine with it and accepts it because I am faithful to him. I also think that he would allow me to be who I am as long as it was with our one friend that we are so close to. One of the reasons he accepts this part of me is because before we met he did have a realtionship with 2 lesbians (friendship or whatever, I am not sure) and they taught him everything he knows now. I can not speak for him about what he would do if his other 2 daughters said they were lesbian or bisexual. I do know that he would love them no matter what. He is very open-minded about this issue but dads tend to act a little different when it's their little girl.

I just asked him, his exact words were, "I doubt it would be Brighie (Brighid, our 5 year old)." and "I don't know, I have not been faced with that yet." Then he shrugged his shoulders.

I just remembered something. My own parents do not even know that I am bisexual. (puts this on list of what to tell Mom when I call on Sunday)



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