Is homophobia natural for the heterosexual male?

[DallasApple]

I have thought about this too before..Things we all have in common as human beings..Male female young old....that disgust and repulse some of us..and not others.

Why do some people for instance faint at the sight of blood..While others can crack open someones chest and massage a heart to get it to beat again?

Love

Dallas

 

[KatNotKathy]

Do not feel guilty because you witnessed two
men acting in an immoral, unatural and abberant
way and felt repulsed.
If you said you were not repulsed by it then you
would have much to worry about concerning your-
self.

You are seriously the worst.

 

[*Anne*]

I get annoyed by graphic public displays of affection, regardless of orientation. Not hand holding or affectionate kisses, but making out.

I assume it's cultural. I've been brought up to believe certain behavior is best kept private, and that putting such behavior on display is not classy. I suppose if I saw it all the time, it wouldn't bug me anymore.

 

[bobhikes]

Everybody was read. I was trying to understand the shock that I got and why it happened. From your comments, like most of you I believe it was a natural responce that I have learned to modify in my normal state. Being not fully awake I was unable to alter the feelings.

It has me thinking about a lot of things differently today. I may need to try a few experiments with this to fully understand it.

 

[MissAlice]

Doesn't bother me but I grew up with a couple of family members that were gay. I don't get uncomfortable unless the displays of affection goes into french kissing and body grinding. I don't think this issue is so much a gay thing since I regularly have this reaction to straight couples. I remember one time I had to cover my niece's eyes when there was heterosexual couple touching each other in areas that I didn't think was necessary to be seen in public.

I don't know about guys and their homophobic tendencies though. I've often wondered what the big deal was myself. It seems like there's a bit of a double standard when the same guys who happily oogle at women who display affection toward each other react horribly when two guys do it. I remember asking one of my guy friends who was homophobic why he was into lesbian porn but hated gay people. He told me because it wasn't natural and that women had a good reason to switch their sexuality from men to women...

 

[Commoner]

Had a unique reaction that leads me to believe Homophobia in males may be as natural as a homosexual.

This morning after getting up needed milk for the kids. Got my first cup of coffee and left for the store. I am not my best until after breakfast. In the store I came upon two men wrapped in arms staring face to face. I actually felt ill and became mad.

This is unusual for me though I freely admit I do not like sexual displays in public, I do not normally get ill or mad. I would have to admit that I was not at my best of the day meaning my mind was not functioning up to par. Was this a heterosexual male natural reaction.

Thinking on it after breakfast and my second cup of coffee, I believe it is. I also believe if it was a man and woman I would not have had any reaction. Very much surprising to me.

Well, I don't know how - I sometimes just get mad at some people, especially in the morning. It might not have been a homophobic thing at all - as in, not related to their displays of affection. Sometimes a person's face reminds you of something, brings out some long forgotten stuff you're not even aware off. So unless this happens to you frequently, I wouldn't really worry about it.

 

[Storm]

Boy, I hate to say it, but I think racism & xenophobia in general are quite natural. Given the extent to which they pervade dang near every
society/group, how can it not be part of the human condition? It seems functional from an evolutionary biological viewpoint, but now that
we have these great big chess-club sized brains, we may choose to override this tendency. Perhaps we should each have no shame for who
we are, including our baser instincts, but have shame only for handling them poorly.

But what do I know? I might be just trying to justify my knuckle walking tendencies.

Little kids aren't racist until they're taught to be. That's social programming, not instinct.

 

[Rainbow Mage]

Had a unique reaction that leads me to believe Homophobia in males may be as natural as a homosexual.

This morning after getting up needed milk for the kids. Got my first cup of coffee and left for the store. I am not my best until after breakfast. In the store I came upon two men wrapped in arms staring face to face. I actually felt ill and became mad.

This is unusual for me though I freely admit I do not like sexual displays in public, I do not normally get ill or mad. I would have to admit that I was not at my best of the day meaning my mind was not functioning up to par. Was this a heterosexual male natural reaction.

Thinking on it after breakfast and my second cup of coffee, I believe it is. I also believe if it was a man and woman I would not have had any reaction. Very much surprising to me.

I will firstly state, I also discourage public sexual displays. That being said- why should it bother you for two men to embrace in public? Men and women do it all the time. I went to Wal Mart the other day and saw a man kissing all over a woman and her neck and shoulders. That made me sick, but I didn't get mad.

 

[Revoltingest]

Little kids aren't racist until they're taught to be. That's social programming, not instinct.

I can agree with that. But still, the fact that xenophobia emerges in so many disparate cultures suggests to me that there is an
innate capacity for &/or tendency to it. By analogy, the capacity for language is within us genetically, but its expression is learned.

To overcome or avoid xenophobia is another ability we have.

 

[Storm]

I can agree with that. But still, the fact that xenophobia emerges in so many disparate cultures suggests to me that there is an
innate capacity for &/or tendency to it. By analogy, the capacity for language is within us genetically, but its expression is learned.

To overcome or avoid xenophobia is another ability we have.

I didn't say xenophobia, I said racism.

 

[Revoltingest]

I didn't say xenophobia, I said racism.

I was being lazy, & including racism within the more general trait of xenophobia.

 

[MissAlice]

I use to be actually quite fascinated by foreigners. Made me fathom would it would it be like in a place anywhere but here. As for strangers, I was taught even as a child to always trust them.

Wasn't until my adult years I encountered xenophobia by other foreigners on the internetz and the kind of strangers that like to cause trouble >_<

 

[Revoltingest]

As for strangers, I was taught even as a child to always trust them.

Hmmm.....I can see a down side to that.

 

[MissAlice]

Was a great way to get free candy as well the opportunity to help passers-by find their lost puppies.

 

[DallasApple]

Was a great way to get free candy as well the opportunity to help passers-by find their lost puppies.

Also another benefit is you probably got lots of rides home from school instead of having to walk.

Love

Dallas

 

[MissAlice]

Also another benefit is you probably got lots of rides home from school insted of having to walk.

Love

Dallas

Yes indeed.

 

[Mr Cheese]

I think so...

I NEVER want to listen to barbera streisand in the morning

 

[RomCat]

Is hetrophobia natural for the homosexual?

 

[*Anne*]

No, I think that's a learned behavior.

 

[Paigey]

Homophobia isn't "natural" for anyone.. I believe that serious homophobic heterosexuals (usually males) are probably suppressing their true sexuality and they might actually be homosexual. I'm not saying the original poster is homosexual, though it could be a possibility.