Is it okay to beat the heck out of my autism brother?

[Shadow Wolf]

John has Aspergers and just a little bit of autism.

Asperger's is a form of high-functioning autism.

 

[SomeRandom]

Hitting someone who is autistic is undoubtedly wrong. The way they process outside information is often different than "normal" people. They don't understand why they would be hit, all they know is that they're in pain and they don't like it.
If your parents hit him then he would think that hitting people is normal. I can understand restraining him during a violent episode for safety reasons I could even see shoving him as a way to defend yourself if you think he's going to seriously injure you. But beating someone who is autistic is quite unethical, IMO.
Seek out professional advice.

 

[Riders]

They also have the support groups for autistic children as well you as a family member can go get information.

 

[jeager106]

I'd LOVE to slap the snot out of my significant other's 41 year old daughter when she "acts out".
Acting out is repeatedly spitting in her BLIND mother's face.
I have to stop her from that without slapping the dog doo out of her.
When I look menacing she "gets it".
She is 10 fries shy of a Happy Meal so I must make allowances for that.
But not much!
Sickening is the mentally ill daughters 71 year old "boy" friend.
The one with a huge collection of porno flicks who apparently has strange sex acts with her.
Ain't a thing anyone can do about that either.
The mentally ill daughter brags about these things despite my aversion to hearing it.
ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.

 

[Shia Islam]

I have a younger autism brother.
This year he is turning 15.
Almost everyday he turned violent.
He threw things, try to beat my mom, and he even try to smash furnitures and TV.
I got angry and I started to hit him.
But my dad prohibited it. Only my parents are allowed to hit him.

My dad has done almost everything to cure him.
My parents said that if they grow old or passed away, it's my responsibility for taking care of him. But I don't wanna.

What would you do if you have an autism brother and you can't create a good life and future?

I'm still in high school now. I'm planning to move far away from him when I'm already finished high school.

I'm afraid if I stayed with him any longer, I can't make any friends later in college and mess up my future.

What do you guys think?
Is it okay to beat the **** of him or is it better to just leave him alone?
I'm so struggling right now

Our destiny in life is determined by many things..

Including those who are near to us…and our close relatives in particular…

You have two goals that you need to achieve, and to maintain a balance between them:

1. You have a responsibility toward your brother. If you can help him, you have to fulfill your responsibility..
   
   Your responsibility is related to your ability to help him..
   
   So you can't just dissociate from your brother and forget about your responsibility toward him.
   
   
2. Sometimes in these situations you can expect no good to come toward you from his side…He may only bring problems toward you.. So you may choose to keep a distance from him.. but to a degree. As you are obliged to do whatever you can to help in relation to his situation.
   

At a preset, you are lucky to have your parents taking care of him. So unless your involvement is helping in dealing with the situation, you may be able to reduce your contact with him…

Finally, remember that everyone has his personal problems. So do not let this problem to spoil your life.

Good Luck.

 

[Ana.J]

I think physical violence will not help him recover be it from your parents or you. He is what is and there is no way to change that. Accept him and try to show a little bit of compassion.

 

[Hockeycowboy]

I have a younger autism brother.
This year he is turning 15.
Almost everyday he turned violent.
He threw things, try to beat my mom, and he even try to smash furnitures and TV.
I got angry and I started to hit him.
But my dad prohibited it. Only my parents are allowed to hit him.

My dad has done almost everything to cure him.
My parents said that if they grow old or passed away, it's my responsibility for taking care of him. But I don't wanna.

What would you do if you have an autism brother and you can't create a good life and future?

I'm still in high school now. I'm planning to move far away from him when I'm already finished high school.

I'm afraid if I stayed with him any longer, I can't make any friends later in college and mess up my future.

What do you guys think?
Is it okay to beat the **** of him or is it better to just leave him alone?
I'm so struggling right now

Your "younger" brother is 15.....then are you old enough to leave? I'd leave. Go stay with some friends, if need be. You need a break! You have no authority, but your parents do......they should get him medicated. Violence is not acceptable, especially hitting your Mama! Discipline, is acceptable, on their end!

I'd go off (and hit him back), too. I had to protect my Mama from my step-dad, growing up. So I understand where you're coming from. But really, it never settled anything; it may have stopped for a while, but would be worse next time. So both of us leaving was the best choice in the end.

Best wishes for you.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

You need a break! You have no authority, but your parents do......they should get him medicated.

They don't make medications for autistic people. To treat things like anxiety and depression that may come with it, but autism itself is treated with behavioral and cognitive therapy.