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What other motives are alternatives? Money? Not so good. Revenge? Hatred? Fear? Because Mommy and Daddy think you should marry the other person?
Is it wise to marry exclusively or even predominantly for love? Why or why not?
Aren't all goals good in the eyes of the beholder?Definitely not. Especially since most of us are so bad at differentiating love from infatuation (or even lust sometimes). When the honeymoon period is over, what really keeps the wheels of a marriage going are common goals and values (particularly good goals and values).
When I was one and twentyIs it wise to marry exclusively or even predominantly for love? Why or why not?
How about compatible life goals, values, talents, and interests, to name a few things?
What most people call romantic love dries up after about two or so years. If your relationship isn't founded on much more than giddy feelings then it's no surprise when your relationship falls apart.Is it wise to marry exclusively or even predominantly for love? Why or why not?
Short, sweet, and to the point.No, it should be both love and like.
What most people call romantic love dries up after about two or so years. If your relationship isn't founded on much more than giddy feelings then it's no surprise when your relationship falls apart.
I'm speaking of infatuation, which is a well understood and ultimately short-lived neurochemical process. It's this infatuation that our culture conflates with love (an emotional bond created by long term attachment) and to frame relationships based on it is chasing an emotional illusion that does not last. She can never find "the one" because she's chasing a lie.Now I'm feeling a little left out. I've had those giddy feelings for the same woman for almost 45 years. I don't see them going away any time soon, but I'll let you know if I hit that dry spell you speak of.
I'm speaking of infatuation, which is a well understood and ultimately short-lived neurochemical process. It's this infatuation that our culture conflates with love (an emotional bond created by long term attachment) and to frame relationships based on it is chasing an emotional illusion that does not last. She can never find "the one" because she's chasing a lie.
An effortless, purely emotional love as all the pop ballads and soap films would have it, simply does not exist. Not in the long term anyway.
No doubt you're attached to your wife. I'm not denying the existence of long term emotional attachment.I'll have to take your word for it. How long have you been in love, btw?
Is it wise to marry exclusively or even predominantly for love? Why or why not?
I think those elements are very useful but don't suffice. An essential component is a very strong, spiritual and physical attraction.How about compatible life goals, values, talents, and interests, to name a few things?
I'll second that.No, it should be both love and like.
Aren't all goals good in the eyes of the beholder?
Here is a picture from the movie "Bonnie and Clyde"
Love is much more than giddy feelings, though.What most people call romantic love dries up after about two or so years. If your relationship isn't founded on much more than giddy feelings then it's no surprise when your relationship falls apart.
My wife and I did not have much in common from that perspective. We do have a similar outlook about money and a great deal of tolerance for the other one doing something that interests the other person.How about compatible life goals, values, talents, and interests, to name a few things?
Infatuation passes soon enough.Love is much more than giddy feelings, though.