So would a young woman that chooses not to wear hijab be considered something along the lines of an apostate, something worse than a non-Muslim not wearing hijab, just because her parents are Muslims? Does it affect how much choice she has in the matter in a Muslim society to be born to Muslim parents, de jure or de facto?
I think the hijab is more cultural than some let on....
We have a large Muslim population locally, many of whom are of Bosnian descent. Typically, Bosnian Muslims don't wear the hijab. It doesn't mean they can't, and that none do, its just not very often that you see it from them. The actual verse in the Qur'an regarding the issue of women's dress is this:
And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their private parts; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their
khimār over their breasts and not display their beauty except to their husband, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments.
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Quran 24:31
As to what it means and how its carried out is kind of open ended. The ahadith come into play as to how a woman(or man) may decide to dress, but as we can see, many different Muslims carry it out in many different ways.
As to Muslims bothering over what non-Muslims do, here is an interesting verse:
42.6. As for those who take for themselves others besides God for guardians and confidants (to whom they entrust their affairs, thereby associating partners with Him): God is ever watchful over them (preserving a record of their deeds). You are not a guardian over them (responsible for their conduct).
To me, this kinda seems like Allah is telling people to mind their own....
This verse as well seems to me that Allah is asking his followers not to be cruel to unbelievers...
45.14. Tell those who believe that they should pardon those who do not hope for the coming of the Days of God (when He will make them understand what their unbelief means), seeing that He will recompense people for what they have earned.