Hello. Welcome to the discussion.
I’m not going to address all of your comments, but I will answer your questions and hopefully clear up a few misconceptions you have about the beliefs and practices of the LDS Church.
Second, I don't believe in "revelation" so therefore the "god stuff" rather makes me sick. I don't expect anything any different from those of your faith; I just wish it would die a natural death.
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints claims to be the Restoration of the original Church of Jesus Christ and that it is built on the foundation of Apostles and Prophets who receive direct revelation from the Lord Jesus Christ.
I am only pointing this out to warn you that none of our beliefs and practices are independent from the concept of God and the idea of living revelation.
If you define homosexuality by behavior (i.e. I'm only "gay" if I engage in "gay sex" but I'm not "gay" in your book if I refrain from gay sex), then so be it.
That is exactly how we view this issue.
However, if you define "gay" by "attraction" (i.e. I am "gay" because I experience stirrings in my loins that is stimulated by members of my same gender), then I hold you and your religion to be completely in the wrong.
We do not believe that someone who suffers from same-sex attraction is a “homosexual” until they act on that attraction and perform sexual acts with someone of the same sex.
We don’t even like labelling people as “gay”, “lesbian” or “homosexual”.
We don’t believe that anyone should be defined by their sexual orientation. We are all the sum of our parts.
We do not; and can not; change our sexual arousals.
Even though everyone handles this situation differently, we do believe that through the Atonement of the Lord Jesus Christ all people can eventually change their nature.
Some faithful members have overcome their same-sex attraction and have entered into the covenant of marriage with their spouse of the opposite sex.
Not every story is a success story, but we do believe it is possible. It all depends on the person.
If your "ban" includes non-practicing homosexual, then I would state that you hold yourself opposed to the teachings of Christ; who, according to the teachings, dined with thieves, said to a harlot "your faith has saved you, go and sin no more"; and spent most of his time with "sinners", showing them compassion and rebuking the religious leaders of his day. So, if I say to you, "I am gay but I refrain from that temptation" and yet you reject me; then you stand opposed to the very teachings and example of the one whom you claim to follow. In this latter case, any who would proscribe to the underlined statement above, is an hypocrite.
We generally agree with what you have shared here, however I still feel the need to clarify a couple things.
First, we do not consider the new practice of not baptizing the children of same-sex couples, until they are eighteen years old, as a “ban”.
Everyone is invited to come and worship with us on the Sabbath Day and to attend our activities throughout the week.
Second, we would not consider someone who abstains from indulging in their same-sex attraction as “gay” or “homosexual”. We generally discourage the use of such labels.
Lastly, even if you claimed to be a fully practicing “gay” individual, you would still be invited to attend our Sabbath Day services and weekly activities.
No one is “banned” from worshipping the Lord Jesus Christ with us.
Second, my other concern is how this attitude of banning "gays" affects the democratic process. If you hold me to your religious standards, then that will influence how you feel I should be treated in everyday life; how secular law should view me, my behavior and my union with a life partner (should I have one). Therein lies my concern: Does your "ban" end at the doors of your church; or does it continue to the workplace, the courts, the voting booths, etc?
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints has been very clear on the principle that men are free to choose for themselves what to do in this life. The LDS Church has fought for equal employment, housing and other opportunities for those who label themselves homosexual.
Leaders of the LDS Church have counseled members to follow the example of the Savior and to treat everyone with love, compassion and respect.
That being said, we still retain the right to live and act according to the dictates of our own conscience. If someone feels that they cannot offer a service to a same-sex couple for religious reasons, we respect their decision and believe that forcing someone to operate against their heart-felt religious belief is contrary to the freedom of religion outlined in the U.S. Constitution.
I may personally disagree with that person’s belief, but I don’t feel that I or anyone else has the right to force their hand.
Does one hold the "right", in your opinion, to dismiss me from employment because I am gay (without displaying inappropriate behaviors there; simply being gay)?
No. That would violate the law.
Should I have the right for my union to be recognized by the laws that govern the land (not your church)?
Yes, you have that right.
Even though the leaders of the LDS Church disagree with the U.S. Supreme Court’s decision in regards to “same-sex marriage”, they have officially acknowledged that the decision has been made.
Should my consensual sexual behavior, conducted in private, with a consensual adult, be criminalized; and should I be "punished" or "cured" or "both" for doing so?
If no one’s personal liberties have been violated then there has been no criminal behavior.
You should not be punished for deciding to engage in consensual homosexual behavior.
However, if anyone who has engaged in homosexual behavior feels the need to repent and change their ways, they can be comforted and healed by the Lord Jesus Christ.
We believe that it is possible to overcome same-sex attraction.