Judging a book by its cover

[Unveiled Artist]

When it comings to dating and serious relationships, I don't like judging a book by its cover. Then, I think, there has to be some rational behind this phrase. I talked with a woman a couple of years ago. We had a good conversation; but, not to in-depth. She got in touch with me just recently by the same site I met her at. I never met her in person given the distance; so, this was on phone. She's in the same state.

I do look at physical attraction as part of a person as a whole. I try not to separate the heart of a person from their body because that is who they are, every part of them. I'm wondering if I should return contact with her. From the "pictures" I am 121lbs and she seems almost 200lbs. Intimacy would be more difficult than someone around my weight and height.

While I shouldn't judge a book by its cover, when you are really intimate with someone within a serious relationship, wouldn't you take all things into consideration if you decide to be more than friends?

Think about it, though. You have all these people who hate gays but the they say "it's not the looks that counts its whats in the heart." If that be the case, then it wouldn't matter what gender they are with, as long as it's "in the heart" they should be alright, right? I think not. At least not to me.

I don't want to fool her and I do want to get to know her. I just don't want to do what people probably do with me, look at me and say "I wont get to know her because she looks this way or looks younger than her age or whatever"

What ye think?

 

[RedDragon94]

I don't like judging a book by its cover.

I wish I was more like you.

You have all these people who hate gays but the they say "it's not the looks that counts its whats in the heart."

Isn't that something? They flip flop on issues. I agree with the phrase you quoted and I think that shows they don't know what to think about love. Love is a fickle. To some people I think it's defined a duty to reproduce. But is that what love is? Idk.

While I shouldn't judge a book by its cover, when you are really intimate with someone within a serious relationship, wouldn't you take all things into consideration if you decide to be more than friends?

That's never happened to me. I've wanted to be more than just friends with some people but it just doesn't work out for me. As a matter of fact I've given up on romance. Until someone shows me that I'm lovable the way I am, nah. Romance to me is like Christianity to the Atheist.

I don't want to fool her and I do want to get to know her. I just don't want to do what people probably do with me, look at me and say "I wont get to know her because she looks this way or looks younger than her age or whatever"

Do you like her?

 

[Unveiled Artist]

Until someone shows me that I'm lovable the way I am, nah. Romance to me is like Christianity to the Atheist.

Aww. That's a sad comparison. How did my friend say, "love comes when you're not looking for it"....umm....

Do you like her?

Actually, I don't know. Last time we talked we really didn't have much to say. She takes care of her nieces so she doesn't go out of the house a lot. I grown up with a single mother who always looked at the guys before she asked what they type of books they read on their free time. I dont want to send the wrong impressions...

and listen to me, talking like Ima teenager.

 

[RedDragon94]

Aww. That's a sad comparison. How did my friend say, "love comes when you're not looking for it"....umm....

Yeah, I guess I'm waiting to be taken off guard... Which sounds like rape *cringes*.

Actually, I don't know. Last time we talked we really didn't have much to say. She takes care of her nieces so she doesn't go out of the house a lot. I grown up with a single mother who always looked at the guys before she asked what they type of books they read on their free time. I dont want to send the wrong impressions...

How long have you known her?

 

[Unveiled Artist]

Yeah, I guess I'm waiting to be taken off guard... Which sounds like rape *cringes*.

How long have you known her?

Ha. No more than a couple of months four or so years ago.

 

[RedDragon94]

Ha. No more than a couple of months four or so years ago.

You can't just tell her how you feel?

 

[Unveiled Artist]

You can't just tell her how you feel?

I could. I kind of thing that is a immoral reason to not date someone, though. Then you think of personalities to. If two people have conflicting personalities and even religions, then the cover of books tend to matter after awhile. But I dont know much about her personality to really judge. I mean, isn't it realistic to somewhat look at looks when thinking of who you want to get to know more than friends?

 

[RedDragon94]

I mean, isn't it realistic to somewhat look at looks when thinking of who you want to get to know more than friends?

Yeah, attraction is important. I think it should be second at least when you look for a mate. Personality should be first though.

 

[Unveiled Artist]

Yeah, attraction is important. I think it should be second at least when you look for a mate. Personality should be first though.

Yeah. True. She lives about two hours from me; so, hope if become friends, we can meet some time.

 

[Unveiled Artist]

Yeah, attraction is important. I think it should be second at least when you look for a mate. Personality should be first though.

Was looking at her profile again. She doesn't care for repeating herself (which I have seizures, so that's a given), she smokes (I cant be around smoke), she lives two hours from me, and I barely talked with her..well, got to really know her.

I just hate ignoring people who contact me, ya know?

 

[Kilgore Trout]

Our society has confused so many people with it's mixed and inconsistent messages. The truth is that wanting to be with someone you find physically/sexually attractive isn't "shallow" or some kind of moral weakness. It's a natural, and important, component of our desire for relationships/intimacy. If you like someone, but aren't attracted to them, it's fine to just be friends. It doesn't make you a bad or deficient person.

 

[RedDragon94]

Was looking at her profile again. She doesn't care for repeating herself (which I have seizures, so that's a given), she smokes (I cant be around smoke), she lives two hours from me, and I barely talked with her..well, got to really know her.

I just hate ignoring people who contact me, ya know?

I understand what you mean. It's rude to not respond to someone who reaches out to you, but when that person does it's hard to keep your romantic thoughts from messing with you. Especially if they're attractive.

 

[Palehorse]

When it comings to dating and serious relationships, I don't like judging a book by its cover. Then, I think, there has to be some rational behind this phrase. I talked with a woman a couple of years ago. We had a good conversation; but, not to in-depth. She got in touch with me just recently by the same site I met her at. I never met her in person given the distance; so, this was on phone. She's in the same state.

I do look at physical attraction as part of a person as a whole. I try not to separate the heart of a person from their body because that is who they are, every part of them. I'm wondering if I should return contact with her. From the "pictures" I am 121lbs and she seems almost 200lbs. Intimacy would be more difficult than someone around my weight and height.

While I shouldn't judge a book by its cover, when you are really intimate with someone within a serious relationship, wouldn't you take all things into consideration if you decide to be more than friends?

Think about it, though. You have all these people who hate gays but the they say "it's not the looks that counts its whats in the heart." If that be the case, then it wouldn't matter what gender they are with, as long as it's "in the heart" they should be alright, right? I think not. At least not to me.

I don't want to fool her and I do want to get to know her. I just don't want to do what people probably do with me, look at me and say "I wont get to know her because she looks this way or looks younger than her age or whatever"

What ye think?

I always judge a book by it's cover. Espeacially scatch and sniff books, if the cover is old then I know the sticker smells have most likely been scratched like crazy and lost their aroma. But then, I am an artist.

 

[Unveiled Artist]

I always judge a book by it's cover. Espeacially scatch and sniff books, if the cover is old then I know the sticker smells have most likely been scratched like crazy and lost their aroma. But then, I am an artist.

Ooh, literally, I love old book smells. Though I like to buy them new and grow old with me thats cool.