Perhaps asking, "why do you want to know?" would clarify their intent.
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leaving a religious community
- Thread starter Eddi
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I wouldn't trust them to not lure me to a meeting under false pretencesPerhaps asking, "why do you want to know?" would clarify their intent.
If you find they do, it could be fun to tell them why you're leaving under equally false pretenses.
Just like maintaining personal responsibility; making the choice!
That's the beauty of being human, like adam, cain and abel to make a choice.
I left a UU church.
I think at first no one noticed, but we filled a huge niche(volunteered more than what was probably good for us), and when time wore on, it came to their attention. Unfortunately for them, others started leaving as well, so they put forth a committee(they loved to make committees) to figure out why. when we were called and asked why(by two different people), we were open and honest about our feelings, and why we departed. They expressed regret at the situation, invited us back, and we declined. They understood. we wished each other well.
Occasionally we see someone from that church while we're out and about. Most say hello, only one has snubbed us deliberately.
I also had a 'religious group' I didn't leave, but announced I would no longer take any leading in. I was pregnant, and I become nonfunctionally depressed when pregnant(hormones are hard on me). There was disappointment, and the group fell apart shortly after.
I think at first no one noticed, but we filled a huge niche(volunteered more than what was probably good for us), and when time wore on, it came to their attention. Unfortunately for them, others started leaving as well, so they put forth a committee(they loved to make committees) to figure out why. when we were called and asked why(by two different people), we were open and honest about our feelings, and why we departed. They expressed regret at the situation, invited us back, and we declined. They understood. we wished each other well.
Occasionally we see someone from that church while we're out and about. Most say hello, only one has snubbed us deliberately.
I also had a 'religious group' I didn't leave, but announced I would no longer take any leading in. I was pregnant, and I become nonfunctionally depressed when pregnant(hormones are hard on me). There was disappointment, and the group fell apart shortly after.
Yikes! I'm aghast.
I'm on a membership list but I'm not going to resign, am just going to let it lapse
Who said you had to do that? The government or your employer?
Heyo
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You have to understand that we have church taxes (for the two big churches, Catholic and Lutheran). Your employer (or rather accounting) has to know that they don't have to collect church tax from you.
Heyo
Veteran Member
It's a long story: Church tax - Wikipedia
I didn't know you used to belong to a church
I probably don't have any useful advice. The only time I meaningfully left a religious community was when I was very young and had been forced to go (until throwing enough tantrums) by my parents. When they finally realized Catholicism was an awful fit for me and let me stay home on Sundays with my non-Catholic parent, it was nothing but bliss. On the minus side, that was the beginning of a decade or so long period of being a piece of human trash towards theists and religious people, but... I got over that eventually. So... don't have that angsthiest phase, I guess?
Heyo
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My parents signed me up at my baptism. I was even active as a youth worker but I never believed in god.
There are three people in this thread who used to go to a Unitarian church!
I have never understood why there seems to be no Unitarian contingent on RF
Well, 4 now. My mom and I used to go to a UU church here when we were trying to find a religious community. We liked it and wanted to join but they never got back to us so we stopped going. They apparently didn't want us as members.
The Episcopal church here did the same to me, so I stopped going.
When I was a kid me and my mother went to an Anglican church
It was raining, totally pelting it down
We didn't have a car and loads of people who were there did, and were going the same direction as us
Not one of them thought to offer us a lift so we had to go back home by bus in the rain
What a load of hypocrits
We didn't go back
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Sand Dancer
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The first time I left an established church community not due to a move was that I was exploring other denominations. I told them that. The church ended up closing its doors (in a middle school) the next year. The rest of the churches were of short duration, so I just stopped going. The hardest was when I was considering becoming LDS. I was a week out from my baptism date and decided not to go through with it. Unfortunately, my neighbor's husband was one of the priests there and was doing my baptism. Sadly, I never heard from them again, even when they were moving away. That hurt. They seemed more interested in me when I was going to join their religion.
I'm sorry. I've been in a similar situation. A lot of so-called Christians are only that in name only. They give it a bad name.
I think a lot of people have
It was self-defeating too, if one of them had offered us a lift on that occasion they may have got new members
This parallels my Dad's story, when he was 10 years old, in the late 1920's. He and his sisters had to walk the 2 miles home, in pouring rain. He never went back, and was a lifelong atheist.
Heyo
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Did you ask? Or at least inform them about your situation?